mecanix

Desire,
You've got to want this, you've got to be willing to make sacrifices .

Decision,
You need to be willing to do anything to achieve your goal and actively pursue it and learn as much as you can .

Determination,
Keep at it despite the problems and snags that WILL happen .

Discipline,
Master yourself, develop grow and learn . Develop and invest in good habits .


I found the ideas here when listening to Brian Tracy on u-tube and have given it my own "recovery" spin ..

Maybe it'll help someone ? maybe it will occupy you for a few moments, maybe it's worthless to you ..
Not my problem … i cast it out ….

Bestwishes, m

Wholesome

I love this. Thank you.

Soberpotamus

Love!

jazzfish

My weak point has always been the fact that making the decision locks in the sacrifices. Of course, making no decision in order to keep my options open means making no progress in any direction. (And to be really honest, making no decision is typically making a decision to continue drinking and make "progress" along that downward path.)

Nonsensical

Fixed your post.

Framing the issue as a loss is counter-productive and feeds the AV. I did not lose drinking. I gained a happy sober life.

mecanix

my knock out juice alcohol , gave me a short term eraser from feelings .

In sobriety it has been far better to learn and grow and suffer short term discomfort to achieve that growth and achieve a better life going forwards on a more sustainable basis . Dealing with things rather than trying to magic them away .

m

MIRecovery

The 5th D

Don't take the first drink for drug. It is the engine that kills us not the caboose

jazzfish

Thanks for fixing my post - it explains a lot of why it was probably my weak point!

MIRecovery

Yes that concept of no first drink escaped me for 25 years but I'm a slow learner

jazzfish

That reminds me of an old speaker tape. The speaker was about two-thirds of the way through his story when he related this gem: "It was at this point that I began to understand just how critical not drinking was going to be to my sobriety."

Wholesome

Haha! That speaker makes a most valid point.

Fluffer

Mecanix - It sounds to me like you might really like a book/audio book by Brian Tracy called No Excuses - The Power of Self-Discipline. It can really help you improve your effectiveness in all areas of life - although he is so intense he can be a bit scary!

And yes, quitting the drink is an incredible act of self-discipline with a commensurately large payoff!

I agree with somebody's statement to the effect that you should not think of not drinking as a deprivation or you will drive yourself nuts fighting your own mind. Substitute that thought with how glad you are the nightmare is over and how much life will improve! That is the crux of Allen Carr's Easy Way to Control Alcohol, my favorite book on the topic.

mecanix

yer,
the only deprivation is deprivation from hangovers , sweats , uncontrolled bodily functions , poor relationships , arguments over nothing , poor work , poor finances , itchy eyes , organ damage ..

… sure deprive ourselves of a whole lot when we don't drink LoL

Bestwishes, m

Lizella

Love this mecanix! I found it really helpful so thanks for posting.

GerandTwine

I Desired - that ANY further drinking/drugging would always be seriously and morally WRONG for me.

My Decision - that I Will Never Drink Again was the perfect answer to my Desire.

My Determination - at sticking with that Decision was enough to end my addiction.

I Disciplined - my Technique of Recognizing my Addictive Voice to make the Decision easier early on.