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Tommyh · 05-09-2008, 01:50 PM

a alcoholic was asked by his sponsor, how would you rate your relationship with yourself; from 1-10?

Simple question or is it. What would my rating of my relationship with family be?with God? How about myself?How about those online here at SR?And why the differences. After all at one time I was a ten with alcohol...untill it went to a one..

But I’m curious what would you rate your relationships..with self, family and your Higher Power? And what are you doing to improve the numbers, just for today? Care to share?

tks
Tommy(who is still thinking)

RufusACanal · 05-09-2008, 02:04 PM

Goooooood post, I am still thinking too! :0

Barto · 05-09-2008, 04:06 PM

Hmm. I’m thinking too. I’d say it varies from day to day, but I can see what I look like now. LOL.

JustOneMan · 05-09-2008, 07:16 PM

Wow, great stuff,

I've recently been listining to some AA recordings and the speakers talk about how we (as alcoholics) have a tendency to judge ourselves on our intension's, when the world judges us on our actions.

Taking this a bit further, the speaker encourages us to examine our own actions as a way to discover what we really value.

For example, I would venture to guess that if one were to ask most folks that are trying to work the 12 steps, "How important is your relationship with God?", most would probably answer: "very important".

The next question is, "How much time do you devote to this relationship?".

One hour a week, in church? One hour a day in meditation?

This, of course, can be applied to all of our relationships. Those with Family, Friends, and yes, ourselves.

How much time do we devote to cultivating our our relationship with ourselves?

Wow, this is a really good question.

b-dad, you have outdone yourself.

You have asked a question that simply cannot be answered glibly, or quickly, or shallowly.

I'm thinkin I've got some serious thinkin to do.

JOM

CAPTAINZING2000 · 05-09-2008, 08:21 PM

I like myself well enough to not intoxicate it every day now!

Tommyh · 05-09-2008, 09:05 PM

well,I`m still thinking...maybe by in the morning I`ll have a answer...

I would really like to take credit for this topic,but a oldtimer friend of mine posed it to me today..so,I just borrowed a little bit of it hoping for a discussion here.I love this guys topics.They make me think and search.They wake me up!

**CarolD** · 05-10-2008, 04:02 AM

My recovery allows me to be a 10 with God
and myself..
an 8 with family and friends.

This requires a daily committment to God and living our AA Steps.

Zanthos · 05-12-2008, 04:03 PM

7

phunky rich · 05-12-2008, 06:27 PM

hmmm...

I find my ego gets in the way of my relationship with all the above ( sponsor, others, GOD!)...helps me realize yet again how important steps 10,11, and 12 are in my everyday life.

good thread.

NOMOMERLOTMAMMA · 05-12-2008, 06:38 PM

I shoot for a 10 in all relationships..probably reach a 7 on a good day, but I just keep trying to reach that 10!

Signal30 · 05-12-2008, 09:06 PM

I just do my best to do my best. If I feel like I'm not doing my best at being a good father, son, friend, sponsor, sponsee, and just generally a good person, then I'm getting lazy, selfish, and falling into old failing ways.

God knows when I get lazy and usually my sponsor does also. My sponsor will call me on my BS and help me get back on track. Over all I believe God gave me the sponsor and situations that make me face the times when I'm getting lazy, letting me know God helps me out.

All these people in the world, and Gos still has time to watch out for me. Ain't life great?!?

Tom

Tazman53 · 05-13-2008, 03:57 AM

Wow this is a good question that makes me think...... something I should probably ask myself every day. Things like this make me glad that we strive for progress and not perfection, I vary from a 5 to an 8 on all counts most of the time, a 10 I strive for and there have been a few very brief moments where I felt myself hit a 10 with my connection with my HP, moments that I can count on one hand, moments I will never forget.

This is a great question I should ask myself daily.

05-09-2008, 01:50 PM	#1 (permalink)
Tommyh Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: N.C. Posts: 18,391	how would you rate?? a alcoholic was asked by his sponsor, how would you rate your relationship with yourself; from 1-10? Simple question or is it. What would my rating of my relationship with family be?with God? How about myself?How about those online here at SR?And why the differences. After all at one time I was a ten with alcohol...untill it went to a one.. But I’m curious what would you rate your relationships..with self, family and your Higher Power? And what are you doing to improve the numbers, just for today? Care to share? tks Tommy(who is still thinking)

05-09-2008, 02:04 PM	#2 (permalink)
RufusACanal Member Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Birmingham, AL Posts: 1,927	Goooooood post, I am still thinking too! :0 __________________ "It is what you learn after you know it all that counts." John Wooden Excerpts from Original Manuscript of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous

05-09-2008, 08:21 PM	#5 (permalink)
CAPTAINZING2000 Psalm 118:24 Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: ILLINOIS Posts: 9,445 Blog Entries: 1	I like myself well enough to not intoxicate it every day now! __________________ LIFE IS GOD'S GIFT TO YOU WHAT YOU DO WITH YOUR LIFE IS YOUR GIFT TO GOD J - Jesus first O - Others next Y - Yourself last John 14:6

05-10-2008, 04:02 AM	#7 (permalink)
CarolD Forum Leader Join Date: Jun 2002 Location: Serene In Dixie Posts: 34,835	My recovery allows me to be a 10 with God and myself.. an 8 with family and friends. This requires a daily committment to God and living our AA Steps. __________________ Each Day Sober Is A Victory!! Joy In AA Recovery!

05-12-2008, 06:38 PM	#10 (permalink)
NOMOMERLOTMAMMA No more merlot, more mamma Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: Hills, Ct Posts: 2,131 Blog Entries: 36	I shoot for a 10 in all relationships..probably reach a 7 on a good day, but I just keep trying to reach that 10! __________________ But I always think that the best way to know God is to love many things. ~Vincent van Gogh

05-09-2008, 04:06 PM	#3 (permalink)
Barto Member Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Righthere, Rightnow Posts: 1,497	Hmm. I’m thinking too. I’d say it varies from day to day, but I can see what I look like now. LOL.

05-09-2008, 07:16 PM	#4 (permalink)
JustOneMan Guest Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Merry New England Posts: 49	Wow, great stuff, I've recently been listining to some AA recordings and the speakers talk about how we (as alcoholics) have a tendency to judge ourselves on our intension's, when the world judges us on our actions. Taking this a bit further, the speaker encourages us to examine our own actions as a way to discover what we really value. For example, I would venture to guess that if one were to ask most folks that are trying to work the 12 steps, "How important is your relationship with God?", most would probably answer: "very important". The next question is, "How much time do you devote to this relationship?". One hour a week, in church? One hour a day in meditation? This, of course, can be applied to all of our relationships. Those with Family, Friends, and yes, ourselves. How much time do we devote to cultivating our our relationship with ourselves? Wow, this is a really good question. b-dad, you have outdone yourself. You have asked a question that simply cannot be answered glibly, or quickly, or shallowly. I'm thinkin I've got some serious thinkin to do. JOM

05-09-2008, 09:05 PM	#6 (permalink)
Tommyh Member Join Date: Mar 2003 Location: N.C. Posts: 18,391	well,I`m still thinking...maybe by in the morning I`ll have a answer... I would really like to take credit for this topic,but a oldtimer friend of mine posed it to me today..so,I just borrowed a little bit of it hoping for a discussion here.I love this guys topics.They make me think and search.They wake me up!

05-12-2008, 04:03 PM	#8 (permalink)
Zanthos Member Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: Scottsdale, AZ Posts: 231	7

05-12-2008, 06:27 PM	#9 (permalink)
phunky rich Member Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: West Palm Beach, FL Posts: 20	hmmm... I find my ego gets in the way of my relationship with all the above ( sponsor, others, GOD!)...helps me realize yet again how important steps 10,11, and 12 are in my everyday life. good thread.

05-12-2008, 09:06 PM	#11 (permalink)
Signal30 Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 983	I just do my best to do my best. If I feel like I'm not doing my best at being a good father, son, friend, sponsor, sponsee, and just generally a good person, then I'm getting lazy, selfish, and falling into old failing ways. God knows when I get lazy and usually my sponsor does also. My sponsor will call me on my BS and help me get back on track. Over all I believe God gave me the sponsor and situations that make me face the times when I'm getting lazy, letting me know God helps me out. All these people in the world, and Gos still has time to watch out for me. Ain't life great?!? Tom

05-13-2008, 03:57 AM	#12 (permalink)
Tazman53 Follow Directions! Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Fredericksburg, Va. Posts: 9,745	Wow this is a good question that makes me think...... something I should probably ask myself every day. Things like this make me glad that we strive for progress and not perfection, I vary from a 5 to an 8 on all counts most of the time, a 10 I strive for and there have been a few very brief moments where I felt myself hit a 10 with my connection with my HP, moments that I can count on one hand, moments I will never forget. This is a great question I should ask myself daily. __________________ All BB quotes are from the First Edition of the BB Follow directions! Sobriety date 18 Sept. 2006 Sober today thanks to AA

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