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Old 01-29-2012, 03:34 PM
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Is a 4th Step supposed to be this exhausting?

Seriously. I do my second column work for six or seven people and feel like I've worked a full workday.

Is this normal/par for the course, or am I especially insane?

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Old 01-29-2012, 04:25 PM
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It can be. My first was somewhat cathartic and so have been a few others but not nearly as much as the first. In my first case I was still sort of toxic and really still obsessed with drinking, couple that with the metabolic changes going on plus some inner resistance as I progressed.
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Old 01-29-2012, 07:08 PM
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emotions can sometimes drain us
mine did
doing the 4th the first time was a emotional thing but i hung in there

better than drinking
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Old 01-29-2012, 08:09 PM
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If you're doing right, it will be exhausting and disturbing.

It sounds like you are doing it right.

Keep going.
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Old 01-30-2012, 03:37 AM
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Yep...........mine was certainly draining on a emotional/mental level.

I became convinced, i needed to be free of all the drama and pain, all that hate and delusion.
I have experience of what happens when i don't do this exercise....and it far out-weighs the uncomfortable stuff of completing it . ..

suggestions ...... don't linger, get it done ASAP.......plan with sponsor to meet for step 5 on completion of 4..ASAP..

Sounds like your getting to the root of the troubles....keep at it and good luck.
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Old 01-30-2012, 04:16 AM
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Seriously. I do my second column work for six or seven people and feel like I've worked a full workday.

Is this normal/par for the course, or am I especially insane?

Dave
In a word.....YES!!
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Sounds like you are on 'the right track'!

When I finished my 4th step, I felt like a very limp, very small piece of spaghetti noodle. But I also felt relieved, ecstatic, and ready to head to my sponsor's house.

Keep going, you too will feel different and relieved.

J M H O

Love and hugs,
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Old 01-31-2012, 06:54 PM
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Thanks guys...I guess I'm glad I'm doing it right...
I need a nap. Or several of them in rapid succession.

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Old 01-31-2012, 09:04 PM
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Seriously. I do my second column work for six or seven people and feel like I've worked a full workday.

Is this normal/par for the course, or am I especially insane?
Catch 22 - If you can see your insanity, you are not insane.

Step 4 corollary - The more you put into it, the more you get out of it.
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Old 02-05-2012, 12:28 AM
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Yep, mine was. There were some things that I would write down, and then have to walk away from for ten or twenty minutes until I calmed down and could write another thing down. A few events took me a couple of weeks, but once I got through the big ones, I finished the rest in a couple of nights. I should note it was my first fourth step, and I have many more ahead of me. I think the next ones will be easier now that I see the rewards of it.
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