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perbear · 06-14-2005, 06:00 PM

Hi this is my first time posting a thread. I am 19 years sober and I have just went through the most difficult year in my sobriety. I went off work due to medical reasons and have been dealing with chronic pain from my many car accidents in my drinking years. I then had my wife diagnosed with a brain tumor that she ended up having surgery at the mayo clinic and thankfully the surgery was successful but she needed allot of help in functioning which was a real strain on me as I was in a lot of pain also. I have 2 children living at home my youngest is a 9 year old boy and has cerebral palsy and needs alot of care and attention as well. He is an awesome child he shows me how to truly accept life on lifes terms. He is always happy and on the go. My daughter is 17 and has been a big help with caring for my wife and son but has her own teenage struggles to go through. Now that my wife is better and able to take care of herself we decided to seperate in the beggining of May so she can deal with individual issues that have been interfering in our relationship for many years. I have the children and would have it no other way. I don't get out to many meetings about 1 a week so SR has been a great access to recovery without having to leave my home. I am not one to reach out for help very quickly so I have been kind of sitting back and reading lots of posts and responding to people when I think I can help. I finally think I need to reach out. I need support even if it is just making connections. I am not one to go into the chat rooms. I feel almost shy to go into a chat site. So I guess what I'm looking for is to meet some of you that are interested in talking via emails or PM's. Thanks for being there SR members I appreciate it.

Wilky · 06-14-2005, 07:20 PM

Wow dude! Must be a maturity thing. I too have been going through alot this past couple of years. I am 22+ years sober. So, check it out. If you would like to make contact with some big book thumpers....I am the guy. If you want to be a wuss then there are plenty of them here too! LOL!

Let me know: richardsw@gods-grace.com

Later,
Wilky

**CarolD** · 06-14-2005, 07:37 PM

I just had my 16th AA birthday..I think I will quit counting!!

Please use my PM if you like.

And do make use of the Discussion.

There are also on line AA meetings here at SR. They are in the Chat room but you do not have to speak/type. Pass works there too.

lulu70 · 06-14-2005, 07:47 PM

Hey Perbear--Glad you are here. I only have 15 months of sobriety, but I would be happy to chat with you via PM, email, or what ever. Thanks for letting us know where you are in your recovery.

Hang in there!

Hugs--

***51anna*** · 06-14-2005, 07:53 PM

Hi Perbear,

I'm 4 1/2 years sober (and a fellow Canadian) and you can feel free to PM me anytime. I'm on and off the computer throughout the day, so I will always get back to you. I think it's great that you are reaching out at this time. I wish you well.

Anna

Chy · 06-15-2005, 09:01 AM

Perbear, wow! You have amazing courage and strength. So much going on and you still are sober. Your in a great place, the best way to get to know us, us to get to know you is to keep posting. Maybe we'll even get you into an online meeting!

..destress you from chat! *hugs* Glad your here!

perbear · 06-15-2005, 09:18 PM

Thank you to all of you I really do feel like I have gotten lots of support from you and very quick!Thats just amazing. I am very grateful to those of you so quick to respond.

06-14-2005, 06:00 PM	#1 (permalink)
perbear perbear Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Saskatoon Saskatchewan Posts: 19	need to find support Hi this is my first time posting a thread. I am 19 years sober and I have just went through the most difficult year in my sobriety. I went off work due to medical reasons and have been dealing with chronic pain from my many car accidents in my drinking years. I then had my wife diagnosed with a brain tumor that she ended up having surgery at the mayo clinic and thankfully the surgery was successful but she needed allot of help in functioning which was a real strain on me as I was in a lot of pain also. I have 2 children living at home my youngest is a 9 year old boy and has cerebral palsy and needs alot of care and attention as well. He is an awesome child he shows me how to truly accept life on lifes terms. He is always happy and on the go. My daughter is 17 and has been a big help with caring for my wife and son but has her own teenage struggles to go through. Now that my wife is better and able to take care of herself we decided to seperate in the beggining of May so she can deal with individual issues that have been interfering in our relationship for many years. I have the children and would have it no other way. I don't get out to many meetings about 1 a week so SR has been a great access to recovery without having to leave my home. I am not one to reach out for help very quickly so I have been kind of sitting back and reading lots of posts and responding to people when I think I can help. I finally think I need to reach out. I need support even if it is just making connections. I am not one to go into the chat rooms. I feel almost shy to go into a chat site. So I guess what I'm looking for is to meet some of you that are interested in talking via emails or PM's. Thanks for being there SR members I appreciate it. __________________ There is know problem today that a drink won't make worse!

06-14-2005, 07:37 PM	#3 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Dallas, Ga. USA Posts: 21,875	Gosh... I just had my 16th AA birthday..I think I will quit counting!! Please use my PM if you like. And do make use of the Discussion. There are also on line AA meetings here at SR. They are in the Chat room but you do not have to speak/type. Pass works there too. __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery! :

06-14-2005, 07:47 PM	#4 (permalink)
lulu70 We all need each other. Join Date: Jul 2004 Location: The road of happy destiny. Posts: 2,223	Hey Perbear--Glad you are here. I only have 15 months of sobriety, but I would be happy to chat with you via PM, email, or what ever. Thanks for letting us know where you are in your recovery. Hang in there! Hugs-- __________________ "You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face.....do the thing you think you cannot do." ~Eleanor Roosevelt

06-14-2005, 07:53 PM	#5 (permalink)
*51anna* Administrator Join Date: Aug 2003 Location: Dancing in the Light Posts: 14,728	Hi Perbear, I'm 4 1/2 years sober (and a fellow Canadian) and you can feel free to PM me anytime. I'm on and off the computer throughout the day, so I will always get back to you. I think it's great that you are reaching out at this time. I wish you well. Anna __________________ Anna And I dont know what the future is holding in store I dont know where Im going, Im not sure where I've been There's a spirit that guides me, a light that shines for me My life is worth the living, I dont need to see the end. John Denver

06-15-2005, 09:18 PM	#7 (permalink)
perbear perbear Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Saskatoon Saskatchewan Posts: 19	Thank you to all of you I really do feel like I have gotten lots of support from you and very quick!Thats just amazing. I am very grateful to those of you so quick to respond. __________________ There is know problem today that a drink won't make worse!

06-14-2005, 07:20 PM	#2 (permalink)
Wilky Member Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: Sunny Californie Posts: 127	Wow dude! Must be a maturity thing. I too have been going through alot this past couple of years. I am 22+ years sober. So, check it out. If you would like to make contact with some big book thumpers....I am the guy. If you want to be a wuss then there are plenty of them here too! LOL! Let me know: richardsw@gods-grace.com Later, Wilky

06-15-2005, 09:01 AM	#6 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,877	Perbear, wow! You have amazing courage and strength. So much going on and you still are sober. Your in a great place, the best way to get to know us, us to get to know you is to keep posting. Maybe we'll even get you into an online meeting! ..destress you from chat! hugs Glad your here!

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