Adrian82

I have a situation that bothers me every day.

I'm 35 and I had a DUI exactrly on my birhtday. We were celebrating hard and after everyone left we drove to the bar. When we left (which I don't remember at all) I was driving my friend's car from the bar and got chased by the police car in about 200 meters from the bar.

He asked me to drive away from the cops and we stopped near my house, he ran away and locked the car having left meoutside a locked car with cops without any documents. Where I live there is a severe penalty to the person who granted permission to the drunk driver which I was - 1.5 years of license revocation and $2000 fine. My punishment was 15 days in jail and $8000 fine which I finally managed to pay off in 9 months.

When I asked why he left me alone he answered why we should have 2 penalties instead of just 1 (me).

I'm on day 20 of sobriety and would like your opinion about the situation.

ScottFromWI

Congrats on 20 days of sobriety. I think there most likely is no answer to your question other than that alcohol causes us to make bad decisions. Obviously some worse than others, But once made they cannot be undone. The best solution is to focus on staying sober and preventing future bad choices.

fini

welcome, Adrian.

i have opinions, but how would they help you?
if they support your own opinion, what will it help?
if mine is other than yours, how will that help you or fire you up?

congratulations on twenty days; that is awesome!
my best suggestion, which is also an opinion, is that ultimately you are best served by looking at why you are asking for strangers' opinions on this? this might tell you something useful about yourself .

good to have you here.

Berrybean

In my opinion you would be best served to change the person you can and accept the people you cannot.

MachinistGuy

Life is too short to bother about stuff like that and I'd imagine you have enough on your plate. I'd try to forget the whole subject and concentrate on staying sober.

Doug39

I agree with the other posts. It is over and done. Be thankful you didn't kill yourself or someone else while driving in a blackout.

See this as an experience that changed your life before it was too late.

Sylvan1

Congratulation Adrian82 on 20 days sober!
I am newly sober myself, and I made a deal with myself on day one to drive my recovery forward...no looking back. Spending too much time looking in the rear view mirror will only run you off the road...( sorry about the car analogy, but it works for me!)
You are 20 days wiser, healthier, stronger... look forward to what 21 will bring!
Eyes on the road ahead my friend.

BrendaChenowyth

People are selfish. He's not a friend. He showed his true colors. There's nothing to do but move on.

waynetheking

Resentments are our number one offender.....
Just let this go and focus on sobriety. Congrats on 20 days. That's AWESOME.

Adams001

Wish you will recovery soom.

D122y

Adrian,

20 days sober and 15 days in jail means you have been out 5 days.

Great thinking to post before drinking.

That shows some serious consideration.

If you want to quit you already are winning half the battle.

That situation that got you thrown in jail w an $8k fine was a wake up call.

Are you listening to the message?

Education about addiction saved me.

I imagine there are/were some alky classes.

Pay attention. Moderation is a slippery slope.

Thanks.

Della1968

I think you both were drinking and both made bad choices. Try not to carry resentments it will eat you alive.