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sunrise1 · 10-10-2009, 08:53 AM

Well, last night, despite warnings, it happened to me. I thought the bartender knew me well enough for me to order a "virgin rum and diet"... and just a sip told me that he is lacking in the sense of humor dept!!! I quickly pushed it towards hubby and said that I had really wanted a diet... was just trying to be funny and all... anyway, joke's on me but I am fine. Although the taste was grand, I didn't miss it or obsess about it all night.

CarolD had made mention of always smelling my drinks- - and that even crossed my mind before I sipped- but I thought, "oh for sure, it's the same thing I've been ordering for months"... WRONG. I won't make that mistake again!

smacked · 10-10-2009, 09:35 AM

When I quit drinking, I also quit going to bars.. I have no reason to hang out in that environment anymore.

Be careful out there

NewMe11109 · 10-10-2009, 09:35 AM

Well done sunrise!

Once I worked on the root causes of my alcoholism, someone tricking me into taking a sip did not trigger my cravings. It was only if my mind decided I was "ok to drink" that I truly relapsed. So, your response is powerful - and you should be thrilled with how you responded - a true sign of someone who is doing great in recovery.

But yes, I too do a double check every time the bartender gives me a drink. They sometimes get busy and just forget.

I can learn a lot from you. Thanks!

**CarolD** · 10-10-2009, 12:58 PM

Like you .... I did work around alcohol for awhile in early sobriety.
That's how I knew to pass along "Smell before you sip" ....

No ... you need not re start your sobriety date.
Yes ... I'm glad you shared on your continuing progress.

Let's both enjoy another day of winning over alcohol

baldjim · 10-10-2009, 01:31 PM

i dont want to drink so i dont drink simples

i dont get tempted to drink if i'm out in pubs but drunks really annoy me

i think i'm so glad i'm not like that any more

if you dont want to drink ...just dont drink

the answer is so very simple even if it is hard to do (borrowed from an sr geniuse)

AlwaysGrowing · 10-10-2009, 01:32 PM

18 years later if I am at some event and ask the bartender for a coke, I ALWAYS watch to make sure it is straight coke. Where there is a bar there is noise.....

NewBeginning010 · 10-10-2009, 01:40 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by sunrise1

I thought the bartender knew me well enough for me to order a "virgin rum and diet"... and just a sip told me that he is lacking in the sense of humor dept!!!

I have never heard of a "virgin rum & diet" is that a common way to order a virgin rum & coke... actually didn't you just want a coke? Sorry I am confused lol maybe the bartender was too

smacked · 10-10-2009, 02:02 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by NewBeginning010

I have never heard of a "virgin rum & diet" is that a common way to order a virgin rum & coke... actually didn't you just want a coke? Sorry I am confused lol maybe the bartender was too

LOL good point! That definitely would have caused some confusion to me in my bartending days! I think however that the OP meant it as a joke or something... might not wanna do that one again. Sorry if I'm wrong on assuming that!

sunrise1 · 10-10-2009, 09:44 PM

I've been playing at this particular place for months and months... several months ago my bar bill dropped to zero when I started only ordering diets. I thought it would be funny- - a virgin rum and diet being just a diet. Ah well, maybe not so funny.

In the end, it was no big deal; it was the tiniest of sips and I know my sobriety date is intact. I wasn't obsessed for the rest of the night, and all was ok.

TheSunAlsoRises · 10-11-2009, 12:34 AM

Great to hear you didn't start obsessing about it. That's fantastic.

McGowdog · 10-11-2009, 01:20 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by smacked

When I quit drinking, I also quit going to bars.. I have no reason to hang out in that environment anymore.

Be careful out there

My experience too. And if I go to that bar, I take responsibility for anything I drink or eat while I'm there. Doesn't have to be at a bar either.

Virgin rum and diet? How bout' just ordering a Roy Rogers or something? Maybe a Shirley Temple? Do they make a diet shirley temple?

tigers13 · 10-11-2009, 03:36 PM

Way to go! Be proud of yourself! You done good!

10-10-2009, 08:53 AM	#1 (permalink)
sunrise1 Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Florida Panhandle, USA Posts: 532 Blog Entries: 1	It happened to me Well, last night, despite warnings, it happened to me. I thought the bartender knew me well enough for me to order a "virgin rum and diet"... and just a sip told me that he is lacking in the sense of humor dept!!! I quickly pushed it towards hubby and said that I had really wanted a diet... was just trying to be funny and all... anyway, joke's on me but I am fine. Although the taste was grand, I didn't miss it or obsess about it all night. CarolD had made mention of always smelling my drinks- - and that even crossed my mind before I sipped- but I thought, "oh for sure, it's the same thing I've been ordering for months"... WRONG. I won't make that mistake again!

10-10-2009, 09:35 AM	#2 (permalink)
smacked Heathen Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: La La Land, USA Posts: 2,349	When I quit drinking, I also quit going to bars.. I have no reason to hang out in that environment anymore. Be careful out there __________________

10-10-2009, 09:35 AM	#3 (permalink)
NewMe11109 The New Me starting 1/11/09 Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: California Posts: 631	Well done sunrise! Once I worked on the root causes of my alcoholism, someone tricking me into taking a sip did not trigger my cravings. It was only if my mind decided I was "ok to drink" that I truly relapsed. So, your response is powerful - and you should be thrilled with how you responded - a true sign of someone who is doing great in recovery. But yes, I too do a double check every time the bartender gives me a drink. They sometimes get busy and just forget. I can learn a lot from you. Thanks! __________________ The New Me as of 1/11/09 Still searching for that darn wisdom to know the difference. Do you know where I can find some?

10-10-2009, 12:58 PM	#4 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Serene In Dixie Posts: 34,835	Like you .... I did work around alcohol for awhile in early sobriety. That's how I knew to pass along "Smell before you sip" .... No ... you need not re start your sobriety date. Yes ... I'm glad you shared on your continuing progress. Let's both enjoy another day of winning over alcohol __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

10-10-2009, 01:31 PM	#5 (permalink)
baldjim jimbo Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: london berks England Posts: 426 Blog Entries: 2	i dont want to drink so i dont drink simples i dont get tempted to drink if i'm out in pubs but drunks really annoy me i think i'm so glad i'm not like that any more if you dont want to drink ...just dont drink the answer is so very simple even if it is hard to do (borrowed from an sr geniuse) __________________ using my personality as contraception since 1976

10-10-2009, 01:32 PM	#6 (permalink)
AlwaysGrowing Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Alabama Posts: 265	18 years later if I am at some event and ask the bartender for a coke, I ALWAYS watch to make sure it is straight coke. Where there is a bar there is noise.....

10-10-2009, 09:44 PM	#9 (permalink)
sunrise1 Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Florida Panhandle, USA Posts: 532 Blog Entries: 1	I've been playing at this particular place for months and months... several months ago my bar bill dropped to zero when I started only ordering diets. I thought it would be funny- - a virgin rum and diet being just a diet. Ah well, maybe not so funny. In the end, it was no big deal; it was the tiniest of sips and I know my sobriety date is intact. I wasn't obsessed for the rest of the night, and all was ok.

10-11-2009, 12:34 AM	#10 (permalink)
TheSunAlsoRises Member Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Traveling in Europe Posts: 414	Great to hear you didn't start obsessing about it. That's fantastic.

10-11-2009, 03:36 PM	#12 (permalink)
tigers13 Love my puppies Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: lala land Posts: 150	Way to go! Be proud of yourself! You done good!

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