Morning Glory

[SkyIsFalling42]

I have tried every which way to get a pic of Richard Dean Anderson on here to make you smile but the enigma of changing jpegs to gifs still eludes me..and I cannot find one that will post here!! even if it says it is a gif image..i am told it is not a proper one.

Oh well, guess these flowers will do! the advice you gave me about writing all down has been the best thus far for keeping me moving. Thank you.
I had to laugh about the dog, though I am sure it was a huge scare! Falling down steps is not fun, and I have no intention of doing that!! I have been falling alot lately..mostly up stairs..I do not know why..but plan on talking with the doctor about it when I am able to go.
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Oh Richard is my heart throb. I watch him on Stargate all week.

Thank God I was young on that fall. I handled it well. I fell again not that long ago and age makes a big difference so BE CAREFUL!

Thanks for the thought Sky. I didn't answer your being hurt by a friend post because I just don't have an answer, lol.

Hugs,
MG

[SkyIsFalling42]

Oh!! You mean I am getting old.....!!! Well, that is good that I am earning my rocking chair!! And that I dont have to go up or down any stairs to get into it!!
I know that if you do not say anything about a post that there is a good reason, and that is ok. You are always johnny on the spot to all posts in which you have insight. And I can get a feel for how hard it could be to respond to all posts, it could be a true challenge I am sure.
I think with that post I was just kind of venting, which you know helps to get things out.

My son saw my oldest daughter, and she invited him to spend christmas with her at the home of my grandchildren's father. After all that he has done to our family, to make a long story short, I was not a happy camper at this news. I told my son that I dissaproved of this idea, reminded him all that had happened, and that it is his choice where he spends his christmas, but that I did not have to like it. A couple of days later, he told me he is not spending christmas there, and I was relieved. If he would have, I would have felt betrayed by him, I know that I would have.

That is a tough one Sky.

I would imagine too though that your son may feel in the middle of things. He may want to continue to have a relationship with his sister. Christmas is not the time to do that though with all the pain that you have endured.

I used to have a hard time with this too. I learned something that I practiced. I was not supposed to take on the grudge of another person and I was not supposed to expect someone to take on my grudge. I have a similar situation going on with my family. I've had to compromise. I can't post about it here, but I was deeply hurt by others that my daughter is close too. I keep it separate and it's hard sometimes. Very hard. Take what I've just said with a grain of salt. My situation is many years from the original hurt. Yours is still a very raw wound.

I'm glad your son changed his mind.

Hugs,
MG

[SkyIsFalling42]

Never, ever could I take something you say as a grain of salt. Your insight astounds me at times, and I value it above many things.
And yes, my son did say that he wanted to see his sister. I told him that was one thing, but doing it at that house was another. I reminded him of the welted hand prints this man had given him on his back, and the time he went over there with cassie and he pushed him down the stairs. He was a victim too, the same as every member of my family! Re-victimization just kept popping into my mind, and did not want my son to go that route.
I think that practicing the grudge thing would be good for me. And I know that I am committing a no no, trying to control what happens to my son also. He is 18, and I must let him live his life through his own decisions.
When you say you keep something seperate, you must mean kind of like what I do with the box that we built in counseling? I know that this sounds silly, but I do not know what I would do without that temporary box. It really works for me, and is so very necessary for me at times when the memories are pounding me.

So tell us about that box Sky.

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Ok!! It is a temporary storage space for memories, feelings that are too powerful to work through at once. My therapist and I built it back in March, and was part of desensitization. I do not use temporary lightly, as I had a terrible fear that these things would be put back into the box where I had been stuffing them through my lifetime. The old box is gone, and the new one is for temporary use only, I know that it is there, and I control what is put into it and when and where things are taken from it. It has a lid, which allows me to open and close it at will. I can take out a piece or two at a time and examine it, put it back if i need to.
We had to re-build the box again recently, as the memories were bombarding me. It gives me a safe place to put the terror and realizations when I remember. I can pick them apart one by one if I choose.
This may really sound silly to some, but I think it has saved my sanity (what is left of it anyways )

I think it sounds like a great idea Sky.

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I don't think it's silly at all.....I think it's brilliant, just may try this myself! ***hugs*** sis!!!!!!

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MG~ The quote in your signature line is so cute!! Very funny. Is it your granddaughter said this? LOL......:LMAO

Yes, it was my granddaughter. I was upstairs on my computer listening to their conversation. It was very funny from up here.

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Well, she sounds like the cutie pie!! Give her a hug from me...tell her it's from someone thinks her grammee is AWESOME!!!!!!

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This really does work well for me, but probably would have laughed at such a thought last year.

Your grand daughter sounds like the little wise one!! Just like mine!

During one of my visits with my Brittany, her and the social worker were bickering back and forth, as usual. The social worker acted like she was 6 also.

Well, brittany walked over to the desk where the worker was lounging and reading a Redbook. And she said "And Angela, just what are you doing? I thought you were suppose to be working."

I ushered her into the kitchen before the worker could actually retaliate other than threatening her with time out.

I swear that I laughed for hours after I left this visitation! Brittany is just too smart for her own good!