Class of March 2013 Part 7
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Class of March 2013 Part 7
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Hi everyone - day six and feeling good. But having a lot of anxiety about something kind of trivial. Just want to get it out of my weary head, so going to share. It's my birthday this weekend and I'm going to a concert with friends. I'm not at all worried about drinking (doesn't fall into my "pattern" to drink in this type of situation), but I am worried about telling people that I've stopped. I can't explain why. Is it feelings of nostalgia? Mourning the past? Fear that they will judge me or not want to hang out with me? I hear all the time that to change for the better, I've actually got to change - and part of that is having relationships that change (or even end). But it's bothering me. Do I just trust in a higher power that if I stay on this path life will get better, and not let my incessant worrying and low self-esteem sabotage me? Thanks for listening, needed to get that out!
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Brutal cravings tonight! It's like having an awful itch inside my brain that is driving me insane! Ugh!
I'm going to forget the diet, make some nachos, drink some super sweet tea and watch Slumber Party Massacre. Toughest night yet.
I'm going to forget the diet, make some nachos, drink some super sweet tea and watch Slumber Party Massacre. Toughest night yet.
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Hi bluesweater - congrats on day 6. Lots of birthdays on this thread - Snaggle, Beagle, and you! I am not ready to "come out" as an alcoholic to friends. I quit smoking 56 days ago and I am telling people that if I drink I will want a cigarette, and because I have had a drink, I will probably smoke one. But there are other reasons you can give: new diet, new prescription, high blood pressure, etc., if you are not ready to tell them why you stopped drinking. If you do tell them and they judge you - well, time for new friends. It may be a shock at first, but real friends will support you. I haven't told mine not because I don't think they will support me, but because I am just so ashamed that I let it get to this point. Maybe soon I will tell them, but not now.
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Originally Posted by Murdock80 
I'm going to forget the diet, make some nachos, drink some super sweet tea and watch Slumber Party Massacre. Toughest night yet.
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Mmmmmm Nachos - hope you enjoy they Murdock. Have a nice relaxed evening.
Blues - I know what you mean. I think my friends have kinda always known so i'd probably just say 'I'm not drinking right now'. As Northlander has said, real friends will realise how serious this is to you and support you through it. I sometimes think we overestimate the importance of how others perceive alcohol. I know I do. I figure real friends will just be happy to see you happy in life.
Off to sleep here, night all, evening to those across the pond, afternoon (i think) to the Aussies. Take care!
Blues - I know what you mean. I think my friends have kinda always known so i'd probably just say 'I'm not drinking right now'. As Northlander has said, real friends will realise how serious this is to you and support you through it. I sometimes think we overestimate the importance of how others perceive alcohol. I know I do. I figure real friends will just be happy to see you happy in life.
Off to sleep here, night all, evening to those across the pond, afternoon (i think) to the Aussies. Take care!
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Well, the dogs are hungry and have surrounded me. I am home alone with all three of them and believe I will take my leave and feed them before they realize they have a numeric advantage and take matters into their own paws.
Big love to all Sober Marchers!
Big love to all Sober Marchers!
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Originally Posted by bluesweater
I'm not at all worried about drinking (doesn't fall into my "pattern" to drink in this type of situation), but I am worried about telling people that I've stopped. I can't explain why. !
Because any change is just plain scary. I didn't tell anyone at first. I had to wrap my own head around it. I knew in my heart that if I couldn't say the words I don't drink alcohol..never again...out loud to myself all alone, I wasn't going to have the confidence to say it to anyone else. Once I got there, everything else fell into place and I was fine with whatever anyone thought. Most were supportive, some skeptical. Didn't matter cuz I knew in my heart it was over.
I'm glad you are here and keep posting.
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