Accused of drinking
Accused of drinking
First of all I haven't had a drink in 9 months. Yay me! Just really annoyed that my son's stepmother and I got into an argument this weekend and she said are you drunk again. Really hit below the belt. She knows how serious I take my sobriety and I'm having a difficult time healing from her comment.
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First of all I haven't had a drink in 9 months. Yay me! Just really annoyed that my son's stepmother and I got into an argument this weekend and she said are you drunk again. Really hit below the belt. She knows how serious I take my sobriety and I'm having a difficult time healing from her comment.
I had the same reaction when my mother called me a dry drunk. I know it is not the truth but it hurt.
I have to look at the source of the accusation. Do I really want to take the time to get angry over something, whirl about it and feel hurt when I consider the source?
No, I don't. You don't have to heal if you take the source of the accusation into consideration. What I was feeling was guilt from my past. I am not the same person anymore and today I can see it for what it really is.
I am not sober for others. I cannot people please. I have to be sober for me. If I know that I am sober, I am working a good program and I have my serenity intact, then comments such as those can be left on the other side of bridge with the rest of the baggage that has been discarded.
Throw it away and carry on
I have to look at the source of the accusation. Do I really want to take the time to get angry over something, whirl about it and feel hurt when I consider the source?
No, I don't. You don't have to heal if you take the source of the accusation into consideration. What I was feeling was guilt from my past. I am not the same person anymore and today I can see it for what it really is.
I am not sober for others. I cannot people please. I have to be sober for me. If I know that I am sober, I am working a good program and I have my serenity intact, then comments such as those can be left on the other side of bridge with the rest of the baggage that has been discarded.
Throw it away and carry on
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Congrats on 9 months! That's a long darn time ... But remember, we earned our reputations through our former actions.
People will throw it in your face. You will learn to get over it or get resentful and drink again. Good news is you have a choice.
Don't drink today and see what happens!
People will throw it in your face. You will learn to get over it or get resentful and drink again. Good news is you have a choice.
Don't drink today and see what happens!
Families are usually the last to come around mainly because there have been so many let downs in the past. I was wondering what action you have taken to heal this relationship from past mistakes.
If you have done what you can to set matters right, then it is not your problem. On the other hand, if you just carry on like nothing has happened, that family member may just feel that nothing has changed.
If you have done what you can to set matters right, then it is not your problem. On the other hand, if you just carry on like nothing has happened, that family member may just feel that nothing has changed.
My sister who is in recovery 2 years told ppl at Xmas my sobriety wouldn't last behind my back
Hard enough everyone drinking at my gf house and them not knowing I'm alcoholic
I pity ppl like this esp ones who know your in recovery ie other alcoholics or close family
I could get angry go on a rampage smash a head in etc .... Wheres that going to get me and I don't mean the prison cell what puts me in trouble ??
Thinking my thinking can do 2 things fight or flight (or as I prefer it not bothering)
If I fight I hurt myself and everything around me
And if I think I just can't be bothered you think what you want it ain't my business then I'm left with my resolve and I don't waste my time
If I cared what everybody thought of me i wouldn't really be me would I so don't worry brush it off it was a small minded comment maybe a lack of understanding on her part
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Hard enough everyone drinking at my gf house and them not knowing I'm alcoholic
I pity ppl like this esp ones who know your in recovery ie other alcoholics or close family
I could get angry go on a rampage smash a head in etc .... Wheres that going to get me and I don't mean the prison cell what puts me in trouble ??
Thinking my thinking can do 2 things fight or flight (or as I prefer it not bothering)
If I fight I hurt myself and everything around me
And if I think I just can't be bothered you think what you want it ain't my business then I'm left with my resolve and I don't waste my time
If I cared what everybody thought of me i wouldn't really be me would I so don't worry brush it off it was a small minded comment maybe a lack of understanding on her part
Alcoholic4life
Shrug it off and enjoy the double victory of 9 months sobriety and having made your point.
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What she thinks about you is none of your business. I have big issues when it comes to being blamed for something I didn't do. Congrats on your sobriety. You know and we know the truth. She is just a fly in the house...annoying but not important. Staying on track is all that matters.
I had another lawyer in town refer to me, outside of my presence, as a drunk after I had been sober 10 - 15 years.
Ironically, he was an extremely heavy drinker (perhaps one of us).
I got a chuckle out of it and would help him anytime if he ever decides to seek help.
Ironically, he was an extremely heavy drinker (perhaps one of us).
I got a chuckle out of it and would help him anytime if he ever decides to seek help.
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