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how many times did loved ones tell you to stop drinking ?



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View Poll Results: have many times were you told to stop drinking ?
0 -- 5 times told to stop
56.58%
5 -- 10
6.58%
10 -- 25
6.58%
25 -- 50
7.89%
more than 50 times told by someone to stop drinking
22.37%
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how many times did loved ones tell you to stop drinking ?

Old 10-13-2014, 01:08 PM
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My wife never really said it....i could see it in her eyes most mornings though.......
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Old 10-13-2014, 02:50 PM
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I was definitely told more than 50 times. SMH...

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Old 10-13-2014, 03:15 PM
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I have never been told by anyone to stop drinking. I think it is odd the stats show so many people in the 0-5 category. I thought I was unique, but very average I guess. It is odd though if you think about it. Obviously someone has a problem, but you don't address it? If a friend was limping with a nail clearly stuck in his/her foot, wouldn't you say something? Like, maybe you should pull that nail out.
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Old 10-13-2014, 05:12 PM
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Only a handful of times. My drinking was only at home and very secretive. Rarely in public. My mom told me once. Best friend once or twice.
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Old 10-13-2014, 06:37 PM
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Can you put a "lost count" option in the list ??

I'd tick that if I could.

Poll seems to reveal we are mostly fast or slow learners.

A few mild to medium stubborn peeps in the middle.
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Old 10-13-2014, 11:40 PM
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I was never told to stop as such but it was mentioned that I was drinking too much several times.
It was ok at first because I could drink too much and still function great, but when I hit 30 that all changed.
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Old 10-14-2014, 12:48 AM
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Originally Posted by MattM316 View Post
I was never told to stop as such but it was mentioned that I was drinking too much several times.
It was ok at first because I could drink too much and still function great, but when I hit 30 that all changed.
Hitting 30 something changed for me as well. The hangovers became nuclear and never ending.
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Old 10-14-2014, 03:33 AM
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Hitting 30 something changed for me as well. The hangovers became nuclear and never ending.
My body just seemed to say "that'll do" and it finally hit me.
Before that I could drink and drink and be pretty much fine.
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Old 10-14-2014, 04:18 AM
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I never listened anyway so the number of times seems irrelevant. The person I needed to be told by was myself, thankfully finally listened.
My mother always told me, just like she told my father before me, the constant nagging would give me the fuel needed to have a drink.
My father told me countless times, my daughter said she would prefer it if I didn't.
My husband allowed me to make my own choices and I blamed him for not stopping me drinking!!
Friends told me I needed to 'get it under control'
Countless professionals told me to stop binge drinking.

I never listened to anyone.

I am stubborn and selfish and I, ultimately, only answer to myself so when My younger self saw the déjà vu and the future being the same as the past, only worse.
Finally I listened, I shook myself until I listened to myself.
I'm still telling myself things, I just hope I listen

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I voted "0-5", and actually it was absolute O.

I was a closet drinker with all massive destruction targeted inside.

With "inside my heart is breaking but my smile still stays on".

I believe when I finally decided "show mustn't go on" , some "close" people around were not happy - I've taken on transformation from a vulnerable kid who was easy to manipulate to a grown up independent person who is ok with who I am, whether people like it or not.
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Old 10-14-2014, 05:46 AM
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I voted 10-25. Pretty hardheaded about.
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Old 10-14-2014, 06:21 AM
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thinking back, a couple times by my therapist. Sadly that was it.

Everyone else either:

- is a heavy drinker and wanted me to continue
- didn't know I had a problem, or
- minded their own business
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Old 10-22-2014, 02:14 AM
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My husband must have started to say it to me at least once a month but I didn't really pay attention until I wanted to stop and I'm 11 days sober today.
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Old 10-22-2014, 04:33 AM
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Never.
The man in the mirror told me. One day I listened.
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Old 10-22-2014, 05:10 AM
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never..i never told them about my drinking and they never knew..no scolding or shaming would change my behavior then or now...in one ear out the other
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Old 10-22-2014, 05:40 AM
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During a fight in the last 17 mo over how awful it was that I kicked RAH out when he relapsed, he looked me in the eye and said, "Why didn't you just tell me?"

Now in 18 years of marriage, I'm 100% sure I would qualify as a nagger for the ridiculous amount of times I asked RAH to deal with his problem. This is just verbal - let's not even try to factor in body language cues!

So this poll I amusingly think has nowhere near the right number of options and being an active addict I am confident stops up one's ears!
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Old 10-22-2014, 08:30 AM
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TMTC.

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Old 10-22-2014, 11:22 AM
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TMTC.

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Old 10-22-2014, 02:54 PM
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I think it might be too many to count?
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Old 10-23-2014, 06:56 PM
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not only my boss but his boss called me in on the carpet and told me I better stop drinking
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