Many prayers needed!

[sailorjohn]

Just for the strength to get through and sort out as much of my end of this mess as is possible. My plan-reminding myself of the Robbie Burns quote-'the best laid plans o' mice and men'-is to move out of the condo and back into the house. Senseless for me to make two mortgage payments and only live in one of them, the divorce decree doesn't stipulate that the ex-wife has the sole right to occupy the house, she 'abandoned' the property in February 2007 before I moved into the condo.

The house is, in many ways, a lot worse shape than when I moved out, she's left a ton of the crap that she wants in the house. My son-a guess-removed interior doors by unscrewing the hinges from the door frames! One of the doors is missing. What anyone would do with an interior door is beyond my comprehension.

The idea was to start moving my stuff from the condo into the house ASAP, but since I have no way of securing the property, I'm just going to have to start packing here and see the lawyer tomorrow. The local police told me way back when that I could not change the locks, the ex actually did change both of the entrance locks, and had them keyed differently! Had to get a ladder and climb through a second story window to get back into my own house.

Going to go back again today and take some pictures, though I'm not sure the judge-if it comes to that-will care. The last time we were in court the judge had a smirk on her face most of the time, these guys simply don't care.

And I have that other nonsense I have to get straightened out. So I have tons of work here and I need all the help I can get. I'm not a believer anymore-former Catholic-but I'm at least mildly superstitious, what the heck, couldn't hurt, right?

Last thing, I spoke too soon, as I was driving down to the house, well off the island, guess who drove by in the opposite direction? I hope this isn't a regular occurrence. And at least she didn't turn around and follow me!

[CarolD]

All this legal stuff does require a lawyer...as you know.

I hope to soon see a post by you
not mentioning your ex....in any way.
That might be the start of your new life.

John...prayers for your peace of mind to return.

[ananda]

Hey John....sorry things are so tough! I'll do my version of prayer for you and you can borrow it if you like (just in case it works)

May you and your ex find and follow your spiritual paths; May we walk skillfully through our karma


I have a feeling you'll get through this ok john!

[Signal30]

The most important aspect of all of this drama is that you remain the adult in all of this. Going into a rage is not going to help and will simply satisfy her because she knows shes getting to you. This type of domestic situation can obviously get ugly. In situations like these where the emotions run high the maturity level tends to drop. I've been there.

Pray for those who are spiritually sick, remain the adult and handle all of this as strictly business. I know it's hard but as we say this too shall pass.

Keep praying, and I will pray for all of you.



Tom

[Cathy31]

John I will say a prayer for you now -this is tough. Step up : meetings, sponsor, stepwork, higher power (your choice of), service. You will transcend this if you just trust (your) God , clean house (excuse the pun!) and help others.
Good luck!!!
Cathy31
x

[laurie6781]

John, I too, like Carol hope one day soon to see you post without mentioning your ex. That will happen in HP's time not mine, lol

I understand being an ex Catholic, I left the church at 14 and never returned. I had the opportunity at 9 months sober to attend a one day 'mini retreat' conducted by a member of the fellowship, who also happened to be a Catholic Priest. Father Frank was a GREAT person. I had spoken with him several times after various meetings I had seen him at, however, it was at that 'mini retreat' that I finally had an awakening for me.

We had some one on one time at the lunch break, and we talked about my confusion, and my GREAT DISLIKE of the Catholic Church and its tenets. He told me flat out, to absolutely forget what the Nuns had taught me, or what I believed (perceived) they had taught me, and instead to look around me in meetings. To SEE the miracles happening every day. It was from those miracles that I would find my God or HP.

Now mind you, up until then I was using a Harley Davidson Motorcycle as my HP and although I know it sounds funny now, hey it worked for me then.

Because of that little chat with him, it was like it gave me permission to start 'searching'. Searching for what I wasn't sure, but searching none the less. One of the first books I read, was Emmett Fox's "Sermon On The Mount." It helped me so much. I finally understood that what I had rebelled against were the 'man made laws' that are found in 'organized religion' not God (Great Spirit, Mother Nature, etc) made laws. That gave me a start and the courage to continue my trek, all the time remaining sober.

It is an ongoing journey. For me awareness of my own HP came, when I chose to start researching the "deep dark family secret" that no one talked about................................I am a 'half breed' roflmao. My grandmother was full blooded Lakota Indian, who was raised white, and God forbid anybody talk about it, lmao.

I got with The Elders. First of the Navajo nations, as there were no Lakota here. Then slowly made contact with some Lakota also. The teachings of the Elders have helped me so much.

I tell you this to let you know that your journey will be ongoing to find a HP of YOUR OWN UNDERSTANDING. In the meantime, use your sponsor's or mine or someone else's that you admire.

As to what is going on, yes it's FRUSTRATING. It pisses you off, you sometimes probably want to shake the chit out of someone, but you know that won't happen. So...............instead, you are taking it not only One Day At A Time, but One Step At A Time.

You'll get all the other folks 'stuff' out of there, then you will get the house secure with locking doors and windows and then you will get your things to the house. One step at a time my friend. And while doing this, might I suggest that you get to some meetings, lol and just ask HP any HP for protection and guidance and keep on trudgin.

This is one of those times when we end up trudgin thru alligators up to our azz, but we keep trudgin. And when we get through stuff like this and look back our amazement at what we ourselves have done, keeps us going.

You are getting there John. Use your attorney for as much as possible. Yep take those pictures, that's called CYA, lol

Keep posting, it does get better.

Love and hugs,

[sailorjohn]

Originally Posted by laurie6781

John, I too, like Carol hope one day soon to see you post without mentioning your ex.

It is an ongoing journey. For me awareness of my own HP came, when I chose to start researching the "deep dark family secret" that no one talked about................................I am a 'half breed' roflmao. My grandmother was full blooded Lakota Indian, who was raised white, and God forbid anybody talk about it, lmao.

I got with The Elders. First of the Navajo nations, as there were no Lakota here. Then slowly made contact with some Lakota also. The teachings of the Elders have helped me so much.

Hah! My ex-wife is 1/4 Mohawk.

Mohawks of The Bay of Quinte :: Mohawks of The Bay of Quinte (News)

We won't them again except in passing, everything will work out for the way it's supposed to, it always does.

John

[jimhere]

you mentioned your ex.

[sailorjohn]

Originally Posted by jimhere

you mentioned your ex.

Ex-wife Haven't actually talked to her in at least 1-1/2 months. The other-ha ha- is an **aso, See, didn't even use the word in reference. Try to keep the players straight, will ya?

[tennis71]

I can't add anything beyond what has been said. All I can give is my prayers and support!

[Tazman53]

John you have the prayers, make sure you clear everything through your lawyer, the law is a funny thing and that is why we have snakes to interpret it! LOL

[jimhere]

Originally Posted by sailorjohn

Ex-wife Haven't actually talked to her in at least 1-1/2 months. The other-ha ha- is an **aso, See, didn't even use the word in reference. Try to keep the players straight, will ya?

how many are there?