resentments

[tkdan]

I've been working on my forth step. I'm starting to realize that I have been carrying around a lot of resentments. It was really a shock to me I thought I was pretty good about letting things go but I guess I'm not. The more I look at it the more I realize the control resentment has over me. It is amazing how much one can discover about there self when they take an honest look within.

[Barto]

Yeah, it’s amazing what we learn about ourselves once we really get honest and fill out that all so important fourth column. Good deal!

And just think, “The Promises” are said to happen somewhere during Step Nine (which was my experience).

[CarolD]

It is amazing how much one can discover about there self when they take an honest look within.

That is exactly what Step 4 is about.

Forward we go...side by side

[sugErspun]

I always thought my 4th step would be very short (maybe 10 pages or so). It is well over 100.

So much for the resentment, fear etc that I thought I had already 'dealt' with.


Keep writing Dan.

[barb dwyer]

keep at it dan - when it's done - you'll know it.

[barb dwyer]

well. I wonder if we're EVER 'done' but ... you know what I mean.

[Tazman53]

Dan doing an honest 4th step was an eye opener for me, the 4th is the real beginning of a new person, one can not begin to build something new until they know all of the material they have on hand and what condition the material is in!

When I did my 4th I found that I had an awful lot of rotten lumber I was dealing with... resentments which I had to get rid of or my future home was going to have weak spots in it. I had quite a few knot holes....fears as well, these had to be dealt with, I had defects of character which also had to be dealt with, some discarded, others modified for the new home I was building.

The 4th was for me to learn all the good, the bad, and the ugly about me, the 5th was the beginning of the construction project, I discussed this all with my HP and my sponsor, laying it all out there, removing every single bit of power that old secrets had held over me. The 4th and 5th steps were the real beginning of building a new me, of course the project will never be finished, but I was starting out with a solid foundation and as long as I kept the foundation solid the rest of the construction would be stable.