A couple of questions?

[Littlestar]

I'm new to this and so I hope that you don't mind me asking a few questions.

My boyfriend drinks approx. a 6-pack a day. Does this make him an alcoholic? He has a tendency to get nasty and acts juvenile when he is drunk. A friend of mine suggested that I come here, so there must be a reason.

We got along very well BEFORE I moved in with him. A lot has changed since then. I am so disappointed in this relationship. I don't know what I did wrong.

It seems like he would rather spend time with his friends than me. Now I found out that he is discussing our problems with them too.
Can someone please help me to understand why this is happening?????

I hope it is alright that I'm asking you?
Thanks!
Littlestar

[splendra]

Littlestar-

Welcome to sober recovery. I don't know if your boyfriend is an alcoholic or not but, if your b/f's drinking bothers you than it is a problem. You will find answers to many of your questions on the alanon board read all the post marked "sticky's" they are great!! Read the titles that interest you too. Keep the focus on yourself and take care of you, you will here that a lot around here!! Take care and keep posting!!

[Littlestar]

I apologize if I offended anyone on here.
I already posted on the Alanon forum and they did help me out alot.
I just thought that former drinkers might be able to explain to me why so much has changed since I moved in.
I really just wanted to know why he would rather spend time with his friends than me.
It hurts and I hate him telling them things about me that isn't true.

[Patsyd1]

Hi Littlestar, You didn't offend me

The only friend that I had when I was drinking was BOOZE. All the rest was ways and means of getting, drinking and spending as much time with my best friend as possible..... BOOZE.

What he is doing has nothing to do with you at all, you didn't do anything wrong. If he is truely alcoholic like me..... then EVERYTHING comes second to alcohol. And if I had to lie, sneak, manipulate, cause fights, and blame THEM for my drinking, then thats what I did so that I would be able to do what I NEEDED to do.......DRINK.

I would suggest that you take care of you by getting to as many Naranon meetings as you can, do it for YOU. You have absolutely no control over what he chooses to do or not do, but you sure do have control over what you choose to do or not do.