Healing

[RufusACanal]

With the passing of Elsa's most beloved father a week ago last Thursday, life has become a little more, how can I say, dull. I realize that this is part of the grief process and the light of his life has moved on to fill other realms as he makes his journey. I know that new light from others will once again chase away the dull appearance of things I perceive today and all will progress as it should.

For Elsa and I, the realization that with our parents now gone, we are now completely without their daily touch and loving presence and there is no going back. The lessons each of our parents gave us remain though, the memories of the years together remain and while their bodies have fallen away, their spirits reside in both of us and they but wait for our call to help us in any matter.

Elsa's Father, loved me enough to accept me as his Son, even with the full knowledge of the man I had been before. This man loved me just enough to not constrain me, but to free me from self each time we where together. This was for me, the truest example of the Promises in action. I miss this wonderful man, but I am full of wonder at the freedom of self he shared with me. Mr. Penso was able to reach beyond the broken parts and embrace the best in any person he met. He was not phony. If one of his children had put on weigh, he would tell them in all love that they were fat. What a shock to me this blatant form of conversation, yet so freeing.

Recovery is not a place; not an event. Recovery and the miracle of being recovered is the long journey from that seemingly hopeless malady and this same miracle is a continuing fact borne out among us daily. The Promises come to each of us if we are vigilant and steadfast in the work of changing ourselves. Here is another example of how much God loves us, to take the obsession so we can experience the full range of his gift of a new life.

My Father in Law is on his way. Hopefully, when my time comes I can hug him him again and sit with him as he tells the stories I love so much. Hopefully, I will learn more the lessons of Dignity and Love that this me embodied so well. Goodbye for now to a good man.

[serenityqueen]

Although Mr. Penso was not your Father by blood, it's obvious that he touched your heart dely.

May the memories that you treasure remain in your heart forever.

God Bless & Prayers to you and your wife,
Judy

[CarolD]

Thanks for sharing this wonderful mans life with us.
Extra Hugs to you and Elsa.

[Music]

Originally Posted by RufusACanal

My Father in Law is on his way. Hopefully, when my time comes I can hug him him again and sit with him as he tells the stories I love so much. Hopefully, I will learn more the lessons of Dignity and Love that this me embodied so well. Goodbye for now to a good man.

I believe you will hug him again Ruf. And, as with my own father, and my father in law, my goal is to be as good a man as they were. They both embodied the spirit of unconditional love, which is something I strive for each day, the same way my two fathers, and my Father love me. My two fathers are with my Father which puts them both in a much better place.

[ananda]

You are already hugging him! It helped me alot when my father died to realize we were already together...even if i can't see it right now. We are side by side then, now and later...always.

thanks be for the blessing of being born in a human form and experience this perspective of the world.

[gravity]

Originally Posted by RufusACanal

The lessons each of our parents gave us remain though, the memories of the years together remain and while their bodies have fallen away, their spirits reside in both of us and they but wait for our call to help us in any matter.

I lost my dear father last year but he is with me in spirit. I especially feel his presence when I am struggling or experiencing my greatest joys in life. At these times, my dad's spirit - his strength, honesty, kindness, courage - fills my heart.

Blessings to Elsa and you. Mr. Penso will be in your heart always.

[caraway]

Thanks for this lovely share Rufus. What a wonderful gift your father in law has left behind. Prayers to you and Elsa.

[RufusACanal]

Thank you for your thoughts and prayers. In those quiet moments alone, I am like, damn, who else is there to die? Fact of life, we all die. If I have been vigilant in my relationships, I have gained. We inherit the lessons and memories of those we know and love so that we can better live in this new life.

[Tazman53]

Rufus you are a lucky man to be where you are at today, as is Mr. Penso to have been a part of your life as you know it today, you will both be blessed to see each other again.