BrendaChenowyth

Because women treat other women differently than they treat men, even if it's subconsciously.

Centered3

Paul lol!! I am so grateful for the 4th step I did. It isn't just "sex" it was interpersonal relationships--how I think and behaved around the opposite sex.

For example, I had no idea that when I'd strike up a conversation with a man at a party, that his wife might be jealous or uncomfortable. My intentions were to just have a normal chit-chat with a drama-free man. But I learned in my 5th step to think of OTHERS and really see how my actions might appear to others. Just because I think one way, that a conversation is harmless or something, doesn't mean others feel the same way.

Oh wow Paul thank you for sharing this. I kind of have a similar story. I used to love to give and get hugs, I guess because they made me feel loved and they were a way I could show my appreciation for a friend. Kinda childish thinking about it now, though. I know it's because I had a very abusive, cold, non-nurturing mother. Anyways, I've had female acquaintances ask me if I was gay or bi-sexual. I'm heterosexual and didn't understand why they'd think that. But now I am much more careful about the hug thing. It's happening naturally, actually, as part of my recovery. I no longer seek hugs as a form of seeking acceptance from other people.

I wonder how many of us were self-seeking with our sexuality without even being aware of it.

Yet another reason to be grateful of this thing called recovery.