Let It Go Already!!

[Little Missy]

I seem to have this problem with letting things go. It is when someone I care about or consider a friend hurts my feelings. I say prayers for them and about the situation. Which does work for a little while. Then BANG, it's back in my head again.

I have this huge urge to say something. Like, I have been wronged and they need to know they have done this to me. I know that's not the way I should be, but that's the way I feel.

This is all a learning process. I have to learn to let it go, and keep my mouth shut!! Very hard for an in your face drunk!!

So, how do you know when you should tell someone they have hurt you and when to just let it go? I guess it depends on each situation. Am I just wanting to prove that I am right? Boost the ego a little. Or do I want to make my feelings known to maybe not get hurt in the future?

How do you guys to it? Do you just dismiss the thought like we do when the thought of drinking pops into our heads?

Confused as usual,
Missy

[historyteach]

I've recently read something interesting. That which causes you obsticles is that which you need to work on.....
I can't answer your question. It's hard for me too...
Shalom!

[CarolD]

I try to remember...."How Important Is It?'

If it is an on going serious situation...I will speak to the person.

Something like,,,
"When you did that I was upset.
How can we get past our differences?"

Speaking of being right... I would rather be serene.

Blessings...

[Little Missy]

Originally Posted by CarolD

Speaking of being right... I would rather be serene.

Blessings...

I totally agree!!

[Bozo]

You might be confused now, but be kind and gentle to yourself and do not put yourself down.

I have read many of your posts and find you to be bright and informative.

I think you raise a tremendously important point of sticking up for ourselves and it dovetails perfectly with Carols, "How important is it?"

I really must give this some serious thought before replying. I believe it is VERY IMPORTANT to you and your recovery.

For me, emotional sobriety has been the hardest, but what the hell, we alkies like a challenge, right?

[Cap3]

Personally i pray/meditate.Keeping my focus on forgiveness.Asking for God to give me the fogiving heart,and mind.Also i pray for another.That they have all in their lives,as i would want to myself.Example,praying for their peace,inside of them.I then look at my part in da mess.If ive not played a part,phyically i have at least mentally played my part,by all that im feeling about another.realizing that i too have made mistakes,helps put things into perceptive for me..Sometimes i even write a letter,to the person,and tear it up later.Truth for me,is that it was never what others said and done.I came to realize,that hurt me so much.The issue was/is what am i telling myself about all of this?I was hurting myself.Another has moved on.Im the one who hasnt.
Thanks for letting me share,
God Bless,take care!!!!!!!