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04-28-2006, 10:11 AM
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| Member  Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: The Netherlands
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Hey people, I'm back on day 1.... feeling totally like sh*t... Tense, emotionally vulnerable (an understatement if you ask me...) and generally unwell. Don't know if you can remember but my gf and I broke up 2 months ago, mostly due to my drinking. I can't seem to think about anything but that. Very depressed. I should be quitting for myself but I guess I don't like myself too much... Could do with some good advice. Oh well.
__________________ "Let me light my lamp," said the star, "and never question if it will help remove the darkness." |
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04-28-2006, 12:03 PM
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AA teaches me that there's more to quitting drinking than quitting drinking... get to a meeting, get a sponsor, get to work on the steps.
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04-28-2006, 03:06 PM
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"We did not become alcoholic overnite, nor do years of twisted thinking and depression vanish in a twinkling." I know of your situation from my own firsthand experience. There is no way out but through the pain. The booze will only serve to bog you down and keep you where you're at. Quelling away the emotional pain and depression(yes, the big D word) with alcohol is a temporary fix at best. A thousand mile journey begins with one step and all that other happy horses#%t. Get out of your head by getting to some meetings. Peace to you. May peace of mind grow to dominate your day. -Wolfman | |
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04-28-2006, 05:07 PM
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If you don't take that first drink, you can't get drunk. As heard in AA meetings. Also heard in meetings ... you won't know what happens to people who don't go to meetings if you don't go to meetings!! For me ... the solution would be to run, not walk, to a meeting ... Whatever you decide ... I echo what JustMe said ... DON'T DRINK!! ...
__________________  If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, it will be enough.- Meister Eckhart If you are headed in the wrong direction ... God allows U-Turns |
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04-28-2006, 06:16 PM
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Hey FD it is good to see you again. Yes I remember that breakup with your girlfriend.I know it must still hurt and the remorse is still there but you will never get over that grief as long as you continue to drink.You may numb it and shove it in a dark closet but there will never be closure. It will take a while but as long as you begin to grow in recovery you will learn to forgive yourself and move on. The best thing we can do for people we really love is to let them go. I have no advice to give you but I believe you already understand what you must do. The best I can do is encourage you to continue going to meetings and put your trust in a programme that can help you find the courage to want to live a sober life. |
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04-30-2006, 03:15 PM
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drank again today, 3 days sober.... it's as if I can't do it, as if I'm losing my identity and going mad...... sorry.....
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04-30-2006, 03:28 PM
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04-30-2006, 03:40 PM
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So you want to be sober as much as you want to drink? If so get to f2f's, find something greater than yourself to believe in and find a sponsor and keep on sharing. It works if you work it. Sorry about the cliche! Kasia |
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04-30-2006, 03:55 PM
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Good Luck ...
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04-30-2006, 04:04 PM
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| Member Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Charlotte,NC
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The thing about this whole matter is that you can if you want to stop drinking. If you want to stop, there is nobody or nothing that can stand in your way. My only advice to you is to read Alcoholics Anonymous (The Big Book) if you haven't already. And if you have in the past, I would suggest reading it again. Read the stories in the back of the book as I believe this will give you hope that you can indeed quit. I'm sorry about your girlfriend and that things didn't work out the way you had them planned. But this is just another bump in the road and another reason to justify drinking. What if you lose your job or don't get the promotion that you deserve? What will you do the next time something unpleasant happens? If you are like most drunks, we will or have turned to the bottle for answers. It's the cure-all for every type of malady. If it's not your girl, it will be some other excuse to drink. I hope you find help and succeed if you want to live a sober life. There is hope and it can be done. AA is a great road to recovery and it can help. Good luck and God Bless. | |
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