Grant me the serenity!
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Grant me the serenity!
Both of my adjacent neighbors are driving me completely insane. I have a neighbor on one side who has a dog that barks constantly. I woke up this morning at 6:30 on my day off due to this. If I try to go over to their house to discuss and they will not open their door. Real adult right?
My other neighbor is an obese slob whose overgrown yard is a weed factory for my well kept yard. I am serious! I actually trimmed his hedge adjacent to my yard and he still did not get the point. In the old days this was the kind of thing that I would drowned out every night. I will not go off the deep end but these people make it difficult! Why would anyone want to go through life as a blight on others? This is not the hood. The neighborhood is on the best side of town.
My other neighbor is an obese slob whose overgrown yard is a weed factory for my well kept yard. I am serious! I actually trimmed his hedge adjacent to my yard and he still did not get the point. In the old days this was the kind of thing that I would drowned out every night. I will not go off the deep end but these people make it difficult! Why would anyone want to go through life as a blight on others? This is not the hood. The neighborhood is on the best side of town.
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You can accept the way things are or you can attempt to find a solution.
Change what you can and learn to accept what you can't.
Not easy but those are two options.
You can also pray everyday one or both neighbors move.
However I am of the belief God helps those who help themselves.
Change what you can and learn to accept what you can't.
Not easy but those are two options.
You can also pray everyday one or both neighbors move.
However I am of the belief God helps those who help themselves.
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Glad to hear you are not drinking over it and coming here to vent is a much better way to deal with your frustration at first. Serenity is difficult to achieved but I think you hit the nail on the head with your thread title and the others have too. You can only do so much and let go of what you cannot.
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Hi, Talkin.
I hear you. I have been in barking dog next door living situations and it's bad. I would say that your neighbors are well aware of the situation, as they will not open the door to you.
Do you know if the dog is okay? Has food, water, room to move? If not, it would be a kindness to alert authorities.
If things are okay, and he/she is a barker, not sure what avenues are open to fix things.
Are you friendly with other residents? Maybe if a few of you get together, you may come to a solution.
My neighbors on one side are quiet people, hard working, but they have the slobbiest driveway and yard ever. Old white goods, propane tanks, truck caps, etc.
We have asked them to clean up their act, but...doesn't happen.
My solution: just had a bunch of arborvitae planted on that side. They should grow nice and tall and shield my view of my sloppy neighbors.
I live in hope that someday they will clean things up, but I am not holding my breath.
Peace.
I hear you. I have been in barking dog next door living situations and it's bad. I would say that your neighbors are well aware of the situation, as they will not open the door to you.
Do you know if the dog is okay? Has food, water, room to move? If not, it would be a kindness to alert authorities.
If things are okay, and he/she is a barker, not sure what avenues are open to fix things.
Are you friendly with other residents? Maybe if a few of you get together, you may come to a solution.
My neighbors on one side are quiet people, hard working, but they have the slobbiest driveway and yard ever. Old white goods, propane tanks, truck caps, etc.
We have asked them to clean up their act, but...doesn't happen.
My solution: just had a bunch of arborvitae planted on that side. They should grow nice and tall and shield my view of my sloppy neighbors.
I live in hope that someday they will clean things up, but I am not holding my breath.
Peace.
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Join Date: Jan 2016
Posts: 183
Report the barking dog to noise control? Or they sell anti bark devices. Who knows if they work. I have been in that situation, it did actually make me drinking worse when i was still drinking. I just could not deal with it. Its not easy to just accept that you cant sleep because of a jerks barking dog!
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,235
I too understand frustration with neighbors.
I do believe my Higher Power knows all
that ive gone thru my entire life, even
my emotional, physical struggles ive had
thru out the yrs.
I keep thinking that He will put me in
a house at the end of the street as I tend
to His birds and flowers with no one
living around me to bother me when
I pass on.
But then, He may put me smack dab
in the middle of everyone where we
all are living harmonious together.
I lived in Houston sandwiched between
2 houses, one permanent and the other
a rent house never knowing who would
move in.
Ive learned a lot of hard lessons in
recovery and one is to accept people,
places and things just as they are meant
to be. Ive learned to rely on my HP for
protection, guidance and serenity. Ive
given many of my struggles up to my
HP placing them into his hands, turning
them over to Him and have takin some
of them back thinking I could control
them knowing darn good and well I
wouldn't be able to successfully.
I learned to pray for those folks ive
resented, praying that they receive
everything good, the same as Id want
for myself. Good health, happiness
and prosperity.
Whatever the outcome is, it wouldn't
be my responsibility.
I went thru hell while living in Houston
with my neighbors all around me. Esp.
next door, with a head strong women
who never let up pushing my buttons.
I could never understood why if you
treat others the way youd want to be
treated that they don't do the same.
Id mind my business, keep my yard
immaculate and not disturb anything
on her side and yet she would delibertly
set her sprinklers to flood my yrd or water
my drive way.
Why her own kids would destroy our
mailbox late at night. Destroy some
of my mail. Throw cigarette butts over
the fence, and so much more.
Anyway....after 10 yrs of praying and
doing what I am suppose to do in recovery,
I was granted a reprieve and got my
ticket to return back home to Baton Rouge
where I never wanted to leave in the first
place.
Now, some 26 yrs sober, remarried and
once again sandwiched inbetween 2 more
neighbors. One I call Blondie and the other
poodlehead.
For awhile I use to manicure our lawn
until my husband took over after retirement.
Before then, id find dog poop in the front
yrd as I walked the mower frustrating me
to no end.
I just don't get it where folks allow their
pets to poop in other folks yrds or freshly
manicured lawns. WHY????? Of course now
my husband just rides his mower over the
front yrd and doesn't let small stuff like
poop bother him.
Ive tried to accept folks that seem to
go out of their way to aggravate me,
well, it seems that way, and continue
to pray for Serenity and Acceptance.
That's why I'm hoping when I pass on
i'll finally have peace of mind at the end
of a street in a house with a yrd and garden
to take care of and no more poop or
pesky neighbors. lol
I do believe my Higher Power knows all
that ive gone thru my entire life, even
my emotional, physical struggles ive had
thru out the yrs.
I keep thinking that He will put me in
a house at the end of the street as I tend
to His birds and flowers with no one
living around me to bother me when
I pass on.
But then, He may put me smack dab
in the middle of everyone where we
all are living harmonious together.
I lived in Houston sandwiched between
2 houses, one permanent and the other
a rent house never knowing who would
move in.
Ive learned a lot of hard lessons in
recovery and one is to accept people,
places and things just as they are meant
to be. Ive learned to rely on my HP for
protection, guidance and serenity. Ive
given many of my struggles up to my
HP placing them into his hands, turning
them over to Him and have takin some
of them back thinking I could control
them knowing darn good and well I
wouldn't be able to successfully.
I learned to pray for those folks ive
resented, praying that they receive
everything good, the same as Id want
for myself. Good health, happiness
and prosperity.
Whatever the outcome is, it wouldn't
be my responsibility.
I went thru hell while living in Houston
with my neighbors all around me. Esp.
next door, with a head strong women
who never let up pushing my buttons.
I could never understood why if you
treat others the way youd want to be
treated that they don't do the same.
Id mind my business, keep my yard
immaculate and not disturb anything
on her side and yet she would delibertly
set her sprinklers to flood my yrd or water
my drive way.
Why her own kids would destroy our
mailbox late at night. Destroy some
of my mail. Throw cigarette butts over
the fence, and so much more.
Anyway....after 10 yrs of praying and
doing what I am suppose to do in recovery,
I was granted a reprieve and got my
ticket to return back home to Baton Rouge
where I never wanted to leave in the first
place.
Now, some 26 yrs sober, remarried and
once again sandwiched inbetween 2 more
neighbors. One I call Blondie and the other
poodlehead.
For awhile I use to manicure our lawn
until my husband took over after retirement.
Before then, id find dog poop in the front
yrd as I walked the mower frustrating me
to no end.
I just don't get it where folks allow their
pets to poop in other folks yrds or freshly
manicured lawns. WHY????? Of course now
my husband just rides his mower over the
front yrd and doesn't let small stuff like
poop bother him.
Ive tried to accept folks that seem to
go out of their way to aggravate me,
well, it seems that way, and continue
to pray for Serenity and Acceptance.
That's why I'm hoping when I pass on
i'll finally have peace of mind at the end
of a street in a house with a yrd and garden
to take care of and no more poop or
pesky neighbors. lol
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Originally Posted by Talkinandwalkin 
Both of my adjacent neighbors are driving me completely insane. I have a neighbor on one side who has a dog that barks constantly. I woke up this morning at 6:30 on my day off due to this. If I try to go over to their house to discuss and they will not open their door. Real adult right?
My other neighbor is an obese slob whose overgrown yard is a weed factory for my well kept yard. I am serious! I actually trimmed his hedge adjacent to my yard and he still did not get the point. In the old days this was the kind of thing that I would drowned out every night. I will not go off the deep end but these people make it difficult! Why would anyone want to go through life as a blight on others? This is not the hood. The neighborhood is on the best side of town.
My other neighbor is an obese slob whose overgrown yard is a weed factory for my well kept yard. I am serious! I actually trimmed his hedge adjacent to my yard and he still did not get the point. In the old days this was the kind of thing that I would drowned out every night. I will not go off the deep end but these people make it difficult! Why would anyone want to go through life as a blight on others? This is not the hood. The neighborhood is on the best side of town.
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