Billnsb

I'm involved with a woman who seems to have developed an alcohol problem.
During our entire relationship(4 years), I have been sober. I have never shied away from people who drink normally, but over the past two years her drinking has escalated. I am relatively successful, although, I lost a great deal through drinking. She seemed stable, had a career and we meshed well. Through a crap economy, she lost her job soon after we became involved, and has never seemed to get back into the groove of her career and this bothers her greatly.
I, now, basically support her. And it has been tough emotionally, and financially, for me. I am older and really should be saving for retirement, which I see no way to do now.

As I type, I am waiting for her to get out of bed and take her to a rehab center. Kind of a come-to-jesus(purely a figure of speech) event last night.
She seems sincere, but I have my doubts about her resolve.

Anyway, I hear her stirring upstairs.
Just venting, or talking to myself. I don't have any worries about myself drinking again, just my desire to find peace in an uncertain future.
I'll post later.

Thank you very much.
Bill

bjames

Good luck! I hope it goes well.

FlyerFan

My boyfriend will occasionally have a beer or two. Mainly on a holiday or someones birthday, but he will not go out and just buy it. (I dont permit it in our home) Alcoholism runs in his family and he seems to have hardly any interest in it at all.

Good luck in your situation. You may just save a life. We can't get them sober but we can give them the tools.

onlythetruth

My husband is a very light drinker--not a hint of addiction and his occasional drink has never been an issue for me. I would definitely have an issue with being in a relationship with someone who drinks a lot, though. I feel for you.

soberlicious

I feel for you too. I would also have a problem being in a relationship with a heavy drinker. Not because I was once addicted, but because when one is inebriated they are not fully present. It's like being in a relationship with a rock. There's not always a lot to talk about.
I wish you the best in this tough situation.

SDLY

Hi BillNSB, If you do return to the thread, I'm just purely curious on how you stopped. one of those spontaneous decisions? Just found your approach to alcohol very interesting.