My woman found me praying and I felt embarrassed. Why?

[Signal30]

The other day I was in our bedroom and I was on my knees at our bed praying. She opened the door and I acted like she caught in bed with another woman.

Why was I embarrassed? I like praying. I maintain my communication with my higher power, and am so grateful for all the gifts I am blessed with. It's weird.

Pardon me if the following comment is a tad inappropriate but I am more comfortable masturbating in front of her but yet I feel embarrassed that she caught, or should I say found me praying.

What the heck should I feel embarrassed about???

Tom

[RufusACanal]

It's personal Tom. You weren't always comfortable with an audience for your other pleasures, true? I like to be alone when I pray and it just seems natural that you would feel something.... it's all good!

Ron

[Signal30]

Thanks Rufus. I guess I feel bad because I thought I disrespected God by being embarrassed. She simply thought I was acting goofy because I was acting goofy that I was embarrassed if that makes any sense.

Tom

[Rob B]

Thanks for the personal share Tom,
I sneak God from time to time, when I am at my parents house or a situation where it would make the other person uncomfortable. I find myself praying in bathrooms alot as well. I don't apologize for my faith, I just try not to freak other people out, I remember how I would bristle with antagonism when religion was mentioned. I know today the spirital life does not have to include any organized sect, it can and often does, but it doesn't have to, I am somewhere in between these days.

Have you ever prayed with your woman or spent some time meditating or breathing together? This is an experience you don't want to miss, if you are to live, you will need to continue this path, why not incorporate your spiritual practice with your personal relationship? just a consideration for you.

I am incredibly blessed to have a partner to walk the spiritual path with. My fiance is a Christian, has been all her life, I don't know what I am, we learn from each other, We pray together often, talking to God like he was just another guy in our living room. It is very powerful and has brought us closer together and closer to God.

[Signal30]

I will ask her to pray with me. I'm not sure she would feel comfortable doing it, but if she doesent want to I'm not going to get upset. She's Christian and believes in God. You know, now that I think about it, I have never asked her if she does pray. She's always mentioned that she would like to have my son go to church more often (us also). The only reason why we don't go to church is because my son is two. It's hard enough to tame the two year old beast at a restaurant, yet a church.

I'll bring up the topic of prayer later today with her.







Tom

[Tazman53]

Tom I had never thought about getting caught praying!! LOL I would imagine if I was "caught" I would be quite surprised and maybe a bit embarassed, kind of like getting caught with ones pants down.

When I pray it is a humbling experience, it is my time with my creator and I try to insure that it is just the 2 of us when I pray, I also try to make sure that when I have my pants down it is "My Time", to have that disturbed can give one an uncomfortable feeling.

I like what Rob shared, we have on occasion prayed as a family and my wife and I as a couple, I would imagine that we as a couple or family would be disturbed (not mad) if someone walked in while we were in prayer.

Tom it is all good, I am sure you have already been forgiven for experienceing human emotions already!!! LOL

[justanothrdrunk]

Originally Posted by Signal30

What the heck should I feel embarrassed about???

Tom

The only thing I can think of would be referring to your significant other as, "my woman."

[RufusACanal]

I personally felt the love regarded the "my woman"; like an extremely cool Motown song....

"Myyyyyyyyyyy Womannnnnnnnn, Yahhhhhhhhhh

[bballdad]

Tom,you bring up a excellent topic or point.Wanna make a alcoholic nervous?Stick them up in front to others and tell them to lead a prayer before a covered dish supper at a meeting and ask them to return thanks.....past experience here...My wife and I say a small but sincere prayer before we eat,most times,sometimes we just don`t.
Thats a great place for the family to set a good example before the smaller ones,and be a family.Little bedtime prayers are great to teach children to pray.The dinner table and bedside is a great place to start at home..with the family..anyone want a starting point?

In AA we always pray twice at every meeting with other alcoholics,are not our families at least that important?

[psyk0]

Tom I know what you mean, I got "caught" once praying in the shower when my girlfriend walked in the bathroom.
It was like: "are you ok? what are you doing??"
"Uhm.... praying..."
She thought I had fallen down and hurt myself or something

[Tryin2Recover]

thanks alot for sharing this experience. Im pretty new to the program and very new to faith and spirituality, and while I havent been intimate or with a female since seeking recovery I have often wondered how I will pray and keep it in my life if i am sleeping with someone, because the most times i pray are before bed and right when waking up, and i am usually alone and it is a personal experience. I would probably feel emberrased or whatever if i was caught also, glad to know im not alone.

[barb dwyer]

LOL!

I read this topic & post and my first thought was that you were in the bathroom.


bball dad - I'll take that bet.
About the making an alcoholic nervous.
I grew up around prayer like that.

I'm grateful for a cultural background that group prayer was common.

I have a speaker tape ... Shawn A. from Canada -

Said he learned to pray in the bathroom.
Said he locked the door to pray.
Locking the door on his family.
But he left the door open ... when using the bathroom.

It was interesting how he put that.

Made me think about it.
Since prayer was such an open thing in my growing up.

I've been fascinated how prayer has been such an issue for so many I've met in AA.

[best]

Originally Posted by RufusACanal

It's personal Tom.

Yes

But...

You can use it to open up your marriage even more.
Lead her in family prayer. A good place to start... ask her if she will sit with you as you pray and use that prayer time as a time to thank God for such a wonderful woman that He provided for you in life.
Prayer between two opens the door of communication both vertically as well as horizontally.
As the man of the house...we are to be the leaders...Spiritual leaders. Not as someone who rules but as someone who leads by example and guidance.

So why did you feel as you do?
Why do we get red faced when we are told to talk before a crowded room for the first time?
It is new and we need break the ice as we learn we can do this. The more we do it, the more comfortable it feels.

[Tazman53]

tryin2recover I know of plenty of people who pray in the bathroom, keep in mind that prayer does not have to be out loud, last time I checked when I prayed he heard my thoughts alone. I find myself in silent prayer a lot throughout the course of the day, heck I have silently prayed during meetings at work more then once.

I also pray alot while driving!!!!

[Ann]

Your thread title caught my eye and I hope you don't mind me posting here.

Prayer saved my life, and continues to save it one prayer at a time. It is personal, intimate and a humbling of myself before God. I too might feel uncomfortable to be "caught" praying by anyone who didn't expect it and walked in. I would also feel uncomfortable intruding on someone else's prayer.

Those close to me know I pray, respect that and even share it sometimes. Knowing this is part of my recovery and my spiritual connection and would no longer be surprised to find me praying at night or in the morning when it is part of my "routine" to keep myself spiritually fit.

I think talking about it would ease the embarrassment or discomfort on either side.

Just the thoughts of a codie whose prayers have seen her through some pretty dark days, and days filled with light also.

Hugs

[bballdad]

on the light side of prayer,Jim W from Texas used to say he was at a meeting once and this girl told him how to pray and meditate.He ran home,went to the bedroom,locked the door,got on his knees,and flung the window open in case a angel wanted to come in,and .......