5 days and then RELAPSE :(

[chiquen81]

me with the bat, to alcohol:



grrr

it was a party and someone offered to buy me a drink, and then two guys bought me drinks. well but no

i'm in a world of hurt today, pretty much both physically and mentally. any advice appreciated. went into the chat but nobody is around.

[smacked]

Well I would take it as a learning experience. What do you have in place in terms of a recovery program? You're going to be faced with much more intense challenges then a party.. and you'll want to know how to stay sober when life hands you something even more difficult.

I don't go to parties anymore, or bars.. or clubs. Because I'm a non-drinker. Kinda makes it an easier way to say no if I'm never in that situation

[chiquen81]

Well it was a relative's birthday party, so I had to go. I didn't HAVE to drink and could have said no.

I was feeling so good, looked good...felt great from resting all week and detoxing...and here i am now. In my bed feeling DOWN!

[chiquen81]

btw, smacked - you look really pretty in your photo.

[Lionne]

Hey Chiquen,

i'm in a world of hurt today, pretty much both physically and mentally

I have been there too. But this is not the end as long as you can find the courage to pick yourself up and try again. I have the same age you have had several tries at sobriety and am now a little over 5 months sober.

After five days sober, to be honest, I wouldn't have stood a chance if i had gone to a party-and during a prior attempt at sobriety I relapsed at a party when I had a month. I recommend you to avoid social activities that are centered around drinking that early into sobriety.
See it this way, you have learned something valuable from this experience- you have no control over these situations and it didn't work that way. Maybe you got close towards accepting that you have no control over alcohol. Now you have the opportunity to change your strategy and get better.
Drink lots of water, replenish your electrolytes and minerals to allow your body to restock on the fluids you lost. I don't want to give you a lecture, only I had a lot of days like these, and in retrospective, it is a good thing that one physically feels like crap, because that is the body saying that it can't take this much longer. How long until it finally will stop is either your decision or your body giving up at one point. Don't mean to be harsh, it simply a fact.

As for the mental side: Have you considered or are you going to alcohol counselling or meetings? Counselling, a local support group or your dr, can be helpful, you don't need to do this on your own. There are plenty of programs, twelve step-based or others. You can find information on the internet about groups in your area, and often there are even hotlines listed. Ultimately, you have to want to stay sober and get well for your own sake, but there is help out there if you want to have it. For me, lots of exercise helped to keep me distracted, doing things that didn't involve opr were centered around alcohol, as well as connecting to people that don't drink. I had to work a lot on some unresolved issues I had once I quit alcohol, and had to stand up for all the bs I did while I was drunk, but it was all worth it.

Ultimately, what it will take for one to get sober is something that is pretty individual, but these are some measures that increase your odds to eventually succeed. You can do it, just don't give up now, hugs,
S.

[wanttolive]

Well get up dust off and start over. You aren't the first and won't be the last to have this happen. Maybe feeling so crummy is a good thing. Next time try to remember how you are feeling now. You can do it but as others said it may be way to soon to be in that situation. Good Luck to you!

[AlwaysGrowing]

chiquen81

Today is another day. Today can be the first day of your sober life. Now for the soapbox.

I fought for everyones right in the US to be free and have choices. I DON'T have to do anything, even a birthday party, Turkey day party etc.

I chose to be around AA members and setup/clean up before/after meetings. There are OTHER choices, just look for them.

Set yourself up for success not failure.

Down the road attending such events will not be such tempation but for now do what YOU need to do.

If person who has a BIG weight problem isn't going to pick a salad off the menu EVERYTIME when going to BurgerKing.

Plan ahead. Know where the meetings are...

Jumping off soapbox now.

All the above is written with love!

AG

[TheSunAlsoRises]

Originally Posted by chiquen81

me with the bat, to alcohol:

Seems more like alcohol with the bat to you... its a nasty illness as others have said try to set up a program of recovery... & Keep posting