lostmdboy

I got this in an Email. It rally makes sence to this alky.



"There are only two times when you should go to a meeting - when you feel like going, and when you don't feel like going."

It's hard living with a disease that tells me I don't have it. When I'm in between meetings and life is busy, it's easy for me to think of going to a meeting as an imposition. "I'm fine. I don't want to drink, haven't in years, and I'm too busy for a meeting!" That kind of thinking can get me into big trouble.

One of the most valuable lessons I've learned in the program is to take contrary action to what my head is telling me. In fact I've learned that when my head is telling me I don't need a meeting, it actually means that I REALLY need one. And without exception, I always feel better when I go.

The only thing an alcoholic does in moderation is work the steps. It's cunning, baffling and powerful when my head tells me not to do something that makes me feel better. This is why I just have to take the action and do it anyway. So for me, there are only two times when I should go to a meeting - when I feel like it and when I don't.

Taking5

I have found the "when you don't feel like going" to be the times that are most important. When I don't feel like going I need to re-examine where I am in the program.

I have a friend in my home group (not my sponsor) who feels the same way. He will call me if I don't show up for a few days, and I do the same for him. We are trying to keep each other focused in the program.

Now thats a friend.

Fluttering

So true!!

Just a short while ago I was in a snit and didnot want to go to a meetimng..canceled my ride...waited until the last minute to call my sponsor..hoping she would have already left for the meeting..but she was home...and told me to get to a meeting...I went in sullen and angry that I was told to be there....Angry that I had to be told to be there.....Yet it helped..I need to be in meetings.
When I am physically not able to be in meetings then I need to be right here with my extended family.

Thank You for this thread

lostmdboy

So true!1 I can go into a meeting pissed at someone. Full of self rightness. Know that my angr is justified, and by the time I leave knowing that I owe a lot of people an apology. Some tim es it just pisses me off that these meetings just ruin a good pitty party.

aasharon90

What a GREAT REMINDER...

I had thoughts flip flopping in my head
for the past 2 days on which meeting i
wanted to go to today....isnt that AWESOME
that we have choices on which meeting we
could go to....unbelieveable...

So really there's no good excuse to not go. Right?

And how AWESOME is it that we dont have
to travel on our recovery journey alone....like
we often here...It's a WE program...We have
each other to rely on for support, encouragement,
experiences, wisdom.....

This morning I had almost made up my mind
as to not go to one particular meeting but maybe
to another at noon....when i get an email saying they
will see me at this meeting to collect a hug.....

Now how can i say no to something like that....

Its my RESPONSIBILITY to suit up and show up
even if im not willing....

There must be a good reason to go to this
meeting today.....and for this person to
plant the seed of thought to erase the
any doubt lingering in my mind.

Ok, so i will fix my tray of pastries and off
to a noon meeting to get my daily dose of
recovery i need to stay sober another 24 hours.

Thanks for letting me share.