Rock bottom, ready for sobriety.
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Join Date: Feb 2016
Location: CA
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Rock bottom, ready for sobriety.
Friday night I finally hit rock bottom. I was arrested for being abusive to my husband, now he has moved out. 
I am ready to be sober, yes it's only been two days but I wasn't an every day drinker. I would binge on the weekend. Nothing like this has ever happened before but being hauled off wearing pajamas was the worst night of my life. Now I have to face a trial etc. Any advice welcome. 
I am ready to be sober, yes it's only been two days but I wasn't an every day drinker. I would binge on the weekend. Nothing like this has ever happened before but being hauled off wearing pajamas was the worst night of my life. Now I have to face a trial etc. Any advice welcome. 
You can have reasons, or you can have results, but you can't have both.
Join Date: Dec 2015
Location: Syracuse, NY
Posts: 1,232
Ouch. Well, lots of us had similarly memorable ends to our drinking careers. And plenty more chose to keep drinking for many more years anyway!
Depending on how you decide to handle this, it could turn out to be a blessing in disguise! You cane use this as a turning point.
My advice is to pull out all the stops to kick alcohol completely out of your life. Reach out right away to find treatment. Some people like AA but if you don't, don't let that stop you. There are plenty of options. Just get involved in treatment ASAP while the blood is still wet so to speak. This will also help you if you have a Court case.
I think you should act quickly before the drama of it dies down and it becomes easy to sweep under the rug.
Depending on how you decide to handle this, it could turn out to be a blessing in disguise! You cane use this as a turning point.
My advice is to pull out all the stops to kick alcohol completely out of your life. Reach out right away to find treatment. Some people like AA but if you don't, don't let that stop you. There are plenty of options. Just get involved in treatment ASAP while the blood is still wet so to speak. This will also help you if you have a Court case.
I think you should act quickly before the drama of it dies down and it becomes easy to sweep under the rug.
Hillbilly Girl
Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: In my Garden
Posts: 3,953
Welcome Fitgirl......great place here for support & encouragement! You never have to experience anything like that again. Read & post & consider joining the February class....I will post link for you.
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It's good that your recognize the difficulties alcohol is causing you.
I'm pretty new to sobriety myself, but my advice would be to first prioritize your own sobriety above all else. Stop drinking. Pour out any stuff you have left. Lay into water, you'll want it.
Start developing a sobriety plan that provides for recovery -- fixing what it is inside you that makes intoxication your choice for dealing with reality. Your plan should also include methods for building and maintaining a support network, to both share your successes and bolster you at weak spots. Your plan should also include contingency plans to protect against threats to your sobriety.
Be strong. The Universe is talking to you ... this is one message you don't want to miss. Best wishes to you on your new path in life. You won't regret it.
We can do this.
I'm pretty new to sobriety myself, but my advice would be to first prioritize your own sobriety above all else. Stop drinking. Pour out any stuff you have left. Lay into water, you'll want it.
Start developing a sobriety plan that provides for recovery -- fixing what it is inside you that makes intoxication your choice for dealing with reality. Your plan should also include methods for building and maintaining a support network, to both share your successes and bolster you at weak spots. Your plan should also include contingency plans to protect against threats to your sobriety.
Be strong. The Universe is talking to you ... this is one message you don't want to miss. Best wishes to you on your new path in life. You won't regret it.
We can do this.
Hillbilly Girl
Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: In my Garden
Posts: 3,953
I hope you can make this your turning point towards a better sober life. 
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Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Baton Rouge, La.
Posts: 15,237
Welcome.
I was escorted away 25 yrs ago by the authorities
after family stepped in seeking help for my state
of mind after an attempt to exit this world.
I had reached my lowest point in my life, feeling
failure as a mom and wife and having no idea of
how to stop the insanity of drinking on my own.
I was driven to a rehab hospital spending the
first night in the physciatric ward looking upon
many sick folks shuffling across the floor,
hugging the walls, rocking back and forth
and mumbling to themselves.
As I gazed upon them, feeling so much despair,
I knew I wasn't that sick and passed all those
mental test they thru at me with the end result
as not having control over my drinking.
Meaning, I had a drinking problem and
could be taught about my addiction and
a program of recovery to incorporate in
all areas of my life to remain sober one
day at a time.
It was my family doing for me what I
certainly couldn't and wouldn't do for
myself. In them doing so, it helped me
learn to live sober for 25 yrs of many
one days of not drinking added together
to get me where I am today.
Healthy..... Happy......Honest
Knowledge is a powerful tool to have
in life and sobriety. To have those capable
to teach us about our addiction, to feed us
valuable information of how alcohol, poison,
toxic substances that enter our bodies affect
our minds, systems, and yes, our souls.
I learned at the beginning that I never
have to go thru anything in life alone
again, that there will always be someone
who has been there, done many of the
same similar things as I and can help me
get pass any situation in life that I use
to drink over, numb myself of or didn't
understand.
Going thru rehab saved my life. A 28 day
instay gave me just enough time for the
fog to clear from my mind to absorb a
recovery program taught to me so that
I could use it in all areas of my life.
The seed of hope was planted those many
yrs ago as it continues to grow and be nurtured
each day I remain sober and pass on all the
knowledge or recovery that was passed onto
me to others just beginning their journey into
a new healthier life without poison.
Whatever it takes to get sober and stop
the insanity will be a gift of recovery that
you will treasure and never take for granted
for many one days at a time sober ahead
of you.
Listen Learn Absorb Apply
I was escorted away 25 yrs ago by the authorities
after family stepped in seeking help for my state
of mind after an attempt to exit this world.
I had reached my lowest point in my life, feeling
failure as a mom and wife and having no idea of
how to stop the insanity of drinking on my own.
I was driven to a rehab hospital spending the
first night in the physciatric ward looking upon
many sick folks shuffling across the floor,
hugging the walls, rocking back and forth
and mumbling to themselves.
As I gazed upon them, feeling so much despair,
I knew I wasn't that sick and passed all those
mental test they thru at me with the end result
as not having control over my drinking.
Meaning, I had a drinking problem and
could be taught about my addiction and
a program of recovery to incorporate in
all areas of my life to remain sober one
day at a time.
It was my family doing for me what I
certainly couldn't and wouldn't do for
myself. In them doing so, it helped me
learn to live sober for 25 yrs of many
one days of not drinking added together
to get me where I am today.
Healthy..... Happy......Honest
Knowledge is a powerful tool to have
in life and sobriety. To have those capable
to teach us about our addiction, to feed us
valuable information of how alcohol, poison,
toxic substances that enter our bodies affect
our minds, systems, and yes, our souls.
I learned at the beginning that I never
have to go thru anything in life alone
again, that there will always be someone
who has been there, done many of the
same similar things as I and can help me
get pass any situation in life that I use
to drink over, numb myself of or didn't
understand.
Going thru rehab saved my life. A 28 day
instay gave me just enough time for the
fog to clear from my mind to absorb a
recovery program taught to me so that
I could use it in all areas of my life.
The seed of hope was planted those many
yrs ago as it continues to grow and be nurtured
each day I remain sober and pass on all the
knowledge or recovery that was passed onto
me to others just beginning their journey into
a new healthier life without poison.
Whatever it takes to get sober and stop
the insanity will be a gift of recovery that
you will treasure and never take for granted
for many one days at a time sober ahead
of you.
Listen Learn Absorb Apply
Member
Join Date: Oct 2013
Posts: 11,424
I was a binge drinker too--sometimes weeks or months between binges.
That doesn't change the fact of alcoholism / problems with alcohol.
I suggest you get in a treatment program ASAP if you're really ready to
be done drinking forever.
I hope things go well for you and this can be a positive turning point
in your life--it can, believe it or not, if you make good choices Fitgirl--
That doesn't change the fact of alcoholism / problems with alcohol.
I suggest you get in a treatment program ASAP if you're really ready to
be done drinking forever.
I hope things go well for you and this can be a positive turning point
in your life--it can, believe it or not, if you make good choices Fitgirl--
Life Goes On
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Baltimore, Maryland
Posts: 6,069
I agree with SiS and Hawk - strike while the iron is hot!
I've had far too many experiences with wallowing in remorse until it becomes numb then picking up and starting all over again.
Figure out your plan of action for outside help today and get going. I promise you will never regret it. And it sure won't hurt if you need to go to a hearing.
I'm sorry you had to join us under such circumstances, but glad you found us.
I've had far too many experiences with wallowing in remorse until it becomes numb then picking up and starting all over again.
Figure out your plan of action for outside help today and get going. I promise you will never regret it. And it sure won't hurt if you need to go to a hearing.
I'm sorry you had to join us under such circumstances, but glad you found us.
Member
Join Date: Jan 2016
Posts: 704
Welcome to SR.
I too am awaiting a court date which played a role in me getting sober
a bit over 30 days ago. I have also put myself in treatment that is tied to the court
system. That is what it took for me to begin being sober.
Now even after the short time I have, things are so much better.
I can face things without the dread I was living everyday and know
even after whatever happens in court and after as long as I stay sober
things will be ok. I need not ever have to go through this again.
I too am awaiting a court date which played a role in me getting sober
a bit over 30 days ago. I have also put myself in treatment that is tied to the court
system. That is what it took for me to begin being sober.
Now even after the short time I have, things are so much better.
I can face things without the dread I was living everyday and know
even after whatever happens in court and after as long as I stay sober
things will be ok. I need not ever have to go through this again.
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Join Date: May 2012
Location: Wisconsin, USA
Posts: 16,945
You definitely aren't alone, you will find a lot of support and understanding here on SR. It will be a tough road ahead but things can and will get better if you take a step each day towards sobriety. Have you considered counseling, meetings or any kind of rehab/outpatient treatment locally?
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