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JaySee · 12-05-2004, 02:11 AM

I went to my bellringer's Christmas Dinner last night. An annual event down here in my part of Devon (UK) - must have been about 24 of us. Unfortunately the "greased pig" contest was cancelled due to the vicar having a bad knee.

Now as I've been in recovery (I was dry this time last year, but drank again) for a bit, I honestly did not want to drink at all. Anyway, the way this lot were drinking (I love them all dearly) it wasn't worth starting.

I sat there all evening monitoring my stretch of the table for how much people were drinking

I've probably always behaved like this, but I really noticed it last night. Most people had one or two alcoholic drinks all night. There was much cooing and clucking about how I had stopped drinking and smoking (which I liked) but there was an opened bottle of red wine, half full, in front of me. I didn't want to drink the wine at all, but it was sitting there NOT being drunk. To me, this was amazing, how could there be an open bottle of booze on the table and no one was drinking it.!!?? If I were drinking I would have necked that small offering and ordered two more. It was like having a naughty picture of Britney Spears on the table, my eyes kept wandering to it and then I would look away quickly as if I shouldn't have been looking.

When we got up to get our coats at the end it was still there on the empty table !! Not consumed !! How could these people not have drunk the wine..!! I'm sure I heard a quiet giggle as I turned to leave.

A great sober evening for me and I've learned some more about myself too.

much love
JC

2dayzmuse · 12-05-2004, 02:46 AM

Isn't that something how they can do that JaySee? I really notice those sorts of things also. At Thanksgiving, my sister had a few glasses of wine and left the last one half empty or half full, if you wish, in front of her for hours without touching it. I wasn't tempted, but repulsed by the thought of the taste. It was the pink stuff. Not my favorite, but I would have drank it if I had to. Back in the day. Finally, as I was clearing the table. I asked her is she was going to finish her wine? She said no, she didn't want it and I dumped it down the sink. Yeah, unheard of right? I always think back of how many bottles of wine would have been consumed, if I had been drinking that night. Many more for certain. I'm certainly glad their hadn't been. Yippee for that. I'm off to bed...way past my bedtime. Goodnight and take care.

Love ya, don't forget. Pencil skirt with maryjanes today. You'll be good to go.
LeAnne

birdonawire · 12-05-2004, 04:16 AM

Glad to hear you had a good sober evening. A couple of weeks ago I went out to dinner with mates from work and they were drinking my favourite poison, red wine. I had a hard time keeping my eyes away from the bottle going around the table, just like when I was drinking (I was always aware of how much was there and very keen to make sure I got my share)
We all went to the pub afterwards and more wine was consumed. I excused myself a bit early and went home feeling a bit disappointed that I am still so fixated on what people are drinking...I could tell you exactly how many drinks each person had!
I am really looking forward to the day when I don't care, don't notice the damn bottle, because I am just having a good time. At least I was the only one not hungover at work next day! :friday:

spirit · 12-05-2004, 05:08 AM

oh JC i am so proud of you mate, beyond words
much love and hugs to you - you are truely awesome hon

love kath
ps what is greasing the pig - and how is a vicar involved or shouldnt i go there haha

ted · 12-05-2004, 06:29 AM

HEY MATE.
GLAD YOU ARE SEEING THINGS IN A DIFFERENT WAY.

I'VE ALWAYS BEEN AMAZED THAT PEOPLE COULD DRINK SOCIALY.
ACTUALLY I LIKED BEING AT PARTIES LIKE THAT,IT MEANT MORE BOOZE FOR ME!
NO HEADACHES THIS MORNING BRO,THATS A GOOD THING.
KEEP AT IT JC

..............ted :xmaso

boop64132 · 12-05-2004, 06:36 AM

Way to go! We are so very proud of you.
I think that in the same situation,if I were there(when I drank) that there wouldnt be any alcohol left at the end of the party,but my self respect would be empty also!

Good for you!

Gabe · 12-05-2004, 06:55 AM

Jaycee, I'm glad you had a good, sober evening.
Thank you for my morning

Hugs,
Gabe

lonlion · 12-05-2004, 07:17 AM

Hi Jaysee; It seems that open bottle of wine was haunting you and tempting you, otherwise you would have ignored it totally.
There will come a time when you will be totally oblivious to these things, but in the meantime give yourself a gold star!
That half bottle of opened wine was symbolic. I bet you will never forget it!
Good on ya

Love Diana

junem · 12-05-2004, 07:25 AM

Glad you had a good evening and managed it sober. I have been in situations like that myself and find myself feeling annoyed at those who were there who could drink for wasting booze. I also find that a couple days after having my drug of choice sitting there stairing me in the face I will end up having drinking thoughts and dreams. I really get annoyed at people who can drink and don'r. But that is why they are not alcoholics. lol

MootPoint · 12-05-2004, 08:26 AM

Good for you JC! I'm glad you had a good sober evening.

When I was drinking, I wouldn't let a half full anything pass me by. Boy I'm glad those days are over!

I, too, would love to know what a greased pig is and how it involves the vicar.

Dan · 12-05-2004, 09:14 AM

Prayers up for the vicar's knee JC.

1Marty · 12-05-2004, 04:36 PM

Hey JC. People who could drink, yet did not want to drink too much always bugged me too. I hated those people! I did not understand them. Damm did they make me uncomfortable! It forced me to see the big contrast between their drinking and mine.

12-05-2004, 02:11 AM	#1 (permalink)
JaySee Choosing Life Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: London Posts: 888	half bottle ... I went to my bellringer's Christmas Dinner last night. An annual event down here in my part of Devon (UK) - must have been about 24 of us. Unfortunately the "greased pig" contest was cancelled due to the vicar having a bad knee. Now as I've been in recovery (I was dry this time last year, but drank again) for a bit, I honestly did not want to drink at all. Anyway, the way this lot were drinking (I love them all dearly) it wasn't worth starting. I sat there all evening monitoring my stretch of the table for how much people were drinking I've probably always behaved like this, but I really noticed it last night. Most people had one or two alcoholic drinks all night. There was much cooing and clucking about how I had stopped drinking and smoking (which I liked) but there was an opened bottle of red wine, half full, in front of me. I didn't want to drink the wine at all, but it was sitting there NOT being drunk. To me, this was amazing, how could there be an open bottle of booze on the table and no one was drinking it.!!?? If I were drinking I would have necked that small offering and ordered two more. It was like having a naughty picture of Britney Spears on the table, my eyes kept wandering to it and then I would look away quickly as if I shouldn't have been looking. When we got up to get our coats at the end it was still there on the empty table !! Not consumed !! How could these people not have drunk the wine..!! I'm sure I heard a quiet giggle as I turned to leave. A great sober evening for me and I've learned some more about myself too. much love JC __________________ I told these guys I could now drink socially →

12-05-2004, 04:16 AM	#3 (permalink)
birdonawire Happy Christmas! Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: on a wire near you Posts: 33	hi JaySee Glad to hear you had a good sober evening. A couple of weeks ago I went out to dinner with mates from work and they were drinking my favourite poison, red wine. I had a hard time keeping my eyes away from the bottle going around the table, just like when I was drinking (I was always aware of how much was there and very keen to make sure I got my share) We all went to the pub afterwards and more wine was consumed. I excused myself a bit early and went home feeling a bit disappointed that I am still so fixated on what people are drinking...I could tell you exactly how many drinks each person had! I am really looking forward to the day when I don't care, don't notice the damn bottle, because I am just having a good time. At least I was the only one not hungover at work next day! :friday:

12-05-2004, 05:08 AM	#4 (permalink)
spirit spirit Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: perth,western australia Posts: 1,460	oh JC i am so proud of you mate, beyond words much love and hugs to you - you are truely awesome hon love kath ps what is greasing the pig - and how is a vicar involved or shouldnt i go there haha __________________ spirit still here

12-05-2004, 06:29 AM	#5 (permalink)
ted OH SH!T Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: RICHMOND,VIRGINIA- Posts: 1,655	HEY MATE. GLAD YOU ARE SEEING THINGS IN A DIFFERENT WAY. I'VE ALWAYS BEEN AMAZED THAT PEOPLE COULD DRINK SOCIALY. ACTUALLY I LIKED BEING AT PARTIES LIKE THAT,IT MEANT MORE BOOZE FOR ME! NO HEADACHES THIS MORNING BRO,THATS A GOOD THING. KEEP AT IT JC ..............ted :xmaso __________________ ... ... ...

12-05-2004, 07:17 AM	#8 (permalink)
lonlion Member Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Ontario, Canada Posts: 423	Hi Jaysee; It seems that open bottle of wine was haunting you and tempting you, otherwise you would have ignored it totally. There will come a time when you will be totally oblivious to these things, but in the meantime give yourself a gold star! That half bottle of opened wine was symbolic. I bet you will never forget it! Good on ya Love Diana __________________ WHEN WE SPEND TOO MUCH TIME LOOKING IN THE REAR VIEW MIRROR, IT TAKES OUR FOCUS OFF THE ROAD AHEAD, AND WE CAN CRASH

12-05-2004, 02:46 AM	#2 (permalink)
2dayzmuse Paused Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Washington Posts: 5,094	Isn't that something how they can do that JaySee? I really notice those sorts of things also. At Thanksgiving, my sister had a few glasses of wine and left the last one half empty or half full, if you wish, in front of her for hours without touching it. I wasn't tempted, but repulsed by the thought of the taste. It was the pink stuff. Not my favorite, but I would have drank it if I had to. Back in the day. Finally, as I was clearing the table. I asked her is she was going to finish her wine? She said no, she didn't want it and I dumped it down the sink. Yeah, unheard of right? I always think back of how many bottles of wine would have been consumed, if I had been drinking that night. Many more for certain. I'm certainly glad their hadn't been. Yippee for that. I'm off to bed...way past my bedtime. Goodnight and take care. Love ya, don't forget. Pencil skirt with maryjanes today. You'll be good to go. LeAnne

12-05-2004, 06:36 AM	#6 (permalink)
boop64132 Member Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Kansas City,Mo Posts: 478	Way to go! We are so very proud of you. I think that in the same situation,if I were there(when I drank) that there wouldnt be any alcohol left at the end of the party,but my self respect would be empty also! Good for you!

12-05-2004, 06:55 AM	#7 (permalink)
Gabe Member Join Date: Jan 2003 Posts: 4,955	Jaycee, I'm glad you had a good, sober evening. Thank you for my morning Hugs, Gabe

12-05-2004, 07:25 AM	#9 (permalink)
junem Member Join Date: May 2004 Location: toronto, ontario, canada Posts: 224	Glad you had a good evening and managed it sober. I have been in situations like that myself and find myself feeling annoyed at those who were there who could drink for wasting booze. I also find that a couple days after having my drug of choice sitting there stairing me in the face I will end up having drinking thoughts and dreams. I really get annoyed at people who can drink and don'r. But that is why they are not alcoholics. lol

12-05-2004, 08:26 AM	#10 (permalink)
MootPoint we're all mad here! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: a padded room with bars Posts: 1,683	Good for you JC! I'm glad you had a good sober evening. When I was drinking, I wouldn't let a half full anything pass me by. Boy I'm glad those days are over! I, too, would love to know what a greased pig is and how it involves the vicar. __________________ The duke had a mind that ticked like a clock and, like a clock, it regularly went cuckoo. ---------Terry Pratchett

12-05-2004, 09:14 AM	#11 (permalink)
Dan Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 8,710	Prayers up for the vicar's knee JC.

12-05-2004, 04:36 PM	#12 (permalink)
1Marty Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: God's Grace Posts: 689	Hey JC. People who could drink, yet did not want to drink too much always bugged me too. I hated those people! I did not understand them. Damm did they make me uncomfortable! It forced me to see the big contrast between their drinking and mine. __________________ Marty

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