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morpat · 08-21-2004, 08:36 PM

My son (20) is a recovering heroin addict - and had had a few slippages but seems to be clean for about 3 -5 months. He only went ot out patient, refuses to go to NA because he says there are drugs there (others have said same) but does go for counseling.

He had made a decision to move to NM to live with my brother and start a new life where he hopes to have his own business. He will be leaving behind GF that is also a recovering addict. Dating 8 months.

Her family is putting alot of pressure on him but he seems determine. I think this will be the best thing for him (people, places and things changing) but I worry that it is the last chance.

Is this the right move since he has motivation and goals? How can I be sure so I know how to support him?

MarkSichelCSW · 08-23-2004, 06:02 AM

Since your son has 3-5 months of making the right moves, I think you can continue to support his decision; I wish there was a way to be sure, but my impression is he's sincere about his recovery.

Royce · 08-23-2004, 08:08 AM

It sounds like he's on the right track, making good choices despite pressure. Theres never any certainties I guess, and its so hard to be a parent and worry so much about your child, no matter their age. Maybe just supporting the things he says and does that are healthy no matter where he is living???

morpat · 08-23-2004, 05:11 PM

I am supporting his choice and we will be driving down there together. It will be along 2000 miles!

08-21-2004, 08:36 PM	#1 (permalink)
morpat Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 14	Leaving The State My son (20) is a recovering heroin addict - and had had a few slippages but seems to be clean for about 3 -5 months. He only went ot out patient, refuses to go to NA because he says there are drugs there (others have said same) but does go for counseling. He had made a decision to move to NM to live with my brother and start a new life where he hopes to have his own business. He will be leaving behind GF that is also a recovering addict. Dating 8 months. Her family is putting alot of pressure on him but he seems determine. I think this will be the best thing for him (people, places and things changing) but I worry that it is the last chance. Is this the right move since he has motivation and goals? How can I be sure so I know how to support him?

08-23-2004, 06:02 AM	#2 (permalink)
MarkSichelCSW Addiction Expert Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: NY,NY Posts: 566	Since your son has 3-5 months of making the right moves, I think you can continue to support his decision; I wish there was a way to be sure, but my impression is he's sincere about his recovery. __________________ Mark Sichel, LCSW www.marksichel.com www.psybersquare.com

08-23-2004, 05:11 PM	#4 (permalink)
morpat Member Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: NJ Posts: 14	Thank You I am supporting his choice and we will be driving down there together. It will be along 2000 miles!

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08-23-2004, 08:08 AM	#3 (permalink)
Royce Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: St.Louis Missouri Posts: 3	It sounds like he's on the right track, making good choices despite pressure. Theres never any certainties I guess, and its so hard to be a parent and worry so much about your child, no matter their age. Maybe just supporting the things he says and does that are healthy no matter where he is living???

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