Tools?

[bellaf]

Hi,

I am slightly confused alcoholic! And wondered if someone could help me?

I completed the 12 steps in my first year of recovery (20 months sober now! I can't believe it when i say it!) and continue to work them but I am getting confused with what tools to pick up when!

I know that to get rid of resentments I need to do step 10's and to improve my concious contact with my HP I should work step 11 and to I need to do service for step 12. I also do gratitude lists.

But I seem to get feelings of restless, irritable and discontent recently. Do you know which one of the steps I need to work to help me with these feelings? Or should I just accept that sometimes I am going to feel like this? Is it my feelings just coming back? Is it the terrible twos?

Help! :06:

[best]

Every so often I would get those feelings. I just chaulk them up to part of being human. Do a quick review of all the steps and let God lead me as I talk with Him about it. Been alcohol free for over 15 years and the dry drunk started to leave in June of 98. I try to remember such things as... it is my choice to do this or that... not a restriction life has placed on me.
Looking for the perspective of the situation and my talks with God seem to do the most for me.

[3legacy]

Think So, all 12 (lol) beginning with One. I've found walking newer members into all 1 - 12 also keeps them fresh and I gain a bit more understanding of myself, others, God & the Twelve Steps by continuing through the never ending process. My Sponsor also walked me through into practical application of our Traditions as well. That really helps me and I hope my sharing might help you as well.

(((((((((((bellaf)))))))))) Kiss heart of Spirit In Love & Service,
Three Legs

[MootPoint]

My sponsor tells me to do another Step 3 whenever I get whiney (me, whiney, never!). I sometimes need to sometimes do it multiple times a day (me, take my will back?? Never!)

She also tells me that we are human, that we have normal feelings and that they will pass. She cautions me to not let restless, irritability, or disontendedness ferment into a resentment. Then she tells me to do another Step 3

[HarryH]

In this case, I can only speak for myself. Usually when I get restless, irritable and discontent, I have to check out what my fears are. Usually because I am afraid I am going to lose something, or not gain something that I want. People are not behaving the way I want, so my fear is about losing control, that I don't have anyway. Things aren't going my way, not getting what I want, control, which I don't have anyway. Expectations on other people and then I have to work on acceptance.

I turn to God, trust and reliance, and ask Him to take away my fears and direct my attention to be a person He would have me be. I ask Him to direct my thinking to be divorced from self-seeking, self-pity and dishonest motives.

I have to look at my motives. So, I ask God to put someone into my life that I can be useful to, and get me out of my selfishness.

God bless,

Harry

[Patsyd1]

Originally Posted by HarryH

In this case, I can only speak for myself. Usually when I get restless, irritable and discontent, I have to check out what my fears are. Usually because I am afraid I am going to lose something, or not gain something that I want. People are not behaving the way I want, so my fear is about losing control, that I don't have anyway. Things aren't going my way, not getting what I want, control, which I don't have anyway. Expectations on other people and then I have to work on acceptance.

I turn to God, trust and reliance, and ask Him to take away my fears and direct my attention to be a person He would have me be. I ask Him to direct my thinking to be divorced from self-seeking, self-pity and dishonest motives.

I have to look at my motives. So, I ask God to put someone into my life that I can be useful to, and get me out of my selfishness.

God bless,

Harry

Ditto here Harry. When I am feeling anxious, irritable and discontent, it really is about me and my FEAR. I am so afraid of either losing something that I already have, or not getting something that I want.

God has never ever let me down when I ask Him to help me get out of myself and help someone else

Who loves ya Baby

Patsy

[bellaf]

Thanks guys, your are right about the fears, I have both at the moment fear of losing something I have got and not getting something I want!

Will ask my HP for help tonight!