Told my sponsor about my relapse - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information

Sally1009 · 01-20-2012, 10:20 AM

Well, i told her. She was very nice about it, as you all said. But I still dont feel i connect with her enough to make it a really strong relationship. When I feel better I will try and tell her this. Its so important to get the right sponsor, and she just isnt right for me..

2granddaughters · 01-20-2012, 10:41 AM

WTG girl. Big step in the right direction.

langkah · 01-20-2012, 10:55 AM

Now get honest about it in your meetings. Doing that will prevent this from becoming a big deal in your mind.

Drinking again is nothing more than a signal the alcoholic doesn't yet understand, and it can often be the thing that sends them in what is ultimately a good direction, though it feels really lousy at the time.

You may well gain hugely from this experience and wind up more solid in your sobriety than if it had not happened.

jocata · 01-20-2012, 11:11 AM

I've learned alot from my relapses. For the first few, I just wasn't ready. As time went on, and I really did want to quit, I learned what a lot of my triggers are, and what NOT to do.

AA meetings and honesty are very important in my sobriety. If I stop doing those two things, I'm toast.

Way to get back in the saddle Sally.

God bless.

TheEnd · 01-20-2012, 04:40 PM

Glad things worked out for you. Just make sure your search for the "right" sponsor isn't just something inside that's missing. I have a friend who kept switching her sponsor, because she always felt like they weren't the right one. It turn out, it was just her and not the sponsor.

***PaperDolls*** · 01-23-2012, 08:07 AM

Great step Sally! Now, don't drag your feet on getting a new sponsor ..... you gotta get in there and work those steps girl!!

Sally1009 · 01-24-2012, 01:20 AM

Thanks everyone. Still sober but dreading going back to meeting and confessing my relapse to everyone. And I'm dreading firing my sponsor, but from the outset I should have known she wasn't right for me. To be really honest I chose her because she is at the centre of a large group of friends. I've been terribly lonely since my husband died, and it was nice having a circle of friends again. (I lost many due to my drinking). Where I live, a fairly remote rural area, AA meetings are few and far between, so if I lose my sponsor and her 'set', there arent going to be many people/women to fill that gap.
But I do need the right sponsor, and for the right reasons, even if it means lots of driving, I guess.

01-20-2012, 10:20 AM	#1 (permalink)
Sally1009 Sally1009 Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 458	Told my sponsor about my relapse Well, i told her. She was very nice about it, as you all said. But I still dont feel i connect with her enough to make it a really strong relationship. When I feel better I will try and tell her this. Its so important to get the right sponsor, and she just isnt right for me.. __________________ "Many men go fishing all their lives, without realising it's not fish that they're after" (Thoreau)

01-20-2012, 10:41 AM	#2 (permalink)
2granddaughters in my 24th year of sobriety Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Canada. About as far south as you can get Posts: 4,386	WTG girl. Big step in the right direction. __________________ . . .If you want to drink, that's your business ..... .If you want to quit, that's A.A.'s business. . . --- driven by a hundred forms of fear, self-delusion, self-seeking, and self-pity. . . L.D. 1989

01-20-2012, 04:40 PM	#5 (permalink)
TheEnd High on Life Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Been to Hell and Back Posts: 1,042	Glad things worked out for you. Just make sure your search for the "right" sponsor isn't just something inside that's missing. I have a friend who kept switching her sponsor, because she always felt like they weren't the right one. It turn out, it was just her and not the sponsor. __________________ "Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life."

01-23-2012, 08:07 AM	#6 (permalink)
*PaperDolls* Community Greeter Join Date: May 2004 Location: Midwest Posts: 7,752 Blog Entries: 10	Great step Sally! Now, don't drag your feet on getting a new sponsor ..... you gotta get in there and work those steps girl!! __________________ Advice is like snow; the softer it falls the longer it dwells upon, and the deeper it sinks into the mind. --Samuel T. Coleridg

01-24-2012, 01:20 AM	#7 (permalink)
Sally1009 Sally1009 Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: United Kingdom Posts: 458	Thanks everyone. Still sober but dreading going back to meeting and confessing my relapse to everyone. And I'm dreading firing my sponsor, but from the outset I should have known she wasn't right for me. To be really honest I chose her because she is at the centre of a large group of friends. I've been terribly lonely since my husband died, and it was nice having a circle of friends again. (I lost many due to my drinking). Where I live, a fairly remote rural area, AA meetings are few and far between, so if I lose my sponsor and her 'set', there arent going to be many people/women to fill that gap. But I do need the right sponsor, and for the right reasons, even if it means lots of driving, I guess. __________________ "Many men go fishing all their lives, without realising it's not fish that they're after" (Thoreau)

01-20-2012, 10:55 AM	#3 (permalink)
langkah Member Join Date: Oct 2011 Posts: 1,141	Now get honest about it in your meetings. Doing that will prevent this from becoming a big deal in your mind. Drinking again is nothing more than a signal the alcoholic doesn't yet understand, and it can often be the thing that sends them in what is ultimately a good direction, though it feels really lousy at the time. You may well gain hugely from this experience and wind up more solid in your sobriety than if it had not happened.

01-20-2012, 11:11 AM	#4 (permalink)
jocata Member Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Newburgh Posts: 869	I've learned alot from my relapses. For the first few, I just wasn't ready. As time went on, and I really did want to quit, I learned what a lot of my triggers are, and what NOT to do. AA meetings and honesty are very important in my sobriety. If I stop doing those two things, I'm toast. Way to get back in the saddle Sally. God bless.

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