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12-14-2006, 12:18 PM
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| Member  Join Date: Dec 2006 Location: Stevens Point, WI
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| What goes on in their minds?
I am working on working on me. But I keep hitting the stumbling block of what about him. My guy is in jail for three months for stupid drunk stuff. We have no money, I am in school with three little kids (the youngest just turned one). We have no christmas tree, no presents, no diapers (I have a call into the salvation army to help with that). He drank Novembers house payment before he left, and no money to pay Decembers. He once again is sorry, tears and all. He says he misses us, and this is the last time. He looks so good when I go visit him-no drugs, booze or cigs for a couple weeks will do that to you. My problem is I want to take this time to decide what to do about letting him back home. I need him for financial support right now. Not that hes a big help in jail. I also have a hard time letting go of him. But to start dealing with all this, I need to know from someone who has been there-WHAT GOES ON IN HIS MIND WHILE HE IS DRINKING ALL THE MONEY, DISSAPPEARING FOR DAYS ON END, AND HURTING US WITH HIS ANGRIES? I have never been a drinker-little pot here and there, but no real urges to do it all the time. I cant understand the I love my family, I get mad at them, so I will drink all the money, dissapear and then be sorry. Someone who has been the alcoholic-please let me know-does he love us? What might he be thinking. Is he sorry he got in trouble, or might he be sorry he hurt us? Lori |
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12-14-2006, 12:45 PM
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| To Life!  Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Rhode Island
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Hi, sisterray, And welcome to SR!  Mark will be here to answer your concerns. In the meantime, why not go over to friends and family of alcoholics forum? And here's a post from the original owner of this site. Jon may help you make sense of all this mess your in. http://www.soberrecovery.com/forums/...ddicts-do.html Read it; then, stop being surprised.  I hope to see you here often as we both grow in our recovery.  Shalom!
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12-15-2006, 11:24 AM
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| Addiction Expert Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: NY,NY
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I think you have to go from working on working about you to working on you...you need to go to Al Anon and work on yourself as no one will ever know what your guy is thinking and you need to take care of you.
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