How do you "Let go and..."

[Trying.]

I have a situation come up that has put me very close to drinking....one of my teenage daughters was threatened and told she is going to get jumped at sch...I have spoken to one of the culprits today but this is growing and growing in my mind and the feelings are so horrible within me..I am pacing and my mind is racing trying to correct what has already happened and what I project could happen...my husband says I am making a mountain out of a molehill now (sound familiar?)...I know this could be a serious situation, but I also feel theres more to the fear within me then just this...its pulling at all my fears that I have carried since I was a child and often felt unprotected...I guess I feel as if its my fault and I should be able to make it all alright, should be able to change these kids behavour if only I worry about it enought..oh I don't know...but I feel weak for even thinking that I cannot seem to do life without drink to bolster my insecure ego masquarading as a hero..I am scared and scared that this will never end....how do you let go?

[gravity]

Personally, I would discuss this with my sponsor - I would be too emotional, I would need some perspective. For something like this I would go through steps 4, 5, 6, and 7 (although I'm sure step 10 and 11 are also applicable).

Meditating on the words of the Serenity Prayer would be very helpful:

"God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference."

Asking for the focus of mind to see if there is anything I can do to change this situation - eg. talk to a school administrator, the parents of the other kids - or if it is more appropriate to let it go. There is no question that there are aspects of this situation that you have no control over.

Drinking will solve absolutely nothing. It will make things worse.

My sincere best wishes.

[tommyk]

You drinking certainly will NOT help the situation.

Stay straight, stay sober, be there if you are needed. Be an adult, be a mother, don't be a drunk.

Easier said than done, I know, but you can do it.

[CarolD]

Prayer helps me immensley when I am disturbed.

Blessings to you and your family.

[51anna]

I was in the first few months of sobriety when I was in a situation that involved the physical safety of my daughter. I did everything I could possibly do regarding police, making sure she had a cell phone etc. And, then I prayed.

We got through it. It was a huge learning experience for my daughter and for me. And, I learned that I was stronger than I thought I was.

[bballdad]

this is how I do it sometimes.I pray for them and myself too,using this little powerfull prayer,and sometimes I do it more than once.

”My Creator, I am now willing that
you should have all of ________________ insert name here, good and bad. I pray that you now remove from _______________ insert name
every single defect of character which stands in the way of our usefulness to
you and our fellows. Grant us strength, as we go out from here, to do your
bidding. Amen.

I also pray the following prayer

I seek through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact
with God as we understood Him praying only for knowledge of His will for ________(insert name here )and the power
to carry that out.

I put whoever/whatever I am praying about/for in the blanks...
works fo rme if I pray it enough
taken from the 1st editon of the big book-Alcoholics Anonymous

[Dee74]

There are no 'molehills' where kids are concerned IMO.

Prayer is good but I'm with Anna - do everything you can to ensure your child's safety and well being - meet with teachers, police - whatever's applicable - talk to friends and sponsors...then pray.

And, for heaven's sake, don't drink - your child needs you, sober.

D

[sugErspun]

I would write an inventory on it.

Step 10.

[jimhere]

Here's how you let go and let God:

4 thru 12.

[Tazman53]

There is not a single bad piece of advise here, I have used them all and they all work, one of my daughters developed (????)/is anorexic, when this first came about I had about a year sober, and by using the tools mentioned here and working with professional in the field of anorexia she got through it and is in recovery from it at this time.

[Trying.]

Thank you all!....I took some proactive action and went to one of the parents yesterday...I woke this morning really grateful that I did not drink and kept thanking my hp for putting this situation in my path for me to learn more about my failings and to show me what is more important in my life, my children!!

[Tazman53]

Good deal Trying, just remember that when we put something ahead of our sobriety we lose that as well as our sobriety..... staying sober was the most imporatant thing you could have done.

[tkdan]

Glad things worked out! Best of all you stayed sober. It's encouraging to hear that even in the toughest of situations we can make it through without picking up.