Bully
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,859
Kate, oh Kate, dear sweet Kate - I am so distressed to hear what your daughter has done to you and how she has made you feel. There is no excuse for her behavior no matter what is in the past. Please don't let her derail you.
Hugs and more hugs, Kate. Keep moving forward in a positive way and keep setting a great example for your grandkids.
Hugs and more hugs, Kate. Keep moving forward in a positive way and keep setting a great example for your grandkids.
Recovered from Hopeless State
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: New Jersey, USA
Posts: 2,156
Stop hating her Kate. I'm in the same situation with my daughter and her sober but bully boyfriend (he just nuts) who both now live in my house. She's alcoholic and filled with hate. Hate (really blame and shame) is killing her and was killing me until I realized it. Now I feel bad for both of them and try (very difficult) to help them where I can.
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Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: Ireland
Posts: 244
Hi Kate.
I came on here 4 months ago. Suicidal, despairing and I thought my life was over.
You were the first person to send me a friend request and you answered several of my posts.
You made a difference to me. You helped me, a stranger.
Hang in there and I am sending you my love and prayers at this difficult time.
I came on here 4 months ago. Suicidal, despairing and I thought my life was over.
You were the first person to send me a friend request and you answered several of my posts.
You made a difference to me. You helped me, a stranger.
Hang in there and I am sending you my love and prayers at this difficult time.
Member
Join Date: Jan 2013
Location: Georgia
Posts: 3,062
We are here for you Kate; you have been there for so many of us. I'm sending you some positive thoughts and a great big hug. When I had my brain injury a year and 1/2 ago (that is what brought me to SR and getting sober), my thought process AND my emotions were really really screwed up. My guess is that the tumor could do this too. Treat yourself with kindness as you go through this journey.
Community Greeter
Join Date: Aug 2007
Location: Upstate New York
Posts: 51,537
Kate as others have said you're important to us and you are loved here. I hope you'll keep posting no matter what.
I'm glad you wanted to share what you were feeling. We're all in this together - we hold each other up - you're part of us and we care.
I'm glad you wanted to share what you were feeling. We're all in this together - we hold each other up - you're part of us and we care.
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Join Date: Feb 2010
Location: USA
Posts: 1,099
Hi Kate. Just want you to know I have three grown children and two grandkids. My oldest has said hurtful things to me in the past because she was angry at me for leaving her dad. I was so close to my kids when they were young but after the divorce they blamed me and my oldest was very hateful to me at times. I once felt very sad and in a dark place where I had thoughts to just take a bottle of sleeping pills and not wake up. I kept saying I don't want to be here if my kids hate me I have nothing. That was several years ago and I'm glad I didn't act on those thoughts. Still I remember how scared and hurt I felt. My kids have come around. They mostly call when they need me to keep the grandchildren. But I try to be there for them and not get too upset when they speak harshly to me. I hope you know you are not alone and work through those feelings. Don't let guilt torture you. We do that as moms. It's so easy to blame ourselves for everything that goes wrong. We are human and not perfect. Same goes for the kids. We all just do the best we can. Hugs. Please keep posting and know we are here for you. 
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Join Date: Jan 2014
Posts: 3,293
Kate, I'm so sorry you are going through this. Please remember, you are responsible for your behaviors, not hers. She's an adult, not a child. Don't let her, or anybody else undermine all the hard work you have put into your sobriety. You're a kind, caring person. Don't let anybody make you feel any different. How she is treating you is abuse. What advise would you give someone that is in an abusive relationship?
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Join Date: Feb 2014
Location: East Coast USA
Posts: 120,859
Message from KateL
Hello all. KateL just responded to my PM to her.
She asked me to let everyone know that she was in the hospital; she needed to have urgent thyroid surgery (her thyroid was the root of her depression).
She was using a hospital computer with limited time allowed so she couldn't respond to everyone who was concerned about her.
She asked me to let everyone know that she was in the hospital; she needed to have urgent thyroid surgery (her thyroid was the root of her depression).
She was using a hospital computer with limited time allowed so she couldn't respond to everyone who was concerned about her.
Recovered from Hopeless State
Join Date: Oct 2012
Location: New Jersey, USA
Posts: 2,156
Sorry to change the subject but... Hey Nevertheless, your avatar looks to me a whole like a Steen Skybolt. I know because I built one a few years ago for R/C flying. Remarkably I still have it in one piece, lol. I'm working on being able to post a picture of it and my 1/4 scale Cap232 (that plane not so lucky :-) ) soon. In the meantime, do you know a way to get your picture to me in higher resolution? I'd love to have one. Gratzi.
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