Step 4 with Mark H.
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Step 4 with Mark H.
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Mark says the inventory is to identify our insane belief systems.
What are some of our deep seeded beliefs?
I need ____ to be happy.
Mine was always, I need money to be happy.
What do we need to be "ok".
How when we don't get what we want, we are victims.
We form resentments when we are playing God.
( I think from trying endlessly to get what we want )
Mark says the inventory is to identify our insane belief systems.
What are some of our deep seeded beliefs?
I need ____ to be happy.
Mine was always, I need money to be happy.
What do we need to be "ok".
How when we don't get what we want, we are victims.
We form resentments when we are playing God.
( I think from trying endlessly to get what we want )
12-Step Recovered Alkie
Join Date: May 2010
Location: West Bloomfield, MI
Posts: 5,797
Oh God V......... I could write you a damn long list from past inventories. Here are some of the biggies I uncovered:
money
more money than I'd likely ever get (cuz enough is never enough)
sex
women
hot women
smart women
to be right
to be better than others
to be smarter than others
to be pitied by others
to look good in the eye's of others
to be respected
to be loved
to be loved/respected in specific ways
to be a home owner
to have a great job
to drive a car
do drive a specific type of car
......again, I could probably go on for a while if my brain would let me.
The good news is that those are all lies......lies I believed, lived my life upon, and stayed in the darkness as a result. Convinced I could pull satisfaction from life if only I managed well.......but constantly driven for the next "thing" to fill that void, that missing piece of me.
money
more money than I'd likely ever get (cuz enough is never enough)
sex
women
hot women
smart women
to be right
to be better than others
to be smarter than others
to be pitied by others
to look good in the eye's of others
to be respected
to be loved
to be loved/respected in specific ways
to be a home owner
to have a great job
to drive a car
do drive a specific type of car
......again, I could probably go on for a while if my brain would let me.
The good news is that those are all lies......lies I believed, lived my life upon, and stayed in the darkness as a result. Convinced I could pull satisfaction from life if only I managed well.......but constantly driven for the next "thing" to fill that void, that missing piece of me.
12 Step Recovered Alcoholic
Join Date: Apr 2012
Location: New Zealand
Posts: 6,613
The instructions for taking step 4 start on page 64 of the Big book. It's about getting down to causes and effects. Being convinced that self manifested in various ways was what had defeated us, we considered its common manifestations. These are specified as Resentment, selfishness, dishonesty, self seeking, fear, and sex conduct.
There are inventory works sheets available through back to basics and bigbooksponsorship web sites as well as Joe and Charlie material. When approached according to the instructions, and with the help of a sponsor, the 4th step is simple and straight forward.
There are inventory works sheets available through back to basics and bigbooksponsorship web sites as well as Joe and Charlie material. When approached according to the instructions, and with the help of a sponsor, the 4th step is simple and straight forward.
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