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Old 06-01-2007, 06:52 PM   #1 (permalink)
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Unhappy It's a sad sad day.

The family and I are very saddened to have to let you all know that my attendance to the run for fu is impossible at this time. We're prayin for the HP's grace that things will change. We're on the verge of losing everything. As most of you know, the 17 yer old decided Dad's rules were too much for him and the court says that whomever he chooses, there he goes. Well, Laura and I got stuck for 600 clams a month-retroactive to November last year. We are worse than busted. Mertyl's a payment behind! Forgive me brothers, I am sorry.
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Old 06-01-2007, 08:27 PM   #2 (permalink)
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We will pray.............God will do for you what you cannot do for yourself.

Philippians 4:19.......... "Your God shall supply all your needs through His riches in glory by Christ Jesus."...........Jimmy, get that down in your spirit and mediatate on it.

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Old 06-01-2007, 09:16 PM   #3 (permalink)
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Prayers out for you Hammer, hang in there.
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Jimmy,

You were offering to come get me. Do I need to come get you? :andy:

I'm sorry about the troubles. Keep us posted, brother. You'll be in my prayers.
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Old 06-02-2007, 07:03 AM   #5 (permalink)
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That's awesome, but I have nothing, I go on Monday to talk with my lawyer (had to make a payment plan up with him even!), Everything (keeping the house, etc,), depends on that meeting. I am really fightin depression right now, I gotta suck it up and get tough. Everything I worked for in my life is flashin in front of me. Credits exhausted.
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Old 06-02-2007, 09:37 AM   #6 (permalink)
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Jimmy,

I can relate to depression and fear - I've "enjoyed" plenty of both these last three years - so what I share is based on my experience, and my experience is that God is good, God is awesome, and He didn't bring me this far just to drop me on my ass now. I may not like some of the changes taking place in my life, but I have reason to believe God will turn even the worst of these losses to good, somehow. He always has.

Because God is so faithful to those who seek Him, I also have reason to believe you and your family will likewise be cared for. It may involve surrender on your part, but with surrender comes peace, and the knowledge that God really is doing for us those things we can not do for ourselves.

I would ask you not to despair, just yet. Not of finding solutions to the crises you face. Not of attending the Run. Stranger things and greater miracles than these have happened.

In any way I can, I'm here for you, bro. Hang with us.
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I am really fightin depression right now, I gotta suck it up and get tough. Everything I worked for in my life is flashin in front of me. Credits exhausted.
Jimmy: First of all, I love you. You are a very important part of my recovery. I want to share with you my experience at being in exactly the same spot. I survived it by surrendering to it. I have survived it more than once...., so can you.
In Aug. 2005 I was living in Bowmanville Ontario, making big coin on a nuclear plant rebuild. I bought a new house, a new SRV for Bonnie, upgrade my Z71 from a 2000 to a 2003 and fronted the coin for Bonnie to start her own interior decorator business. I was also paying big support to my ex for my two children. In the third week of Aug. I got a suprise phone call saying the government cancelled the rebuild project and I was instantly out of work. I was led to believe I had another five years on the project. Wrong...I tried real hard to find another job, no luck. By Jan. 2006 I had spent all our savings trying to stay afloat. I also had a civil conversation with my ex and she let me cut my support in half. I couldn't afford all my medications, so I cut back on my depression medication. Through all this, I stuck to AA and increased my meetings. I had run out of options. I had stepped up to the plate & swung the bat as hard as I could. I surrendered. We sold the house, folded the business, sold Bonnie's SRV and moved home to Sault Ste. Marie. We had to move in with Bonnie's Mom, cause we couldn't even afford an apartment. I was down, but not out. I went to see the doctor and he kicked my butt about cutting back my medication. I started to come up mentally. I kicked my AA up another notch also. In May, Bonnie was offered a job in a new high end furniture and home decorating business, as their interior decorator. Two weeks later, I was offerred a management position in the tube mill. In July we bought a modest home. Bonnie and I have never been happier. God knew what was good for us, when we didn't. The life we were leading in Southern Ontario was not good for us, so God led us home. God certainly does do for us what we couldn't do for ourselves. All we need to do is suit up, show up, step up to the plate and swing, trusting Him with the results. Even when it feels like we are in a dark tunnel with no light, keep putting one foot in front of the other and trust....I am here for you my Brother, we all are.....
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Jimmy,
I hate to hear that you are troubled. It's good that you shared with us because that lessens the load on you my friend. We love you dearly!!!

Somewhere on this board I posted about almost losing everything, my home etc. I did lose my job. But I trusted the program and God to get me through it. I put my troubles in my "God Bag" and asked God to help me do the next right thing in my life and with the situations that were facing me and I asked him to "pick up the slack" and show me the right path to take. And, as I expected, He did!

It seems like things fall into place as they are supposed to when I trust God, keep my "street" clean and do the next right thing. I was able to keep my house by selling it to someone and now I'm paying them. After a year, we'll be able to re-finance and buy the house back. I went to many job interviews and now I work for a place that's really great. They appreciate me as a person as well as an employee; they allow me to bring my son to work when he's out of school and I don't have a sitter or something for him; they pay me pretty good too.

There was a period of time though, that I was in panic mode; I was depressed; I was angry. I did a lot of praying and listening and kept close to God. He got me through it and He'll get you through this as well.

We are all here for you my friend. It's too far away to say you can't come to Run For Life...who knows what God has in store for you!! Don't chalk it off just yet!!!

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Filed Bankruptcy today. Went to a meeting. I won't fold today, not today.
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Old 06-04-2007, 12:47 PM   #10 (permalink)
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Filed Bankruptcy today. Went to a meeting. I won't fold today, not today.

Now that's workin' a program!!! You go, my friend!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Keep us posted!!
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I love you all too..."wherever there are two or more gathered in My Name, there I will be also..."your prayers are felt, and in action. Alcohol, won't win, dope won't win, I have been there and done that, I know where it goes and that road; even if it is an option, has been opted out of today. Today, I give it to the God of Israel, that one true God that was marred more than any man. The God that, even though I spat on Him, even though I balk at His power and His sacrifice, the God that even though I pulled out His beard, and whipped the flesh from His bones, lowered His head and wept the the words; "Forgive them Father, they don't know what they are doing." That God; for me has all power I praise the day that I found him at the bottom of this life.
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Old 06-04-2007, 10:48 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Hammer you know it all happen for a reason we may mot know y now But one day we will find out y.
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Old 06-05-2007, 11:30 AM   #13 (permalink)
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Dave Mustaine (Popular speed metal guitarist) said it this way:

Somewhere there's a reason
Why things go like they do
Somewhere there's a reason
Why somethings just fall through
We don't always see them
For what they really are
But I know there's a reason,
Just can't see it from this far

Maybe I don't like it, but I have no choice
I know that somewhere, someone hears my voice

I thought I knew it all
I thought I had it made
How could it end this way?
I thought I knew

Somewhere there's a reason
Why things don't go my way
Somewhere there's a reason
That I cannot explain
Just like the change of season,
Just may not be my turn
But I know there's a reason,
The lesson's mine to learn
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I just want you to know...

That my prayers and the prayers of my DH are with you.....We are in Saginaw, where are you from brother?
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Thanks, Full, we are in Omaha, NE.

Also it appears my connection will be shut down soon. I will get on when I have a connection, not nearly as often.
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share this with me............toad

"When obstacles come in your way, face them with courage. They harden you and make you mentally tough. Suffering and misery are inescapable acts of the Cosmic drama. God does not decree these calamities, but man invites them by way of retribution for his evil deeds. This is the corrective punishment meted out by nature, which induces man to give up the wrong path. All this is part of the grand synthesis in which the negatives serve to glorify the positives. Thus, death glorifies immortality; ignorance glorifies wisdom; misery glorifies bliss; night glorifies dawn."



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The Bankruptcy will be filed the end of the month. We refused to stiff our generous and kind creditors, so we filed a Chapter 13-for those of you not familiar, a 13 is a reorganization of your debt and you make payments to your creditors. It's better than nothin. I aint a welcher, not even as a drunk. Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers.
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The Bankruptcy will be filed the end of the month. We refused to stiff our generous and kind creditors, so we filed a Chapter 13-for those of you not familiar, a 13 is a reorganization of your debt and you make payments to your creditors. It's better than nothin. I aint a welcher, not even as a drunk. Thanks for all your thoughts and prayers.
Did the same and for the same reasons but if a 7 was needed, I don't see an issue with it. Creditors lend money as a money making venture. Same as putting money into stocks. The 13 made me feel better but if I wasn't able to go with a 13, the 7 is a law of the land. The more important thing about all this... did I learn from it so it won't happen again?
I have zero creditcards and I now own my bike outright. Paid them off 100% last month.
The pit we dug does get filled in. I am almost at level ground and hope to be on solid level ground by years end. The solutions do work. Your on your way.
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I'm with ya Jimmy. God's got his hand on you. You are doing your part, now let God do the rest....
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You're a good man. Jimmy. Prayers up. Keep us posted as you can.
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Thanks for the update Jimmy. You and yours have been on my mind. I did a 7 years and years ago and a 13 about 6 years ago. Like Best, I've learned and now I have NO credit cards and my bike and car are paid for. I just have my utilities and mortgage. Funds are still tight, but that's okay. We have all we NEED, maybe not all we WANT!!

Prayers still with ya my brother!!
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It almost seems like I am just going on and on, but I thought you might like to know a few more of the recent developments, especially as they will effect my near future:

The MRI I had on Monday this week, came back with the news that I already felt in my gut. The vertebrae, (my 3rd Cervical, lovated in the neck). Is absolutely destroyed, and little or no disk is left. This causes that grinding sensation I hear when I turn my head. It cause me alot of pain, headaches and the sickness I have too, for a lot of reasons the Doc explained to me.

There's a lot of risk to this surgery, I really don't want to think about. Doc says there's tests to be run, we have to get it done, but he says it will be after the 24th of July. That's a bunch of waiting for a dude as nervous as I am right now.
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Jimmy, I know it's scary, but you have a lot of friends pulling for you and praying for you. Let us know what we can do to help. Blessings on you, brother.
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