dSober

Judging from what you're saying you'll be fine in a few days.

Db1105

My condolences to you and your family. Grieving is part of the healing process.

MIRecovery

Grieving is what people do when a loved one leaves us. Not selfish just normal.

MIRecovery

Double post

Cathy31

I used to think that grieving was selfish. After all the loved one is at peace they are with god surely it's our own small minded selfishness that wants them here with us, instead.
That was until I lost my dear, beloved father over Christmas. At first I felt the gratitude you describe but as the months have gone on I actually feel more and more heart broken as the stark reality of life without my dad sets in.
I have my sobriety, two beautiful children, a loving husband, great job and yet the sadness and impenetrable longing I feel for my dad feels,like a knife in my heart when I let myself truly feel the feeling.
What can I say? Losing a parent is the hardest thing ever. The fact that you had just found your dad makes it doubly hard. I think it's wonderful that you acknowledge your gratitude. I don't think you need tough love just am acknowledgement that it's possible for your heart to break and to feel angry at God when you lose a parent and that's ok.
Cathy

hopeful4

You are not selfish at all. I am so sorry for your loss.

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Jeni26

I'm going back to work today. It's going to be the first day for weeks I've not been at my mums side helping her through stuff. This time last week I moved in with them. My heart hearts.

Dee74

I hope you have a good day Jeni

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