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Little Missy · 04-16-2004, 03:27 PM

Tonight I going to my first f2f AA meeting. I keep getting really nervous. Now this thought keeps popping into my head. I could pretend to go to the meeting and go to the bar instead. This is not what I want to do, but the thought keeps coming back.
Come on guys, tell me how stupid that is. Again trying to replace fear with alcohol. 3 1/2 hrs. until meeting time. I have to get myself there. I know it will be ok.
Should have went to a morning meeting, instead of worrying all day about it. LOL
Thanks,
Missy

Alice Wonder · 04-16-2004, 03:33 PM

breathe and keep breathing. nice deep breaths. go to the meeting. report back and tell all of us how it went. you can do this. you've seen the inside of a bar try something new and adventurous for yourself. who knows what wonderful things can happen for you at the meeting? you will get so much out of it- i promise. love- alice

Dan · 04-16-2004, 03:48 PM

You know what I'm going to say. Eat a peach and relax. So I won't say it.
Don't pass up the opportunity to enjoy a lousy cup of coffee with a bunch of the best people you will ever meet. And as alice says, come back and spill it sister!

DD

mackat · 04-16-2004, 05:34 PM

I believe i could finish about every sentence of every person i used to bs with at a bar. Boooring...At AA I NEVER know what's going to be said!
As long as i keep doing what i'm doing, i'll keep getting what i'm getting
mackat

1Marty · 04-16-2004, 08:12 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by DangerousDan

Don't pass up the opportunity to enjoy a lousy cup of coffee with a bunch of the best people you will ever meet.

DD

So true Dan :LMAO The people are the best. The coffee - I guess I just spoiled by all the fancy coffee places we have everyware now a days.

Little Missy, I am also very nervous about going to AA. I just don't express myself well face to face. But I know its were I belong. I know that no matter what my feelings, I am still accepted.

Chy · 04-16-2004, 08:31 PM

I know how nervous you are, but I promise it's going to be okay! Meeting or bar, that's easy, want to have guilt, shame, and hangover in the morning?

Little Missy · 04-16-2004, 09:51 PM

I DID IT! I knew I could if I could get myself in the building! Everyone was nice. I even got a 24hr. chip! I was so excited. It was me and 9 men! But that was fine, were all just drunks! Thanks for the support. I really appreciate it.
Love and Hugs,
Missy

Novemberphoenix · 04-16-2004, 09:57 PM

Way to go Missy!

Novemberphoenix

spirit · 04-16-2004, 10:16 PM

hey missy that is excellant, i was going to suggest you think of us all there with you, but you have been already. WOW. isnt it the nicest feeling to walk into such a place. i reckon going to meetings is like my 'time out', my hour or so of peace, i dont have to do or say anything, i can just sit. that is the joy of it for me.

and you learn heaps from other people, and the people are welcoming and friendly, even when i have been to other meetings it is the same. so much more welcoming than a bar when people 'check you out etc' at a meeting people genuinely say "hi and welcome" they are interested in you.

so congrats again and keep going

hugs
kath

DolphinBlue · 04-17-2004, 05:23 AM

Missy, your post was very inspiring! Awesome job.

When I first started going to meetings, the oldtimers would tell me to get to as many different meetings as I could in the early days. I'm really glad I took that advice because they were all so different! I thought I found I felt comfortable in, then I found an even more comfortable one and so on. They were'nt all great, but they all had their value.

Good on you, that fear can be hard to walk through.

Amy

Dan · 04-17-2004, 06:19 AM

Welcome to the Fellowship Missy!

NotThatThirsty · 04-17-2004, 11:41 AM

Missy, that's awesome! Wasn't so hard was it? Overcoming that initial fear is the toughest part. It took me quite sometime before I felt comfortable just walking into an AA clubhouse and (uhhg!) talking to people about real s***! Welcome! Glad you are here!
-Josh

Pancreas · 04-17-2004, 11:45 AM

Missy,

Great you made the meeting! Always remember that a good AA meeting will sure spoil a "fun" night of drinking.

Al...

MootPoint · 04-17-2004, 05:07 PM

WTG Missy! I bet your glad now that you went to that AA meeting vs a bar! As they say, Keep Coming Back!

mackat · 04-17-2004, 05:07 PM

Missy
you rock!!!
mackat

Chy · 04-17-2004, 05:24 PM

Way to go, I knew you could do it to!

Alice Wonder · 04-17-2004, 05:24 PM

YAYYY!!!! Missy way to go!!!!!! I am so happy for you! I stopped by to see how you made out. thanks for sharing. every meeting you make inspires me to keep going.

Jeff_C · 04-17-2004, 09:34 PM

Good Job. That first meeting always seems to be the hardest, and now you've done it. And a 24 hr chip too!!! Cool, and congrats.
Jeff

Digits101010 · 04-18-2004, 10:01 AM

Missy - Congratulations! That is inspiring and wonderful. You felt the fear and you did it anyway. How cool can that be?

Love, Digits

Little Missy · 04-20-2004, 09:53 AM

Thank you all for your well wishes! I'm going to my 2nd meeting tonight. I'm actually excited and eager to go. Funny how that works. I don't even care if the same people are there. As long as somebody is. hahaha
Today, I feel like being an alcoholic isn't so bad. I love to learn. And boy have I learned a lot lately. I don't mind being the new kid. I realize that I am helping them just as much as they are helping me. I'm not a burden to them. I'm just like them, only new.

I loved that one of the guys said, you can lie to a normal person and they will believe you. You lie to a drunk, and they will call you on it every time!
Can't wait to hear what they have to say tonight.
I hope this helps anyone wanting to attend their first meeting. But I guess I didn't think at the time it would be this great either.
Take Care and I'm sure I'll be able to come back tonight with even more words of widom.
Missy

ted · 04-20-2004, 10:08 AM

LITTLE MISSY, :clap :thumb GOOD FOR YOU!THIS IS YOUR NEW LIFE,CHERISH THE MOMENT.STAY STRONG ted :tri

True Blue · 04-20-2004, 10:29 AM

Hello Little Missy

I am so happy for you. Can't wait to here about your second meeting. I still get excited about going to meetings. I love the fellowship. It saved my life. Keep riding the wagon missy it beats the hell out of running behind it. Love you.

Dan · 04-20-2004, 10:58 AM

Say hi to the boys for us!

spirit · 04-20-2004, 05:56 PM

hi missy,

there are some funny sayings, serious and irreverant. wish i could remember them all but one night i remember one of the guys saying in his early days (like 20 yrs ago) he had been to AA in sydney. at that stage he was a young lad and going to AA was as much about getting his life together as having a life, social life etc. he said and old timer pulled him aside one night and said "son **** and peni dont mix here mate " hahaha (**** being aus for booze haha ) i nearly wet myself laughing.

oh anothr good one i heard the other night is if you point one finger at someone you will have three pointing back at you. (hold your hand up and point it is true)

anyway, enjoy and keep going

hugs
kath

Little Missy · 04-21-2004, 07:16 AM

Sorry (((Ted)))

Well I made it to my second AA meeting, and my husband went to Al-anon. There was actually 2 other women there this time and 11 men. LOL

So here's the wisdom I came home with:
Drinking is like making love to a skunk,
you don't think you've had enough,
but you just can't take it anymore! :LMAO

When we got home, I had a nice talk with my husbands parents. They are so understanding. What great support. She even said they wouldn't drink anymore. Not so sure the father in-law was happy with that. hahaha
I told them they didn't have to change anything because of me. I had to make the right decisions.

I guess everyone needs to belong to a group. My sister is in a sorority, and I'm in AA! LOL
What a great life!
Missy

04-16-2004, 03:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
Little Missy NOT EVEN 1 CLUB!! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: When I find myself, I'll let you know! Posts: 1,831	AA meeting or Bar? Tonight I going to my first f2f AA meeting. I keep getting really nervous. Now this thought keeps popping into my head. I could pretend to go to the meeting and go to the bar instead. This is not what I want to do, but the thought keeps coming back. Come on guys, tell me how stupid that is. Again trying to replace fear with alcohol. 3 1/2 hrs. until meeting time. I have to get myself there. I know it will be ok. Should have went to a morning meeting, instead of worrying all day about it. LOL Thanks, Missy __________________ May all your days be filled with love and laughter!

04-16-2004, 03:33 PM	#2 (permalink)
Alice Wonder Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Los Angeles, Ca. Posts: 353	Re: AA meeting or Bar? breathe and keep breathing. nice deep breaths. go to the meeting. report back and tell all of us how it went. you can do this. you've seen the inside of a bar try something new and adventurous for yourself. who knows what wonderful things can happen for you at the meeting? you will get so much out of it- i promise. love- alice

04-16-2004, 03:48 PM	#3 (permalink)
Dan Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 8,753	Re: AA meeting or Bar? You know what I'm going to say. Eat a peach and relax. So I won't say it. Don't pass up the opportunity to enjoy a lousy cup of coffee with a bunch of the best people you will ever meet. And as alice says, come back and spill it sister! DD

04-16-2004, 05:34 PM	#4 (permalink)
mackat Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: a spiritual vortex, Colorado Posts: 846	Re: AA meeting or Bar? I believe i could finish about every sentence of every person i used to bs with at a bar. Boooring...At AA I NEVER know what's going to be said! As long as i keep doing what i'm doing, i'll keep getting what i'm getting mackat

04-16-2004, 08:31 PM	#6 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,886	Re: AA meeting or Bar? I know how nervous you are, but I promise it's going to be okay! Meeting or bar, that's easy, want to have guilt, shame, and hangover in the morning?

04-16-2004, 09:51 PM	#7 (permalink)
Little Missy NOT EVEN 1 CLUB!! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: When I find myself, I'll let you know! Posts: 1,831	Re: AA meeting or Bar? I DID IT! I knew I could if I could get myself in the building! Everyone was nice. I even got a 24hr. chip! I was so excited. It was me and 9 men! But that was fine, were all just drunks! Thanks for the support. I really appreciate it. Love and Hugs, Missy __________________ May all your days be filled with love and laughter!

04-16-2004, 09:57 PM	#8 (permalink)
Novemberphoenix Bird on the rise Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Walking with my Higher Power Posts: 221	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Way to go Missy! Novemberphoenix __________________ "Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it." ~~Rumi "Handle them carefully, for words have more power than atom bombs." -- Pearl Strachan Hurd "The wise weigh their words on a scale with gold." --Bible

04-16-2004, 10:16 PM	#9 (permalink)
spirit Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: perth Posts: 1,458	Re: AA meeting or Bar? hey missy that is excellant, i was going to suggest you think of us all there with you, but you have been already. WOW. isnt it the nicest feeling to walk into such a place. i reckon going to meetings is like my 'time out', my hour or so of peace, i dont have to do or say anything, i can just sit. that is the joy of it for me. and you learn heaps from other people, and the people are welcoming and friendly, even when i have been to other meetings it is the same. so much more welcoming than a bar when people 'check you out etc' at a meeting people genuinely say "hi and welcome" they are interested in you. so congrats again and keep going hugs kath __________________ spirit still here

04-17-2004, 05:23 AM	#10 (permalink)
DolphinBlue Member Join Date: Dec 2002 Location: Australia Posts: 622	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Missy, your post was very inspiring! Awesome job. When I first started going to meetings, the oldtimers would tell me to get to as many different meetings as I could in the early days. I'm really glad I took that advice because they were all so different! I thought I found I felt comfortable in, then I found an even more comfortable one and so on. They were'nt all great, but they all had their value. Good on you, that fear can be hard to walk through. Amy __________________ It takes both sunshine and rain to make a rainbow.

04-17-2004, 06:19 AM	#11 (permalink)
Dan Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 8,753	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Welcome to the Fellowship Missy!

04-17-2004, 11:41 AM	#12 (permalink)
NotThatThirsty Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Buford, GA Posts: 55	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Missy, that's awesome! Wasn't so hard was it? Overcoming that initial fear is the toughest part. It took me quite sometime before I felt comfortable just walking into an AA clubhouse and (uhhg!) talking to people about real s***! Welcome! Glad you are here! -Josh __________________ My Bottom Was Where I Stopped Digging

04-17-2004, 11:45 AM	#13 (permalink)
Pancreas Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Oregon, MI Posts: 18	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Missy, Great you made the meeting! Always remember that a good AA meeting will sure spoil a "fun" night of drinking. Al... __________________ Al... "God is looking for spiritual fruit, not religious nuts."

04-17-2004, 05:07 PM	#14 (permalink)
MootPoint we're all mad here! Join Date: Apr 2003 Location: a padded room with bars Posts: 1,687	Re: AA meeting or Bar? WTG Missy! I bet your glad now that you went to that AA meeting vs a bar! As they say, Keep Coming Back! __________________ The duke had a mind that ticked like a clock and, like a clock, it regularly went cuckoo. ---------Terry Pratchett

04-17-2004, 05:07 PM	#15 (permalink)
mackat Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: a spiritual vortex, Colorado Posts: 846	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Missy you rock!!! mackat

04-17-2004, 05:24 PM	#16 (permalink)
Chy Member Join Date: May 2003 Location: El Paso, Tx Posts: 5,886	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Way to go, I knew you could do it to!

04-17-2004, 05:24 PM	#17 (permalink)
Alice Wonder Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: Los Angeles, Ca. Posts: 353	Re: AA meeting or Bar? YAYYY!!!! Missy way to go!!!!!! I am so happy for you! I stopped by to see how you made out. thanks for sharing. every meeting you make inspires me to keep going.

04-17-2004, 09:34 PM	#18 (permalink)
Jeff_C Guest Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: Citizen of the world Posts: 75	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Good Job. That first meeting always seems to be the hardest, and now you've done it. And a 24 hr chip too!!! Cool, and congrats. Jeff

04-18-2004, 10:01 AM	#19 (permalink)
Digits101010 Digitally Remastered Join Date: Jun 2003 Location: Samsara Posts: 102	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Missy - Congratulations! That is inspiring and wonderful. You felt the fear and you did it anyway. How cool can that be? Love, Digits __________________ Alcohol is only a symptom. What I have is a daily reprieve of that symptom and, if my program is working in my life, others.

04-20-2004, 09:53 AM	#20 (permalink)
Little Missy NOT EVEN 1 CLUB!! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: When I find myself, I'll let you know! Posts: 1,831	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Thank you all for your well wishes! I'm going to my 2nd meeting tonight. I'm actually excited and eager to go. Funny how that works. I don't even care if the same people are there. As long as somebody is. hahaha Today, I feel like being an alcoholic isn't so bad. I love to learn. And boy have I learned a lot lately. I don't mind being the new kid. I realize that I am helping them just as much as they are helping me. I'm not a burden to them. I'm just like them, only new. I loved that one of the guys said, you can lie to a normal person and they will believe you. You lie to a drunk, and they will call you on it every time! Can't wait to hear what they have to say tonight. I hope this helps anyone wanting to attend their first meeting. But I guess I didn't think at the time it would be this great either. Take Care and I'm sure I'll be able to come back tonight with even more words of widom. Missy __________________ May all your days be filled with love and laughter!

04-20-2004, 10:08 AM	#21 (permalink)
ted OH SH!T Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: RICHMOND,VIRGINIA- Posts: 1,658	Re: AA meeting or Bar? LITTLE MISSY, :clap :thumb GOOD FOR YOU!THIS IS YOUR NEW LIFE,CHERISH THE MOMENT.STAY STRONG ted :tri __________________ ... ... ...

04-20-2004, 10:29 AM	#22 (permalink)
True Blue Pray For Our Troops Join Date: Sep 2003 Posts: 1,143	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Hello Little Missy I am so happy for you. Can't wait to here about your second meeting. I still get excited about going to meetings. I love the fellowship. It saved my life. Keep riding the wagon missy it beats the hell out of running behind it. Love you. __________________ Hope is the companion of power, and mother of success; for who so hopes strongly has within him the gift of miracles." Samuel Smiles

04-20-2004, 10:58 AM	#23 (permalink)
Dan Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Posts: 8,753	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Say hi to the boys for us!

04-20-2004, 05:56 PM	#24 (permalink)
spirit Member Join Date: Sep 2003 Location: perth Posts: 1,458	Re: AA meeting or Bar? hi missy, there are some funny sayings, serious and irreverant. wish i could remember them all but one night i remember one of the guys saying in his early days (like 20 yrs ago) he had been to AA in sydney. at that stage he was a young lad and going to AA was as much about getting his life together as having a life, social life etc. he said and old timer pulled him aside one night and said "son ** and peni dont mix here mate " hahaha (** being aus for booze haha ) i nearly wet myself laughing. oh anothr good one i heard the other night is if you point one finger at someone you will have three pointing back at you. (hold your hand up and point it is true) anyway, enjoy and keep going hugs kath __________________ spirit still here

04-21-2004, 07:16 AM	#25 (permalink)
Little Missy NOT EVEN 1 CLUB!! Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: When I find myself, I'll let you know! Posts: 1,831	Re: AA meeting or Bar? Sorry (((Ted))) Well I made it to my second AA meeting, and my husband went to Al-anon. There was actually 2 other women there this time and 11 men. LOL So here's the wisdom I came home with: Drinking is like making love to a skunk, you don't think you've had enough, but you just can't take it anymore! :LMAO When we got home, I had a nice talk with my husbands parents. They are so understanding. What great support. She even said they wouldn't drink anymore. Not so sure the father in-law was happy with that. hahaha I told them they didn't have to change anything because of me. I had to make the right decisions. I guess everyone needs to belong to a group. My sister is in a sorority, and I'm in AA! LOL What a great life! Missy __________________ May all your days be filled with love and laughter!

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