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04-23-2009, 08:28 PM
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| Finally - some light
Tonight I received some hope. My daughter and I have been estranged for 5 years. She is 16, and a wonderful young woman. I was not emotionally available during her younger years, due to my alcoholism, and lost her because of this. At Christmas, she contacted me, and wanted to get together, but got cold feet a few days before we were to meet. Tonight she contacted me and said she is ready. Gave me her cell number. Wants to get together. This came hard on the heels of three very difficult days - days where I drove home and prayed out loud, cried, and screamed in my car - all in relation to a completely different situation. A situation that was out of my control, and I was in pain because of it. Tonight I shared at my HG - it's all-women, so I felt safe to share from the heart. And I was left with this gaping wound - at least it felt like that. And I was reminded of how much I used to rely on drugs and alcohol, sex and relationships to make me feel better, to help me to forget. And so - it is especially gratifying to receive such a gift as this. The gift of a daughters love and forgiveness. Every ounce of pain and turmoil has been worth it. Thanks to all my teachers here and in the fellowship of Alcoholics Anonymous for sharing your Experience, Strength and Hope.
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04-23-2009, 08:31 PM
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Yay!  This makes me very happy Rowan, you are a special friend.
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04-23-2009, 08:39 PM
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That's wonderful, Rowan. I hope you and your daughter can begin a new and loving relationship.
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04-23-2009, 09:09 PM
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Long after I got clean/sober, I still used the sex and relationships to make me feel better. It certainly didn't go unnoticed by several concerned friends in AA either. I can't say I know exactly how you feel in regards to your daughter because I've never lost a child over my alcoholism/addictions, but I do know God seems to give me gifts just when I need them the most too. :ghug :ghug :ghug
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04-23-2009, 09:52 PM
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Wow.....what great news.....  Thanks for sharing with us
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04-23-2009, 09:59 PM
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Yay!! I'm happy for you Rolo. I'm just feeling a little codie and wanting to protect you in case she changes her mind again. Remember the whole expectations thing. I am really happy that she is willing to see you. Just take care of YOU during this. ok?
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04-24-2009, 01:24 AM
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That's great news. Life's brilliant, isn't it? Even when it's demanding, life's brilliant.
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04-24-2009, 08:30 AM
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That is awesome news, Rowan! Sending good thoughts for this new beginning with you and your daughter.  Donna
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04-25-2009, 06:36 AM
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(((ROWAN))) I am so happy for you. I hope it all works out. I know about losing a daughters love and trust and then the miracle of getting it back. What a joy!! God Bless you and your daughter.
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