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chango · 10-26-2009, 12:27 PM

I have been having such a hard time lately. I have almost 3 years sober and the last two years have been so rough. I had several surgeries, family members passed on, I'm in a dead end job, my marriage is shaky. But my cat dying so suddenly and so young is just so hard for me.

I am not really at risk of drinking, I don't think, but I am just struggling so hard right now. I can't believe she's gone. She was so young. I miss her so much. I hurts like hell. I just want to drown the pain. I won't but goddamnit I want to.

GrizeldasMum · 10-26-2009, 12:33 PM

I know your pain as I've 'lost' 3 cats over the years. It always hurts but believe me the time will come when you'll be able to smile at the memories she's left you.

smacked · 10-26-2009, 12:38 PM

I'm sorry.. I usually like animals way better than I like people.. and it sucks that they can't live forever!

Stay strong hun.

**CarolD** · 10-26-2009, 01:03 PM

I am sorry

vegibean · 10-26-2009, 01:25 PM

I am so, so sorry.

Asta1 · 10-26-2009, 01:50 PM

My sympathies. I have had pets most of my life, both cats and dogs, and lost them to old age and cancer mostly. The only thing that helps, I found, is time. Hang in there.

***Freedom1990*** · 10-26-2009, 02:03 PM

My heart hurts for you. I have several cats myself, and have lost many over the years. Please be gentle with yourself, and know I am sending gentle hugs your way. :ghug2

Charmie · 10-26-2009, 02:15 PM

sorry for your loss.i love cats too.

fragrantrose · 10-26-2009, 02:23 PM

I am so sorry, I am an animal lover (more than people) they are god's gift to us

gravity · 10-26-2009, 02:25 PM

I am going through some serious difficulties in my life as well - immediate family, extended family, and work.

I am really using a strong support network to keep moving forward, one day at a time. My sponsor, my sister, and most recently a counselor. I was also diagnosed with depression and I have started taking meds. And I do lots of prayer & meditation.

As tough as things are, I know that I will come out of this a stronger man. This too shall pass. My self-confidence has taken a beating but I am slowly coming out of it. I actually feel good today!

Reach out for support! You are a good person. And take it easy on yourself.

least · 10-26-2009, 02:30 PM

I regard my cats and dogs as family and am as devastated by their loss as I would be at losing one of my human family. My thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of loss.

mirage · 10-26-2009, 02:55 PM

I'm sorry to hear about your sadness,

chango. Hang in there...

chango · 10-26-2009, 02:56 PM

thanks everyone.

jeez, i don't think I have ever cried this many days in a row.

I am stupid mess.

Trippstar · 10-26-2009, 03:10 PM

Heya Chango, I lost my dog awhile back and I cried like a baby had too watch him get put down. He still lives on with me though most disobedient dog Ive ever had.

ElegantlyWasted · 10-26-2009, 03:23 PM

Sympathies out to you... Have two cats that have been through alot w/ me. I d dialed the vet once when my my cat relapsed, and vented about alot of irrelavent crap... Hmmmm. Probably the $800 bill that was a stewing resentment.

NoMoBeer · 10-26-2009, 03:24 PM

Sorry for your loss... and of the rough road you have had. I can relate.

I have been sober 5 years and they have probably been the 5 hardest years of my life. But no way I would trade them in for 5 years drunk!

Cry, pray, talk to friends, your sponsor, meetings, let the feelings out -- the blessing is that without drinking we now have feelings.

Sorry again....

tigers13 · 10-26-2009, 03:45 PM

Oh Chango, I am so sorry for your loss. People that aren't animal lovers can never understand the pain at the loss of one of our "babies". My dogs are like kids to me...and I cried like a baby last year when my favorite fish died. Sending hugs to you.

**Ann** · 10-26-2009, 03:49 PM

In July I lost my 19 year old orange tabby, Toby, and it just broke my heart. I knew it was his time, but he had been such a part of me and my family, and the loss was much harder than I thought it would be.

Let yourself cry and feel sad, just don't hang out there too long. It takes time, but the pain doesn't last forever. It's been 3 months since my cat died and I am only now able to talk about him without crying.

Hugs

Trippstar · 10-26-2009, 04:08 PM

This thread is making me cry. Brings back loads of good memories

My dog was so disobedient you had tooo wait by the water bowl that the park keeper left for the dogs running around or he would be out for like 8 hours running he was a greyhound/whippet.

aasharon90 · 10-26-2009, 04:28 PM

Knowing that our loved pets have a
place to go once their little souls
have passed on makes missing them
less painful.

Rainbow Bridge is the place one of
our own SR members explained to me
is where they go.

Maybe Anna will share that story here
for us.

I try to remember that all that is
left from human beings or pets
is a shell. The soul leaves it and
passes on to a better place.

Knowing that helps me cope when
i see a dead animal on the road.

Dawnmha · 10-26-2009, 04:33 PM

I lost a cat about 3.5 weeks ago and I don't even know for sure what happened. He is an indoor cat and somehow he got out (probably when I let my dogs out before bed) and I cannot find any trace of him anywhere. I called the Humane Society, put a lost ad in the local paper, told all the neighbors and have looked everywhere daily and even nightly. It is heartbreaking I know. Pet loss can be very devastating for one thing because you take care of them and you feel so helpless when something happens to them. In my case the not knowing really bothers me. But,I just wanted to say that I really feel for you and you should allow yourself to grieve as much as you need. I hope things get better and hey you should be very proud to have as much sobriety in as you do.

Dawn

Serenity Bound · 10-26-2009, 04:53 PM

So sorry to hear about your loss. Our pets are very precious members of our family. I have lost many over the years, currently nursing a bunny back to health (been over a month now) Have 1 cats & 3 bunnies, currently.

I,too, know the hurt when they disappear, we had a 12 1/2 yr old dog that disappeared, and I still think of him these many years later.

I have alot of family members (pets) waiting at Rainbow Bridge.

ClosetExtrovert · 10-26-2009, 07:07 PM

Awww..I'm sorry.

Zebra1275 · 10-26-2009, 07:22 PM

Sorry for your loss.

Grieve, but then go to the shelter and get another kitten. Even better, get two, it's so much fun to watch them interact. We have 3 cats, with 3 distinct personalities, and they bring a lot of joy to our lives.

rondfw777 · 10-26-2009, 08:49 PM

Not much of a cat lover,but a pet is a friend and hate to hear you lost a friend. It's gonna be a funeral for sure when my wifes Taco Dog dies. Always be prepared though, I have the shovel on standbye!

Sorry for your loss,

Ron

10-26-2009, 12:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
chango Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 88	My cat died... I have been having such a hard time lately. I have almost 3 years sober and the last two years have been so rough. I had several surgeries, family members passed on, I'm in a dead end job, my marriage is shaky. But my cat dying so suddenly and so young is just so hard for me. I am not really at risk of drinking, I don't think, but I am just struggling so hard right now. I can't believe she's gone. She was so young. I miss her so much. I hurts like hell. I just want to drown the pain. I won't but goddamnit I want to.

10-26-2009, 12:38 PM	#3 (permalink)
smacked Heathen Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: La La Land, USA Posts: 2,349	I'm sorry.. I usually like animals way better than I like people.. and it sucks that they can't live forever! Stay strong hun. __________________

10-26-2009, 01:03 PM	#4 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Serene In Dixie Posts: 34,835	I am sorry __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

10-26-2009, 01:25 PM	#5 (permalink)
vegibean Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: SE and then South some more Posts: 1,872	I am so, so sorry. __________________ If you think you can or cannot, you are right. Sober Since October 17, 2007

10-26-2009, 02:03 PM	#7 (permalink)
*Freedom1990* Wesley Employee Extraordinaire Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Kansas Posts: 9,339	My heart hurts for you. I have several cats myself, and have lost many over the years. Please be gentle with yourself, and know I am sending gentle hugs your way. :ghug2 __________________ DeVon & the Zoo Crew ‎Worry is a thin stream of fear trickling through the mind. If encouraged, it cuts a channel into which all other thoughts are drained. ~Arthur Somers Roche

10-26-2009, 12:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
GrizeldasMum Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Edinburgh, Scotland Posts: 8	I know your pain as I've 'lost' 3 cats over the years. It always hurts but believe me the time will come when you'll be able to smile at the memories she's left you.

10-26-2009, 01:50 PM	#6 (permalink)
Asta1 Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 611	My sympathies. I have had pets most of my life, both cats and dogs, and lost them to old age and cancer mostly. The only thing that helps, I found, is time. Hang in there.

10-26-2009, 02:15 PM	#8 (permalink)
Charmie Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 1,322	sorry for your loss.i love cats too.

10-26-2009, 02:23 PM	#9 (permalink)
fragrantrose seeking recovery Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Sydney,NSW Posts: 170	I am so sorry, I am an animal lover (more than people) they are god's gift to us

10-26-2009, 02:25 PM	#10 (permalink)
gravity where the light is Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 2,707	I am going through some serious difficulties in my life as well - immediate family, extended family, and work. I am really using a strong support network to keep moving forward, one day at a time. My sponsor, my sister, and most recently a counselor. I was also diagnosed with depression and I have started taking meds. And I do lots of prayer & meditation. As tough as things are, I know that I will come out of this a stronger man. This too shall pass. My self-confidence has taken a beating but I am slowly coming out of it. I actually feel good today! Reach out for support! You are a good person. And take it easy on yourself. __________________ It's times like these you learn to live again. It's times like these you give and give again. It's times like these you learn to love again. It's times like these time and time again. Times Like These - Foo Fighters

10-26-2009, 02:30 PM	#11 (permalink)
least bona fido dog-lover Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: eastern USA Posts: 23,503 Blog Entries: 31	I regard my cats and dogs as family and am as devastated by their loss as I would be at losing one of my human family. My thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of loss. __________________ I'd rather live in my car with my dogs than live in a castle without them. Dogs may not be our whole lives, but they make our lives whole. Don't wait for the Last Judgement. It takes place every day. -Albert Camus Find the good and praise it. - Alex Haley

10-26-2009, 02:55 PM	#12 (permalink)
mirage Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Michigan Posts: 1,556	I'm sorry to hear about your sadness, chango. Hang in there... __________________ "Just keep swimming" - Dory

10-26-2009, 02:56 PM	#13 (permalink)
chango Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Posts: 88	thanks everyone. jeez, i don't think I have ever cried this many days in a row. I am stupid mess.

10-26-2009, 03:10 PM	#14 (permalink)
Trippstar Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Basingstoke UK Posts: 139	Heya Chango, I lost my dog awhile back and I cried like a baby had too watch him get put down. He still lives on with me though most disobedient dog Ive ever had. __________________ Hello, my name is Kev add alcohol and I'm not Kev.

10-26-2009, 03:23 PM	#15 (permalink)
ElegantlyWasted Excellence... not Perfection Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: AZ Posts: 1,190 Blog Entries: 8	Sympathies out to you... Have two cats that have been through alot w/ me. I d dialed the vet once when my my cat relapsed, and vented about alot of irrelavent crap... Hmmmm. Probably the $800 bill that was a stewing resentment. __________________ "We're all told at some point in time that we can no longer play the children's game, we just don't...we don't know when that's gonna be. Some of us are told at eighteen, some of us are told at forty, but we're all told."

10-26-2009, 03:24 PM	#16 (permalink)
NoMoBeer Member Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Arizona Posts: 872	Sorry for your loss... and of the rough road you have had. I can relate. I have been sober 5 years and they have probably been the 5 hardest years of my life. But no way I would trade them in for 5 years drunk! Cry, pray, talk to friends, your sponsor, meetings, let the feelings out -- the blessing is that without drinking we now have feelings. Sorry again.... __________________ "Run with endurance the race God has set out before you..." -- Hebrews 12

10-26-2009, 03:45 PM	#17 (permalink)
tigers13 Love my puppies Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: lala land Posts: 150	Oh Chango, I am so sorry for your loss. People that aren't animal lovers can never understand the pain at the loss of one of our "babies". My dogs are like kids to me...and I cried like a baby last year when my favorite fish died. Sending hugs to you.

10-26-2009, 03:49 PM	#18 (permalink)
Ann Forum Leader Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: By The Lake Posts: 25,172	In July I lost my 19 year old orange tabby, Toby, and it just broke my heart. I knew it was his time, but he had been such a part of me and my family, and the loss was much harder than I thought it would be. Let yourself cry and feel sad, just don't hang out there too long. It takes time, but the pain doesn't last forever. It's been 3 months since my cat died and I am only now able to talk about him without crying. Hugs __________________ “Promise me you'll always remember: You're braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~Winnie the Pooh~

10-26-2009, 04:08 PM	#19 (permalink)
Trippstar Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Basingstoke UK Posts: 139	This thread is making me cry. Brings back loads of good memories My dog was so disobedient you had tooo wait by the water bowl that the park keeper left for the dogs running around or he would be out for like 8 hours running he was a greyhound/whippet. __________________ Hello, my name is Kev add alcohol and I'm not Kev.

10-26-2009, 04:28 PM	#20 (permalink)
aasharon90 Member Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Baton Rouge, La. Posts: 4,853	Knowing that our loved pets have a place to go once their little souls have passed on makes missing them less painful. Rainbow Bridge is the place one of our own SR members explained to me is where they go. Maybe Anna will share that story here for us. I try to remember that all that is left from human beings or pets is a shell. The soul leaves it and passes on to a better place. Knowing that helps me cope when i see a dead animal on the road. __________________ "A FRIEND IN NEED IS A FRIEND INDEED" SHARON B. Baton Rouge, La. 8-11-90 I turn my will and life over to the care of a Power greater than I on a daily bases for guidance, care and protection.

10-26-2009, 04:33 PM	#21 (permalink)
Dawnmha Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Clinton, IA. Posts: 26	Feel for you I lost a cat about 3.5 weeks ago and I don't even know for sure what happened. He is an indoor cat and somehow he got out (probably when I let my dogs out before bed) and I cannot find any trace of him anywhere. I called the Humane Society, put a lost ad in the local paper, told all the neighbors and have looked everywhere daily and even nightly. It is heartbreaking I know. Pet loss can be very devastating for one thing because you take care of them and you feel so helpless when something happens to them. In my case the not knowing really bothers me. But,I just wanted to say that I really feel for you and you should allow yourself to grieve as much as you need. I hope things get better and hey you should be very proud to have as much sobriety in as you do. Dawn

10-26-2009, 04:53 PM	#22 (permalink)
Serenity Bound Member Join Date: Aug 2005 Location: Home of the Ravens-MD Posts: 1,342	So sorry to hear about your loss. Our pets are very precious members of our family. I have lost many over the years, currently nursing a bunny back to health (been over a month now) Have 1 cats & 3 bunnies, currently. I,too, know the hurt when they disappear, we had a 12 1/2 yr old dog that disappeared, and I still think of him these many years later. I have alot of family members (pets) waiting at Rainbow Bridge.

10-26-2009, 07:07 PM	#23 (permalink)
ClosetExtrovert Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: New Jersey Posts: 232	Awww..I'm sorry.

10-26-2009, 07:22 PM	#24 (permalink)
Zebra1275 Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 2,493	Sorry for your loss. Grieve, but then go to the shelter and get another kitten. Even better, get two, it's so much fun to watch them interact. We have 3 cats, with 3 distinct personalities, and they bring a lot of joy to our lives.

10-26-2009, 08:49 PM	#25 (permalink)
rondfw777 Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Fort Worth, Tx Posts: 92	Not much of a cat lover,but a pet is a friend and hate to hear you lost a friend. It's gonna be a funeral for sure when my wifes Taco Dog dies. Always be prepared though, I have the shovel on standbye! Sorry for your loss, Ron __________________ I believe it's the 10 Commandments! Not the 10 Suggestions! And I broke everyone of them.

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