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Old 07-22-2009, 12:58 PM   #1 (permalink)
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90 in 90 - Who has completed this?

90 meetings in 90 days! Has anyone done this before? I am on meeting 4 in 4 days! How did you do it? Make it everyday for 90 days.

FWIW I have a strong foundation with AA and have been going pretty regularly for two years already. But I feel I need this, and have never done it before.
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Old 07-22-2009, 01:28 PM   #2 (permalink)
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I didn't do it from day one, but I started getting really serious about daily meetings when I was 5 months sober. Then I went to two or three a day, every day, and sometimes I took my kids with me. It was a matter of life or death for me, I figured if I could make any excuse to drink, then I had zero excuses and plenty of time to make it to meetings.

Glad to hear you're doing this. Keep it up!
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Old 07-22-2009, 02:12 PM   #3 (permalink)
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I have a great deal of respect for those with some time in the program who have the wisdom to do a 90 in 90.

Many people feel 90 in 90 is just for newcomers but anyone with any amount of time can reinforce their program.

I did an 89 in 90 once. On day 90 I left one meeting when it was half-over and quickly sped to the last half of a different meeting, claiming two meetings for that day... my sponsor wasn't buying it, lol.
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Old 07-22-2009, 02:15 PM   #4 (permalink)
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90/90 is one of the better rehab suggestions, in my opinion, and in my first two years, I probably missed only a couple of days without a meeting. Of course, I counted the evenings I spent with my sponsor doing step work as a meeting. I have had many informal meetings in my house. Although I don't attend near the number of formal meetings that I used to, thinking back, I can't remember the last time I went a full 24 hrs without working with another alcoholic in some form or another.

If "90 in 90" is a goal and you have a desire to live the principles in and out of the rooms, it's not such a difficult goal to achieve.

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Old 07-22-2009, 04:38 PM   #5 (permalink)
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my own thinking on this is.. what could it possibly hurt? the meetings i go to are great! we have several "old timers" with 20+ years of sobriety.. i still make it to one most days!
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Old 07-22-2009, 05:12 PM   #6 (permalink)
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I don't agree with 90 in 90. Most people who suggest you do it don't do anything like 90 in 90 themselves. So for that reason right there, it's a lie.

It's not "Alcoholism-12 Step Support" aka part of the "A.A. Program", so why do it? To hide out in the A.A. fellowship and duck experience and duck responsibility.

Instead of doing 90 meetings in 90 days, here's some alternatives; go to your job and put in an honest day of work, go home and spend time with your wife, SO, children, pets, friends, family, etc., go home and do some dishes/laundry/yard work, go home and read the Big Book and get started on that 4th Step, do a 4th Step, 5th Step it with someone, go out and make amends, pray and meditate, exercise, yoga, mentations, church, cook, paint, go fishing, Harley riding, etc.
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Old 07-22-2009, 05:29 PM   #7 (permalink)
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Time to be controversial...

Id rather have my legs waxed...

if it works for you....great...and if you have access real AA meetings that talk of the solution...your lucky..imo

if i spent 90 days in the meetings round here id go nuts....and id have a long list after 90 days..lol

i do maybe 1/2 a week....dependent on whether im going with a newcomer.

i still study the book..mainly with newcomers or with pals.

i carry my experience to newcomers if i do go....

in the future i would like to do some work in jails but im still working night so its difficult.

its like this because i didnt get sober by doing meetings round here...i got sober when i was shown a solution in the bb.

im NOT knocking anyone.........just not for me.

where did this 90 in 90 thing come from anyhow?........treatment?
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Old 07-22-2009, 05:42 PM   #8 (permalink)
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for me meetings are (almost always) tools for learning.. we start out reading "how it works" from the BB.. we have a thought for the day from some form of recovery daily reading.. then a topic and we go around the table. it is always at least good and many times great!
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Old 07-22-2009, 05:46 PM   #9 (permalink)
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It came from treatment and I know a guy at the moment doing it who lives in a hostel and has lost everything, its ok for him i suppose and he says its keeping him out of the pub......who am I to judge?? I on the other hand ,have a family and a lot of responsibilities that already had suffered enough, without me running out to a meeting every night. My family wanted me to spend time with them ...sober. I needed to be available to them and become a responsible parent....So I got a balance between meetings, work, play , meeting my sponsor, step work etc.
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Old 07-22-2009, 06:34 PM   #10 (permalink)
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It was suggested while in rehab that I do 90/90 and the day I left rehab I went directly to a meeting. I shared at that meeting about just leaving rehab and that it was suggested for me to do 90/90, I remember an old timer said to me to forget the 90/90 just do 1 meeting a day until you want to come. Well I will be sober 10 months on saturday and I have been doing 2 meeting a day and sometimes even 3 a day.
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Old 07-22-2009, 06:49 PM   #11 (permalink)
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I was single when I was an active alcoholic
and I drank daily. So......

It made sense to me to get involved with AA
on a daily basis. I found a home group
that met in the a.m. each day.

I went before work....for well over a year.
Also attended various meetings on weekends.
There was a lot to choose from in D.C.....

I agree with Sugah....it's the best idea I know
of that came from treatment centers.

I've been in AA recovery for over 20 years.
These days I make a point of a formal meeting
3 times a week. And I stay involved each day
in some facet of AA.

Yes....meetings are vital for me

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FWIW I have a strong foundation with AA and have been going pretty regularly for two years already. But I feel I need this, and have never done it before.
Well done on your solid progress
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Old 07-22-2009, 06:57 PM   #12 (permalink)
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Old 07-22-2009, 07:29 PM   #13 (permalink)
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I recovered by the steps I took not the meetings I attended.
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Old 07-22-2009, 07:40 PM   #14 (permalink)
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I have never done 90 meetings in 90 days. It probably took me 270 days before I had gone to 90 meetings. A few years ago I did a joint open talk with another person at the treatment center where my recovery got started. During her part, she was describing the virtues of 90 and 90 and asked me "You went to 90 meetings in 90 days, right?" When I said that I had not, she proceeded to say "Well, we won't listen to Tony anymore!" (*)

I think sometimes too much is made of the suggestion.

(*) I think she was joking.
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If I was to tell someone to go to 90 meetings in 90 days, does it count as 12th step work?
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What's up, Pink?

You should give them your phone number too.

I think I actually did 90 in 90. I was divorced and had a menial job that left me with a lot of time on my hands and it was easy to go to 2 or even 3 meetings a night. It's not like I got super sober or anything. In fact, I'd go to a good meeting and louse it up by going to a candlelight afterwards.

I've been asked to consider my purpose for going to a meeting. Is it for recovery, or for social purposes? If you're so situated that you need or crave that, go for it. But I have to keep recovery A-Number 1. When I do that, my life gets better and I develop a life outside of A.A. that requires my attention too.
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Old 07-22-2009, 08:30 PM   #17 (permalink)
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if someone wants to go to 90 meetings in 90 days,I say fine.I used to try and make 90 bars in 90 days,and dang it,I made it,no problem.People criticized me then too.

I don`t care where it came from,it is good practical advice for a drunk who wants to stay sober.I made about 65 in my first 90 plus I was working on the steps too or I could not have made it 90 days sober.
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Old 07-22-2009, 08:31 PM   #18 (permalink)
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if you tell them to go get drunk,does it count as 12 step work pink?


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also i must admit i do actually like some of the people at my home group..
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Getting to a meeting my first day out of rehab was like catching the trapeze. I knew that attending meetings was going to be the beginning of a lifelong road of doing things differently. I don't know if I made 90 in 90, but I came pretty close. I still go to meetings almost 5-6 days a week, but I do so because I enjoy them. If I don't feel like going, feel too tired, like I won't be in a position to contribute - then I don't go.
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Old 07-22-2009, 10:32 PM   #21 (permalink)
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I tell ya what. I chose to do 90 in 90 completly on my own. I was by gods grace able to go to a meeting called "Theres a Solution" and it was a straight talk this is how it works, and how I did it, and what it was like before I found AA.

I have struggled for two years trying to get sober. And I have failed. 90 in 90 is easy for me...I live in a bigger area. On any given day I have roughly 5-7 meetings to chose from.

I am a real alcoholic. There is no doubt about it. I also look at this and see people who are "starting over" because of relapses and such. I have done it many of times. But in these 90 days, what I share I hope can help someone else, as well as me. This will not be a painstaking process, or seem like work. I try to go to the gym 5-6 times a week, so scooting 8 minutes down the road to my local alano before I exercise....is easy work. And I am lucky enough to have a "speaker" meeting once a week, and soon hope to share my story with others.

I am also working on myself during this time. Getting into better shape, organizing financially, and getting out and being social again. Sober. Alcohol and I do not mix, and I wish everyone who took the time to read this gets something out of my experience.
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Heard in meetings- “When I’m feeling pretty crappy. I need a meeting.”
Big Book - “I was not too well at the time, and was plagued with waves of self-pity and resentment. This sometimes nearly drove me back to drink, but I soon found that when all other measures failed, working with another alcoholic would save the day. Many times I have gone to my old hospital in despair. On talking to a man there, I would be amazingly lifted up and set on my feet. It is a design for living that works in rough going.” AA, pg.15

Heard – “You ought to go to 90 meetings in 90 days.”
BB – “ We (chronic alcoholics) are unable, at certain times, to bring into our consciousness with sufficient force the memory of the suffering and humiliation of even a week or a month ago. We are without defense against the first drink.” AA, pg. 24
Why would a right thinking member of Alcoholics Anonymous direct a newcomer to sit in meetings with untreated alcoholics to listen to them “discuss” the “issues”, problems, ideas and opinions of untreated alcoholics for 90 meetings in as many days? That has proved to be a death sentence for many alcoholics.

BTW - copyright has run out on the Big Book. This is taken from an article by Cliff B
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I think it's a great idea. Please keep us posted!

I'm busy doing 30 in 30 (my decision, I had dwindled to 1 meeting a week and I was NOT feeling as peaceful and happy as I did going to more meetings and doing the steps with my sponsor on a regular basis) It's feeling great!

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i'm going to my morning meeting this morning.. i look forward to it!
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THis is what I'm trying to achieve. Finally found a sponsor to work the steps with me and she's not into "counting meetings", only doing the work of recovery.
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