Looking for "LET ME FALL"

[caileesnana]

Welcome to SR. go to the "friends and family of substance abusers". There are lots of "us" there!

[MyJoey]

This should be moved, but I didn't know where to put it.
What Codependents Do

My name's Jane. I'm a codependent. And this is what codependents do.

You cannot nor will not change my behavior. You cannot make me treat myself better, let alone with any respect. All I care about, all I think about, is everyone else’s needs and how to go about fulfilling them. Within five minutes of meeting you, I will be offering you help.

My own feelings are so pushed down and numbed by my enabling that I have no empathy for myself.

My behavior cannot and will not change until I make a decision to stop enabling and then follow it up with a plan of action to practice acceptance, self-compassion and self-care.

And until I make that decision, I will help again and again and again.

Stop being surprised.

I am a codependent. And that's what codependents do.

[Muf]

I'm a mother of 2 addicts,I had to let go, that was so hard but I knew i had to do it,they both hit there bottom and are now clean and sober,there is so much they haft to learn,now that they are clean,lots of ups and downs,my oldest used for about 7 years,my youngest 10 years.They relapsed many times before the stayed clean
It take time to stay clean ,my youngest was in a recovery house for 1 year before he went on his own my oldest too he is now married with a little girl. So far so good for both
Muf

[Seamstress]

Okay, so now that I've stopped crying because it's my son who could have written this; I know what we must do. It KILLS me, but I will quit and let him fall. I'll worry and wonder every night, but if that's what it takes, i'll do it

[SerenityGirl]

(((Seamstress)) I know its extremely hard not to worry, I ask God frequently to look after my son, to keep him safe and I put him in God's hands That helps me to let go.