Sponsor or ... another way to work the steps?
Step meetings are great. FWIW, I would also suggest some Big Book meetings if you want by the book sponsorship. There are plenty here in NYC. Keep asking and your head up. The sponsor will come.
-allan
-allan
Courage, you could have written this about me.....
I had an issue with my sponsor a few months back and while I never sought to say goodbye or find a new one (the thought did cross my mind) I took advice from other friends in AA. Their suggestion was much like what you post - sort of a polyglot group of folks to draw from as needed.
For me AA embodies the concept of Tacit Knowledge transfer - I need more than I can simply get from the book by reading it - but, today I don't feel beholden to one "sponsor".
I feel like I learned early to do - as you - service and I try to work 10-11-12 daily. I think I am too pigheaded to get onboard with an old timer set in archaic ways..... I identify more with a 3-5 year guy who still remembers those first 24 months.
Thanks for the thread it's very useful.
I had an issue with my sponsor a few months back and while I never sought to say goodbye or find a new one (the thought did cross my mind) I took advice from other friends in AA. Their suggestion was much like what you post - sort of a polyglot group of folks to draw from as needed.
For me AA embodies the concept of Tacit Knowledge transfer - I need more than I can simply get from the book by reading it - but, today I don't feel beholden to one "sponsor".
I feel like I learned early to do - as you - service and I try to work 10-11-12 daily. I think I am too pigheaded to get onboard with an old timer set in archaic ways..... I identify more with a 3-5 year guy who still remembers those first 24 months.
Thanks for the thread it's very useful.
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But the big book also says share experience strength and hope I like that better. How would I get better if I didn't take directions or suggestions. Resentment about something gives me a poor attitude the last couple days sorry.
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Our COMMON welfare should come first is my understanding of the First Tradition. It's the UNITY part of the Recovery Triangle...
I am free to do whatever I want, yep, but that may mean standing out in the hallway during meetings...
I was told in my early meetings that The Twelve Steps were there to help me keep from killing myself; The Twelve Traditions were there to help me keep from killing everyone else. They are, as it turns out, a very fine framework for most interpersonal relationships. Or so I am reminded from time to time...
I am free to do whatever I want, yep, but that may mean standing out in the hallway during meetings...
I was told in my early meetings that The Twelve Steps were there to help me keep from killing myself; The Twelve Traditions were there to help me keep from killing everyone else. They are, as it turns out, a very fine framework for most interpersonal relationships. Or so I am reminded from time to time...
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I don't think that it is a "bad" thing, I think that it would place a glass-ceiling on your recovery.
You may not be thinking of it yet... but there may come a day when you will get an urge to sponsor others. Don't put yourself in a position where you will be inclined to say no.
You may not be thinking of it yet... but there may come a day when you will get an urge to sponsor others. Don't put yourself in a position where you will be inclined to say no.
I haven`t done the steps in the traditional manner with a sponsor. However, I am up front about this and will recommend a step sponsor if they like. Personally, I prefer telling my sins to a priest in a confessional (where I did my first "5th” decades ago.) I also don`t feel comfortable hearing a 5th and would prefer a member use someone else.
I am where I am today because of being sober and I got sober in AA.
Sure, I like it when members sometimes compliment me on my shares. However, it`s not about sounding good in the rooms (or on a message board.) It`s how I live my life outside that counts.
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