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bballdad · 02-02-2009, 07:44 PM

last weekend I got a phone call from a friend.Jim died.Jim was a old drinking buddy from many years ago.

I went to the funeral home Sunday night.I walked in and saw his dad,sister,ex wife and children and friends.

I talked with them all as usual.I felt funny as I left.Then over the next 24 hours, thought came.I began to see a few things.I began to see how I used Jim for money,booze and drugs those many years ago.In doing so,I harmed his marriage,wife and 2 small children to some extent.
It never dawned on me before to look at his family when writing out a 8th step list.It took this for me to see it.
I just feel like I got a good dose of the big book part where it says "we are like a tornado roaring our way thru others lives.
It opened up a new area to look for amends I guess.Anyway,I have been praying about this today.
I might have to talk with his ex wife(who is a friend of my family) about this

CAPTAINZING2000 · 02-02-2009, 08:24 PM

If, you owed him money

Be a great idea to help out his ex wife an kids in their time of need.

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Sorry for your loss

Tazman53 · 02-03-2009, 04:09 AM

Eye openers...... you know I have always felt that God will not dump on us any more then we can deal with at one time...... this awakening I would call an opportunity for some 9th step amends. My condolances on your friends passing.

02-02-2009, 07:44 PM	#1 (permalink)
bballdad Is my work solid so far? Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: Albemarle,N.C. Posts: 2,024	the tornado last weekend I got a phone call from a friend.Jim died.Jim was a old drinking buddy from many years ago. I went to the funeral home Sunday night.I walked in and saw his dad,sister,ex wife and children and friends. I talked with them all as usual.I felt funny as I left.Then over the next 24 hours, thought came.I began to see a few things.I began to see how I used Jim for money,booze and drugs those many years ago.In doing so,I harmed his marriage,wife and 2 small children to some extent. It never dawned on me before to look at his family when writing out a 8th step list.It took this for me to see it. I just feel like I got a good dose of the big book part where it says "we are like a tornado roaring our way thru others lives. It opened up a new area to look for amends I guess.Anyway,I have been praying about this today. I might have to talk with his ex wife(who is a friend of my family) about this __________________ Faith should not stand in the wisdom of men,but in the Power of God

02-02-2009, 08:24 PM	#2 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 Thankful for our Veterans Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 8,161 Blog Entries: 1	If, you owed him money Be a great idea to help out his ex wife an kids in their time of need. . Sorry for your loss __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD J - Jesus first O - Others next Y - Yourself last John 14:6

02-03-2009, 04:09 AM	#3 (permalink)
Tazman53 Follow Directions! Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Fredericksburg, Va. Posts: 9,284	Eye openers...... you know I have always felt that God will not dump on us any more then we can deal with at one time...... this awakening I would call an opportunity for some 9th step amends. My condolances on your friends passing. __________________ All BB quotes are from the First Edition of the BB Follow directions! Sobriety date 18 Sept. 2006 Sober today thanks to AA

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