Sacrifice

[Ago]

I saw this great speaker last night, and his topic was "Each step asks you to give something up, asks you to sacrifice something, what did you sacrifice to get sober.

The answers were amazing, it was one of the most clever topics I have ever heard.

So the "topic" is, "What did you sacrifice to get sober"

My initial thought was "nothing" hell I was "giving this crap away" what I did didn't work anymore and needed help.

My second thought was everything, I sacrificed all my favorite things in the whole world, things like Pride, lies, arrogance, stupidity, and truthfully I didn't "give" any of these away "willingly" they were all beaten from my "lifeless fingers" by me and my actions, all of these character defects are like boomerangs that come back and all but "cut me to ribbons".

The Big Book states "unless we actively seek humility we will be bludgeoned into it, for some of us this was a tedious process."

I'll take "tedious process" for 500 Alex

Today I really don't feel I "sacrifice" anything the program asks of me, I don't want that shyte anymore, it hurts, and it's harmful to me, I want it gone, the removal of "it" whatever "it" is may be a painful process because I have trouble "letting it go" but for me, it aint a sacrifice.

Newcomers and Oldtimers discussed things Like giving up the web of deceit and lies, giving up drinking of course, pride, pride and more pride, becoming sons, becoming daughters, wives, husbands,...it was an amazing meeting.

What did you sacrifice?

Discuss

[Fulldresser4]

I sacrificed, or should I say I am sacrificing, the old me. I know this is a bible verse or a quote, but I can't quite come up with it right now. It goes something like...the things that used to please me do not please me anymore...The things that I used to find pleasure in are now unpleasurable to me.

God is doing what I could not do for myself...every day for me brings the promise of new miracles and blessings, new friends and wise words. I was brought to my knees to be humbled, and now I am so thankful for that. I won't say it is always easy - bludgeoning my thick head is sometimes an appropriate way to put it - but I know when I quit trying to get my way and get OUT of His way, things go a whole lot smoother for me.

Ago, great thread!

And if any of you people in warm climates are wondering about Michigan, here's me -


6-10 inches expected...

[miss communicat]

i cannot say I sacrificed anything to get sober, but I did make a decision to give everything i am, give everything i have, even to give everything i think, to god.

that means that the quality of my thoughts, the quality of my attention to the details of living, the quality of my behaviours and actions, are the best they can be at the time.

sacrifice seems so...heavy or dramatice or difficult.I surrendered it all, gladly.

[CarolD]

I sacrificed the alcoholic fantasy that I was absolutely sane.
Step 2 allowed me to become so....

[Tazman53]

Ago this is an awesome topic, my reply....... well I find my life easier by keeping things on a simple level, I sacrificed me..... self, I stepped down off of my throne and now work on being a part of the world and part of the solution.

I was apart from the world, I now am a part of the world.

[RufusACanal]

The Alcoholic Fantasy. There are no better words to decsribe the allure of my Alcoholic insanity, sober or dry. Thank you Carol. Damn Powerful!@

[Boleo]

Originally Posted by Ago

So the "topic" is, "What did you sacrifice to get sober"
Discuss

Simple, but not easy; a price had to be paid. It meant destruction of self-centeredness. (page 14)

[Kallista]

I sacrificed relationships with friends and family.

My mother is an alcoholic and an addict who can't put together 30 days. She hates my sobriety. My uncles and my brother are drug-dealers and they hate and resent my sobriety, as well. I'm not really welcome in my family because I quit using alcohol and drugs and refuse to validate "drug dealer" as a viable career choice.

My best friend told me that I wasn't "fun" anymore after I quit drinking. We're not friends anymore.

My boyfriend broke up with me because I stopped drinking. He hated my alcoholism, mind you, but wanted me to "drink like a lady." After I quit, he was unhappy that I couldn't drink with him anymore.

I have a better life now, but I had to give up some things to get here.

[lizw]

Self pity and all the benefits that go along with it.
I.e. all the help/attention people/family members/social workers etc.. used to give me to get my way so I could then be happy and wouldn't have to drink/use.

One can only feel sorry for themselves so long in AA because someone will always kindly tell you to, 'get over yourself - you're not that important.'
Lol.

[sugErspun]

I have always felt it more of 'letting go' than sacrafice.

[Ago]

See the pattern?

In the meeting it was profoundly powerful, and I think it sent an incredible message to the newcomer, nobody "sacrificed" anything good, everybody "sacrificed" something unhealthy.

[LosingmyMisery]

Sacrificed, hardly. Giving up my old ways was a blessing. I guess if I had to say I sacrificed anything it would be my embarrassing behavior and my foolishness. That I can happily do without.

[bballdad]

nice topic
I like topics like this that make me stop and think
I figure I never lost anything to drinking,I gave it all away
so I gave all that up for sobriety,and in return much more than sobriety has been given.

[Ago]

Originally Posted by Boleo

Simple, but not easy; a price had to be paid. It meant destruction of self-centeredness. (page 14)

That's what the book says, but what did you sacrifice is the question.

[liveweyerd]

We don't have the steps for the codies, so I hope you will allow me to join your meetings as they are so powerful and meaningful.

In spiritual growth I was allowed to sacrifice disrespect and am still a progress in the works.
I have been led to sacrifice dishonesty. This I am entirely grateful for.

thank you,
Tena