What is the magic of giving?

[Dean62]

I am not relying on the limitations of myself. I am not relying on the limitations of another. Putting all my happiness, on something so faulty, frail, mistake prone as myself or my expectations of another.

Giving is seeing what I can pack into the stream of life. It is becoming a part of. No longer being bound by my own limitations. I stop being in conflict with life and become in harmony with life. I become a part of something bigger then myself. I am free from all self imposed limitations and perceptions of self. I surrender the smallness of control and become at peace within the limitless truths found in acceptance.

I put my trust in the harmony of life. I let it guide me only seeking to contribute my part when offered the opportunity. No longer in conflict I find the freedom of peace. My mind is more at ease, quieted.

I have been freed from the need to seek out temporary elusive fleeting self gratifying "happiness". The bonds that were my need to control my environment in order to feed my never ending insatiable appetite for more have been removed by accepting truth. Peace is found in harmony not conflict.

Step 3 is making a decision to hand over the chains of selfish control (conflict) to my HP and becoming a part of the peaceful harmony of life that is my HP's will for me.

Truth, acceptance, trust.

[RufusACanal]

Damn Dean, you are getting better!

[Boleo]

Originally Posted by Dean62

Giving is seeing what I can pack into the stream of life. It is becoming a part of. No longer being bound by my own limitations.

Truth, acceptance, trust.

Giving is a karma principle that returns joy and sense of purpose.

Humility, serenity, benevolence. And now abideth, these three. And the greatest of these is benevolence.

[gravity]

But the program of action, though entirely sensible, was pretty drastic. It meant I would have to throw several lifelong conceptions out of the window.

For much of my life, one of the principles I lived by was "every man for himself." Always asking myself "what's in it for me?"

Now I try to put the needs of others before my own - to be kind, to be helpful. These days are always the most rewarding, the most peaceful. The miserable days can usually be traced back to my own selfishness.

This seemed counter-intuitive at first but once I started to take the focus off myself, life became so much better. It feels so natural now, like this is how I am meant to live.


BB quote from the 1st edition of the BB.

[Tommyh]

Gravity,not only is Dean getting better,so are you !

Originally Posted by gravity

For much of my life, one of the principles I lived by was "every man for himself." Always asking myself "what's in it for me?"

Now I try to put the needs of others before my own - to be kind, to be helpful. These days are always the most rewarding, the most peaceful. The miserable days can usually be traced back to my own selfishness.

This seemed counter-intuitive at first but once I started to take the focus off myself, life became so much better. It feels so natural now, like this is how I am meant to live.


BB quote from the 1st edition of the BB.

[Tazman53]

One of my AHA moments in sobriety was suddenly becoming aware that it was not all about me anymore, I had become a part of the world, I was a part of something far greater then me, I had become part of We!!!

I found myself thinking of what I could do for others rather then what they could do for me.... and I am far happier that way, I am not dissappointed anymore because I really do not expect anything, yet for some odd reason I am always getting something.... a smile on someones face, a feeling of joy in some one elses success, a simple good feeling of being a part of something good. The more I give away the more I seem to get.

In regards to material things I have found I always get what I need, not what I want.... but that is okay, that is okay. I have all I need, what more can I want?