keeping afloat

[GailJ]

wow.

so much happening don't know where to even start.
Finally found love of my life.
whist taking care of son who is coming out but reluctant to do so.
Not gay but cross dressing and completely lost.

\trying so hard to help but my heart is being torn to pieces

sorry since being banned have been afraid to post at all.

anx med can't help my rapidly beeting heart and shaking.

hope this is still an anx site. not an attack site over drinking.

Miss my friends and love you all

[suki44883]

Keep hanging in there, Gail. We're here when you are ready. Just remember to BREATHE. (((HUGS)))

[GailJ]

Bin breathing days now. just twenty years coming back with my middle son. Can't stop the tears

[GailJ]

so sorry friends

[ChameleonBoy]

Originally Posted by GailJ

Finally found love of my life.

[liveweyerd]

great big hugs Gail, I have missed you.

I have met someone very special also, but am going to take it easy and go with the flow,
my primary ambition right now is to get back in shape...have too many pounds to lose and muscles to re-train.

[ClayTheScribe]

Originally Posted by GailJ

wow.

so much happening don't know where to even start.
Finally found love of my life.

Isn't this a good thing? You mentioned your heart being torn to pieces? What's going on there?

whist taking care of son who is coming out but reluctant to do so.
Not gay but cross dressing and completely lost.

How old is he? Is he bi or does he feel he's really a woman inside? There are GLBT support groups that can help him sort out his feelings and help him find his true way. As far as coming out, that's all on him and has to be on his terms; it can't be rushed. Just tell him you support him for whoever he is and that he should not feel ashamed of who he is. Also a GLBT-conscious therapist might help him too. And of course there are plenty of books out there. I guess I'd be curious to know more of his behavior.

trying so hard to help but my heart is being torn to pieces

Like I said there's only so much you can do, other than be supportive and encourage him to find his way. It only seems bad now because he's confused. Coming out is always difficult, but once is out, even to a few people, and he sees they don't react to him negatively, he'll feel more relieved. Of course there are people you wouldn't want him coming out to if it'd be more harm than good.

sorry since being banned have been afraid to post at all.

anx med can't help my rapidly beeting heart and shaking.

hope this is still an anx site. not an attack site over drinking.

Have you tried deep breathing? Specifically breathing in through the nose for 3 seconds, holding your breath for 3 seconds and then exhaling through the mouth. Do this for 5 minutes and you'll feel calmer. The anxiety meds should help with your rapidly beating heart and shaking. Also make sure to cut out coffee, energy drink and alcohol of course as that'll cause shaking. What anx meds are you on? Lorazepam is a great, immediate one and Geodon helps me out a lot. 15-30 minutes of exercise also helps greatly with reducing anxiety as a lot of anxiety is build up tension. Also avoid lots of sugar as this can create anxiety.

Do you see a cognitive behavioral therapist who can help you control your anxiety? If you already have one just make sure you're communicating clearly with him/her about the extent of your anxiety.

Just keep hanging in there, we're pulling for ya.

Take care,
Clay



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