Depression and Anxiety- personal hygienge bad
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Depression and Anxiety- personal hygienge bad
My soon to be 21 yr old suffers from depression and social anxiety. He is seeing a therapist and on anxiety meds. Before starting the meds his personal hygiene was horrible. If he brushes his teeth once a week and bathes once a week he is lucky. I have never smelled me but then again he doesn't allow me to get close. Before he leaves for college (he commutes) he will spray himself with febreeze or a cologne. He wears a hat as well so no one can see his greasy hair.
I am disgusted by him. I had been seeing a therapist because I didn't know how to deal with his drinking and this bad hygiene. He told me that with social anxiety this is normal because those that suffer from it don't want people to talk to them...... SO he started meds then zoloft and another one. I thought for a while he was starting to get better now he is back to not bathing and brushing his teeth. I do not know how his girlfriend can stand him. I really want to call his therapist and tell him that he is back to this again. It is gross. I don't know how he thinks he will be able to function in the real job market once he graduates by acting like this.
I am disgusted by him. I had been seeing a therapist because I didn't know how to deal with his drinking and this bad hygiene. He told me that with social anxiety this is normal because those that suffer from it don't want people to talk to them...... SO he started meds then zoloft and another one. I thought for a while he was starting to get better now he is back to not bathing and brushing his teeth. I do not know how his girlfriend can stand him. I really want to call his therapist and tell him that he is back to this again. It is gross. I don't know how he thinks he will be able to function in the real job market once he graduates by acting like this.
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I think as a parent I would be more worried about his metal state than his hygiene. The drinking is a whole different issue.
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Hiya turtle 
It's quite sad really , I'm sure he senses that you are disgusted by him. He sounds very, very depressed to me.
Most of us that have been in a dark depression have had similar symptoms.
I feel for you too as it must be frustrating , but the more you push sometimes the more depressed he may get.
I agree he needs to see someone. He is keeping people at arms length so he doesn't have to socialise.
He must be feeling like crap.
Good luck , I hope he gets well soon
It's quite sad really , I'm sure he senses that you are disgusted by him. He sounds very, very depressed to me.
Most of us that have been in a dark depression have had similar symptoms.
I feel for you too as it must be frustrating , but the more you push sometimes the more depressed he may get.
I agree he needs to see someone. He is keeping people at arms length so he doesn't have to socialise.
He must be feeling like crap.
Good luck , I hope he gets well soon
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Originally Posted by Turtleneckie117 
My soon to be 21 yr old suffers from depression and social anxiety. He is seeing a therapist and on anxiety meds. Before starting the meds his personal hygiene was horrible. If he brushes his teeth once a week and bathes once a week he is lucky. I have never smelled me but then again he doesn't allow me to get close. Before he leaves for college (he commutes) he will spray himself with febreeze or a cologne. He wears a hat as well so no one can see his greasy hair.
I am disgusted by him. I had been seeing a therapist because I didn't know how to deal with his drinking and this bad hygiene. He told me that with social anxiety this is normal because those that suffer from it don't want people to talk to them...... SO he started meds then zoloft and another one. I thought for a while he was starting to get better now he is back to not bathing and brushing his teeth. I do not know how his girlfriend can stand him. I really want to call his therapist and tell him that he is back to this again. It is gross. I don't know how he thinks he will be able to function in the real job market once he graduates by acting like this.
I am disgusted by him. I had been seeing a therapist because I didn't know how to deal with his drinking and this bad hygiene. He told me that with social anxiety this is normal because those that suffer from it don't want people to talk to them...... SO he started meds then zoloft and another one. I thought for a while he was starting to get better now he is back to not bathing and brushing his teeth. I do not know how his girlfriend can stand him. I really want to call his therapist and tell him that he is back to this again. It is gross. I don't know how he thinks he will be able to function in the real job market once he graduates by acting like this.
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