Anyone here a workaholic?
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So I really understand these dilemmas.
Having Faith for both my husband and
I we can live within our means while in
retirement. Both of us, no college degree,
hard manual work in past jobs, no huge
big retirement bank account and yet we
both are being guided and taken care
of from our belief and faith in the Man
upstairs.
We both have learned a lot in recovery
and have and still apply tools and knowledge
passed on to us to incorporate in our everyday
affairs.
As long as we stay true to ourselves, open,
honest and not taking things for granted,
then we believe we will be takin care of.
Less stress, less worry, less wondering,
less fear and so on in retirement.
I we can live within our means while in
retirement. Both of us, no college degree,
hard manual work in past jobs, no huge
big retirement bank account and yet we
both are being guided and taken care
of from our belief and faith in the Man
upstairs.
We both have learned a lot in recovery
and have and still apply tools and knowledge
passed on to us to incorporate in our everyday
affairs.
As long as we stay true to ourselves, open,
honest and not taking things for granted,
then we believe we will be takin care of.
Less stress, less worry, less wondering,
less fear and so on in retirement.
I can relate. It wasn't a career thing for me it was I saw money as some kind of security. I left home at 19 with $50 and the promise that God would destroy the world and me with it in a matter of months at the most years. I always had this sense that everything could be taken from me at any moment. Time not spent making money for me was time wasted. It was necessary for me to work a lot to a point to survive but it also served as a distraction. At 28 I had my daughter and it kind of mellowed out because my priority shifted to her. Toward the very end of my drinking it ramped up again. Once again I think I used it as a distraction. I was so low it was the only thing I could tie any self esteem to. How big I could get my paychecks and how fast I could sock away money was how decent of a person I was.
That stopped the day I quit drinking. My focus has been getting myself better.
That stopped the day I quit drinking. My focus has been getting myself better.
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I had a recruiter bug me about a job once on a sunday evening. I replied back asking if he had anything better to do with his time on a sunday evening. We went back and forth he rambled on about how he loved his job etc.. I was thinking geeze on a sunday evening wouldnt you rather enjoy a show a book play with your kids look at the stars anything really other then work? Maybe work is his thing i guess. If thats the case ok no big deal.
I still have a hard time understanding why someone would wanna work on a sunday evening I mean like put in those extra hours type thing its one thing if thats just your time to work.
Now I know some folks in business for themselves can tend to never get a break. and even in that case I have to ask is that anyway to live?
I dunno I'd rather eat lima beans then be a slave. But there are those that work there butts off love what they do and dont feel that its work at all. There the lucky ones It hink so long as what there doing is not taking from soemthing else in there life IE kid wants attention but there too busy working or something.
I was told find something you love to do and do it for a living and you'll never work a day in your life. I still havent found that something yet myself. I thought I did till it wasnt working out. Perhaps I like change more then I realize.
I still have a hard time understanding why someone would wanna work on a sunday evening I mean like put in those extra hours type thing its one thing if thats just your time to work.
Now I know some folks in business for themselves can tend to never get a break. and even in that case I have to ask is that anyway to live?
I dunno I'd rather eat lima beans then be a slave. But there are those that work there butts off love what they do and dont feel that its work at all. There the lucky ones It hink so long as what there doing is not taking from soemthing else in there life IE kid wants attention but there too busy working or something.
I was told find something you love to do and do it for a living and you'll never work a day in your life. I still havent found that something yet myself. I thought I did till it wasnt working out. Perhaps I like change more then I realize.
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Zjw, is it that you think you have not found "the one" (work) externally speaking, or is it that somehow you have a tendency to not be satisfied and see flaws in everything? A bit like when we look for the ideal love/partner and it never happens? Don't get me wrong please, it's not a criticism, I just wonder.
Jeni, I hope you don't mind the hijack -- it's just that questions around careers have always interested me, even just on the theoretical levels: how we tend to choose, how to determine if something is a good fit or not etc. I deal with this often also in my work as I need to manage/supervise junior staff, and I choose to do it in ways which go beyond just the actual work per se, a bit like some sort of life-career coaching
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Zjw, is it that you think you have not found "the one" (work) externally speaking, or is it that somehow you have a tendency to not be satisfied and see flaws in everything? A bit like when we look for the ideal love/partner and it never happens? Don't get me wrong please, it's not a criticism, I just wonder.
I understand the sum of all things. Thats the beuty of my marriage or other jobs i've had over they years. I worked at a couple places before and they where far from perfect but you put it all together and it was and fit me well.
zjw, I won't claim to love my job, but I like it enough to stay engaged during the workday. My biggest problem at work is late afternoon fatigue.
I am a fan of taking breaks between jobs, however. Otherwise, I become burned out. I save a good chunk of my income and live below my means to retain the freedom to quit when I feel the need.
I am a fan of taking breaks between jobs, however. Otherwise, I become burned out. I save a good chunk of my income and live below my means to retain the freedom to quit when I feel the need.
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zjw, I won't claim to love my job, but I like it enough to stay engaged during the workday. My biggest problem at work is late afternoon fatigue.
I am a fan of taking breaks between jobs, however. Otherwise, I become burned out. I save a good chunk of my income and live below my means to retain the freedom to quit when I feel the need.
I am a fan of taking breaks between jobs, however. Otherwise, I become burned out. I save a good chunk of my income and live below my means to retain the freedom to quit when I feel the need.
Thats not a bad way to go. I've met a few folks over the years that where able to do stuff like that. then blow off however many months between jobs to unwind and enjoy themselves. not a bad way to go. I dont make enough myself to do that. In my case I'm not sure I'd wanna kill myself doing it (just the few i've known have had to really hustle for the money.).
I've had some great jobs over the years but the ones I loved the most wont pay me enough money to take care of my family sadly. I keep my ears open tho if a good opportunity comes along.
I've been addicted to work before, also other things like racing motorcycles. Now on the other side of addiction to alcohol, my perspective is quite different, but I do spend a lot more energy on my profession than I did in the 5+ years before alcohol really took over. People do things that are satisfying to them, and even and maybe especially the wealthiest people don't do it for the money, they do it for other reasons. Bill Gates comes to mind, he could have retired many years before he actually did, or Warren Buffett, who's still going strong at 85. As long as you keep a broad perspective and don't wrap your identity and self-esteem too tightly into any one thing, it's all good and beats the hell out of drinking.
Hi, Jeni --
I used to be more of a workaholic than I am now.
My boss is high-maintenance (euphemism). If I let her, she could be a bad trigger for me. Though from time to time work requires my attention after hours, I've worked hard to leave it behind me in the office. My sobriety -- and my overall peace of mind -- are too precious.
I used to be more of a workaholic than I am now.
My boss is high-maintenance (euphemism). If I let her, she could be a bad trigger for me. Though from time to time work requires my attention after hours, I've worked hard to leave it behind me in the office. My sobriety -- and my overall peace of mind -- are too precious.
When I drank, I worked to get money to spend on alcohol.
Now, I work because I truly love what I do.
But, I cannot forget principles like "Easy Does It".
The hook that God put in front of me to help get me into recovery was a fear of losing my job and ultimately my career.
I had the same job for many years after I got sober and parted ways with that firm on good terms for good reasons.
I wish them nothing but the best.
I cannot let myself get so caught up in work that I don't do the things that have helped me stay sober to date.
I've always been a pretty driven guy when it comes to work.
That was part of the reason I was in denial about my alcohol problem for so many years. I was very successful in my career, and at the end of a long day I would use a drink or two to "relax." Since I was successful, I didn't think I had a big alcohol problem, and that I could quit anytime if I needed too.
I was wrong about that. Now I strive to have better balance in my life, I'm not great at that, but I'm working on it.
That was part of the reason I was in denial about my alcohol problem for so many years. I was very successful in my career, and at the end of a long day I would use a drink or two to "relax." Since I was successful, I didn't think I had a big alcohol problem, and that I could quit anytime if I needed too.
I was wrong about that. Now I strive to have better balance in my life, I'm not great at that, but I'm working on it.
Yea, and sometimes I whine about it. And sometimes the whining is legitimate and other times, deep down, I know that I would work as hard and be as involved in any job I had.
That said, the company I am currently at requires we all work too many hours with the threat of layoff around every quarter. I've been looking for something else but have not been finding it.
That said, the company I am currently at requires we all work too many hours with the threat of layoff around every quarter. I've been looking for something else but have not been finding it.
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