A person who blames everything on my addiction

[suki44883]

Just because someone works in the mental health field doesn't mean they are experts at anything. I work in a law firm but I'm certainly not an expert on the law. I tell people I know just enough to be dangerous. Sounds like he does, too.

[Katie09]

Originally Posted by suki44883

Just because someone works in the mental health field doesn't mean they are experts at anything. I work in a law firm but I'm certainly not an expert on the law. I tell people I know just enough to be dangerous. Sounds like he does, too.

Yes, you are right. I've done jobs wherein I didn't have a clue about a lot. And still, even though people might think they really know what is going on, it doesn't make it so. It just irks me when he tells me that he talked to so and so in such and such capacity and that they say I am this, that or the other - like I am some moron with no insight or self awareness. And it really irks me even more that my aftercare facilitator and several in that organization know him and think so highly of him. If they only knew....

I really appreciate everyone's help here. For the sake of my mental health primarily and in order not to drink, of course, I am just going to have to accept that this person is toxic period and walk away. There is no way to change him and I'll only go crazy if I try to understand why he is such a flip flopping, lying, ego maniacal, womanizing creep. It just doesn't seem fair he gets away with what he does. Certainly Karma will come into play at some point - I hope. OTOH and actually, I am sort of relieved to tell you the truth. Now I can just focus on me and doing what I need to do to get on with the business of recovery.

[joedris]

Katie, I'm glad that you're making the decision to bail out. I know that it's painful right now, but that will go away in time. And the thing about pain is that we grow stronger for it, as we learn from it. And your mental health expert is a moron. If others think highly of him, then they don't know him for what he is. Whatever gave him the right to discuss you with other "experts", if in fact he actually did.

You've made a decision that will probably be one of the most important ones you'll ever make. Nothing but good things will come from it. I sincerely wish you the best of luck, and I've no doubt that you're going to be successful in sobriety.