fotographia

I found this test on a different site.

I did answer honestly and got 11.

https://www.recoveryzone.com/tests/s...SAST/index.php

I'm just wondering how accurate it is? Is sexual addiction a real thing?

soberlicious

Yes it's a real thing. I didn't take the quiz, but I don't need an Internet quiz to tell me when my behaviors are harmful to me or others. Are your behaviors causing you harm or are you harming others?
Process addictions can be ended, just like substance addictions.

fotographia

At the current time, no they are not hurting me, or other people.

But they have in the past.

soberlicious

That's good to know. For myself, most of my most problematic sexual behaviors occurred after I quit drinking. I did not think that I was hurting myself or others, but as I upped the ante in search of more intense experiences I began to see how my behaviors were not only dangerous but they were keeping me from any real intimacy. People often act as though there are no strings attached, but I ended up hurting lots of people. Anyway, best to you as you work this out for yourself.

dsmaxis10

Yes my sister has it she says there's no cure

soberlicious

I don't agree with your sister. As I said before, process addictions can be ended just like substance addictions.

ardy

my GrandFather said everything in moderation.. but that little thing.. ekekek... my hubby and I were like rabbits untill he had his surgeries on neck shoulder and back... and my back problem.. so we are very carefull when how or what.. but .. that is just ekekekekekekekeke I have to say it is as much of a problem as anything else.. and that my dears is all this old lady is saying..

desypete

i sometimes joke why can i not find the sex addicts : )

but of course i am only joking, i actualy know 1 female who has a very active sex life she is not ashamed of it at all she even made a pass at me at one time but just for sex, hence i got to know her
no i didnt have sex with her but i became a friend to her as i was so interested in how anyone can jump around from man to man and enjoy sex with no strings attached and not feel anything ?

she says she is a sex addict, so she is feeding her needs, in a matter of fact way like someone who needs insulin to keep there illness in check she needs her sex to keep her going

i would say to be honest had she been a bit more pleasant to my eyes i might well of taken her up on her offer of free sex with no strings attached : ) but she just wasnt my cup of tea plus it really is an odd thing to have a women who is so much in control i am a bit old fashiond as well as i have to have a feeling towards someone if i was going to have sex with them, dont get me wrong years ago in my teens and early 20s i would of been on a mission to bed anything and everything so long as there female but we grow out of it or at least i have

but that is my only experience with someone who claims to be a sex addict, i also used to joke that i wanted to join sex addicts anonymous but not to get cured : )

i just wonder if there for real then how would there meetings be ? i can not imagine myself sharing over a table things that turn me on etc

robgt350

yea i do think it is addiction.
that Billion dollar industry is helped fueled by addicts just like tobacco, and alcohol and even drugs.

soberlicious

Well I'm not talking about someone with a healthy appetite. I'm talking about engaging in extremely high risk behaviors which create a very real adrenaline rush. It is often not about what "turns someone on" in the tradition sense, but rather a compulsion that ends up creating the same pain as the cycle of drinking or using.

fotographia

If you have taken the quiz linked, what were your results?

I did answer some of the questions as "Yes" even though at the current time it's not like that for me, and it was like that in the past for me, or there was no option for "Sometimes" or "at rare times", since the answer of "No" would not apply.

robgt350

have you ever heard of people looking at porn so much that they do it at work, and get fired? or spouse catches them? spending $1000.00s of dollars on phone sex, web sites for that rush?
i knew a guy who lost a very successful career due to this.

soberlicious

Yes, rob, that exactly the kind of behavior I was speaking about.

DrakeCKC

It is very real, it is very real for me and for the men and women in my 12 Step sex addiction program.

SoberLife2014

When I went to IOP rehab there was a guy there that was a "sex addict". He was an older guy and you'd never guess he had that issue. He had a wife, kids, and grandkids. He admitted to going to special massage places, prostitutes, looking at a lot of porn etc. Did you know they even have an AA type thing for sex addicts? Apparently it is a VERY real thing.

SoberLife2014

Sorry, I didn't see this message before I wrote mine.

readerbaby71

Sex addiction is real, but some of the questions on that test are utter BS and question healthy sexual behaviors.

fotographia

I noticed that as well.

lovesymphony

I think people can become addicted to just about anything they get pleasure from.

dox

From the Sex Addicts Anonymous website:

"Although sex addicts may act out sexually in many different ways,
there are common elements that seem to characterize our addiction:

Powerlessness over addictive sexual behavior.
Resulting unmanageability of his/her life.
Feelings of shame, pain, and self-loathing.
Failed promises and attempts to stop acting out.
Preoccupation with sex leading to ritual.
Progressive worsening of negative consequences."

Sex Addicts Anonymous:
saa-recovery(dot)org . . . . . . . . . in the USA
or saa-recovery(dot)org.uk . . . . over here.

A friend of mine was helped by going to SAA meetings and seeing a one-on-one counsellor.

It is very real:

sex addiction.

It can destroy lives.

If you think that you have this problem, please seek help.