finding people for your ninth
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finding people for your ninth
hi
i am about to start my ninth step
but i am having trouble trying to find some one on my list
its my ex wife (it is an important one for me to make)
i cant find her contact information
but i know of a few people that know her
what i am asking is that
is it OK for me to explain to this person that i am trying to find here to make amends and that if they would be inclined could they please pass along my contact information to her
i am confused
thanks
i am about to start my ninth step
but i am having trouble trying to find some one on my list
its my ex wife (it is an important one for me to make)
i cant find her contact information
but i know of a few people that know her
what i am asking is that
is it OK for me to explain to this person that i am trying to find here to make amends and that if they would be inclined could they please pass along my contact information to her
i am confused
thanks
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ALthough we should always seek the person's consent before trying to make a formal amends, I can't see any harm in trying to find the people on your list. My first 8th Step list was broken into 3 categories: those where I was willing and knew how to find the person, those where I was willing but had no clue where the person was, and those where I just wasn't ready yet. For the ones in the 2nd category, I used any and all means possible, including internet searches and contacts through old friends.
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