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Our dear Rusty posted this on another site - and wanted to share it with you all What Happened? That question is being asked by a lot of alcoholics lately. What happened to our high success rate? 30 & 40 years ago, we were keeping 75% or more of the alcoholics who came to us for help. Today, we aren’t keeping even 5%. What happened? What happened to that wonderful A.A. Group that was around for 20, 30 or 40 years? There used to be 50, 75, 100 or more at every meeting. It is now a matter of history; gone! More and more groups are folding every day. What happened? We hear a lot of ideas, opinions and excuses as to what happened but things are not improving. They continue to get worse. What is happening? Bill W. wrote, “In the years ahead A.A. will, of course, make mistakes. Experience has taught us that we need have no fear of doing this, providing that we always remain willing to admit our faults and to correct them promptly. Our growth as individuals has depended upon this healthy process of trial and error. So will our growth as a fellowship. Let us always remember that any society of men and women that cannot freely correct its own faults must surely fall into decay if not into collapse. Such is the universal penalty for the failure to go on growing. Just as each A.A. must continue to take his moral inventory and act upon it, so must our whole Society if we are to survive and if we are to serve usefully and well.” (A.A. Comes of Age, pg 231) With so very few finding lasting sobriety and the continued demise of AA groups, it is obvious that we have not remained willing to admit our faults and to correct them promptly. Seems to me that the Delegate of the Northeast Ohio Area, Bob Bacon, identified our mistakes and our faults when he alked to a group of AA’s in 1976. He said, in essence, we are no longer showing the newcomer that we have a solution for alcoholism. We are not telling them about the Big Book and how very important that Book is to our long term sobriety. We are not telling them about our Traditions and how very important they are to the individual groups and to Alcoholics Anonymous as a whole. Rather, we are using our meeting time for drunkalogs, a discussion of our problems, ideas and opinions or “my day” or “my way”. Having been around for a few years, and reflecting on what Bob Bacon had to say, it would appear that we have permitted newcomers to convince the old-timers that they had a better idea. They had just spent 30 or more days in a treatment facility where they had been impressed with the need to talk about their problems in Group Therapy Sessions. They had been told that it didn’t make any difference what their real problem was; A.A. had the “best program”. They were told that they should go to an A.A. meeting every day for the 1st 90 days out of treatment. They were told that they shouldn’t make any major decisions for the 1st year of their sobriety. And what they were told goes on and on, most of which are contrary to the Program of Alcoholics Anonymous! Apparently, what they were told sounded pretty good to the A.A. members who were here when the TC clients started showing up at our meetings. And a lot of the A.A. members liked the idea of the treatment centers because the centers provided a place where they could drop off a serious drinker, if he/she had insurance. That eliminated some of the inconveniences we had been plagued with before; having to pour orange juice and honey or a shot of booze down a vibrating alky to help them “de-tox”. When A.A. was very successful, the folks who did the talking in meetings were recovered alcoholics. The suffering and untreated alcoholics listened. After hearing what it takes to recover, the newcomer was faced with a decision; “Are you going to take the Steps and recover or are you going to get back out there and finish the job?” If they said they “were willing to go to any length”, they were given a sponsor, a Big Book and began the process of recovery by taking the Steps and experiencing the Promises that result from that course of action. This process kept the newcomer involved in working with others and continued the growth of our Fellowship. Our growth rate was approximately 7% and the number of sober members of Alcoholics Anonymous doubled every 10 years. With the advent of the rapid growth of the Treatment Industry, the acceptance of our success with alcoholics by the judicial system and endorsement of physicians, psychiatrist, psychologist, etc. all kinds of people were pouring into A.A. at a rate greater than we had ever dreamed possible. Almost without realizing what was happening, our meetings began changing from ones that focused on recovery from alcoholism to “discussion or participation” types of meetings that invited everyone to talk about whatever was on their mind. The meetings evolved from a program of spiritual development to the group therapy type of meeting where we heard more and more about “our problems” and less and less about the Program of Recovery by the Big Book and the preservation of our Fellowship by adhering to our Traditions. What has been the result of all this? Well, never have we had so many coming to us for help. But never have we had such a slow growth rate which has now started to decline. For the first time in our history, Alcoholics Anonymous is losing members faster than they are coming in and our success rate is unbelievably low. (Statistics from the Inter-Group Office of some major cities indicate less than 5% of those expressing a desire to stop drinking are successful for more than 5 years; a far cry form the 75% reported by Bill W. in the Forward to Second Edition). The change in the content of our meetings is proving to be death-traps for the newcomer and in turn, death-traps for the groups that depend on the “discussion or participation” type meetings. Why is this? The answer is very simple. When meetings were opened so that untreated alcoholics & non-alcoholics were given the opportunity to express their ideas, their opinions, air their problems and tell how they were told to do it where they came from, the confused newcomer became more confused with the diversity of information that was being presented. More and more they were encouraged to “just go to meetings and don’t drink” or worse yet, “go to 90 meetings in 90 days”. The newcomer no longer was told to take the Steps or get back out there and finish the job. In fact, they are often told, “Don’t rush into taking the Steps. Take your time.” The alcoholics who participated in the writing of the Big Book didn’t wait. They took the Steps in the first few days following their last drink Thank God, there are those in our Fellowship, like Joe & Charlie, Wally, etc., who have recognized the problem and have started doing something about it. They are placing the focus back on the Big Book. There have always been a few groups that would not yield to the group therapy trend. They stayed firm to their commitment to try to carry a single message to the suffering alcoholic. That is to tell the newcomer that “we have had a spiritual awakening as the result of these Steps and if you want to recover, we will see that you have a sponsor who has recovered and will lead you along the path the 1st 100 laid down for us”. Thank God / Higher Power. Recovered alcoholics have begun founding groups that have a single purpose and inform the newcomer that until they have taken the steps and recovered, they will not be permitted to say anything in meetings. They will listen to recovered alcoholics, they will take the Steps, they will recover and then they will try to pass their experience and knowledge on to the ones who are seeking the kind of help we provide in Alcoholics Anonymous. As this movement spreads, as it is beginning to, Alcoholics Anonymous will again be very successful in doing the one thing God intended for us to do and that is to help the suffering alcoholic recover, if he has decided he wants what we have and is willing to go to any length to recover, to take and apply our Twelve Steps to our lives and protect our Fellowship by honoring our Twelve Traditions. There is a tendency to want to place the blame for our predicament on the treatment industry and professionals. They do what they do and it has nothing to do with what we in Alcoholics Anonymous do. That is their business. That is not where to place the blame and also is in violation of our Tenth Tradition The real problem is that the members of Alcoholics Anonymous, who were here when the “clients” began coming to our Fellowship did not help the “clients” understand that our Program had been firmly established since April 1939. And that the guidelines for the preservation and growth of our Fellowship were adopted in 1950. That they must get rid of their new “old ideas” and start practicing the Twelve Step Program of Alcoholics Anonymous as it was given to us. That until they had taken the Steps and recovered, they had nothing to say that needed to be heard except by their sponsor. But that didn’t happen. To the contrary, the old timers failed in their responsibility to the newcomer to remind them of a vital truth, “Rarely have we seen a person fail who has thoroughly followed our path. Those who do not recover are people who cannot or will not completely give themselves to this simple program.” We have permitted untreated alcoholics and non-alcoholics to sit in our meetings and lay out their problems, ideas and opinions. We have gone from, “Rarely have we seen a person fail” to “Seldom do we see a person recover”. So there we are. We have had 30 years of unbelievable success by following the directions in the Big Book. We have had 30 years of disappointing failure by wanting to hear from everyone. We now have something to compare. We now know what the problem is and we know what the solution is. Unfortunately, we have not been prompt to correct the faults and mistakes which have been created by what would appear to be large doses of apathy and complacency. The problem we are trying to live with is needlessly killing alcoholics. The Solution? The Power, greater than ourselves, that we find through our Twelve Steps promises recovery for those who are willing to follow the clear-cut directions in the Big Book. Do you want to be a part of the problem or a part of the solution? Simple, but not easy; A price has to be paid. Cliff B.
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GSO has suggested groups to do a group inventory. Here is the cheklist that was posted in the Grapevine that has been suggestedd to use as a guide: Traditions Checklist From the A.A. Grapevine These questions were originally published in the A.A. Grapevine in conjunction with a series on the Twelve Traditions that began in November 1969 and ran through September 1971. While they were organically intended primarily for individual use, many AA groups have since used them as a basis for wider discussion. [b]Practice these Principles….[/B] Tradition One: Our common welfare should come first: Our common welfare should come first; personal recovery depends on AA unity. 1. Am I in my group a healing mending, integrating person, or am I divisive? What about gossip and talking other members’ inventories? 2. Am I a peacemaker? Or do I, with pious preludes such as “just for the sake of discussion,” plunge into an argument? 3. Am I gentle with those who rub me the wrong way, or am I abrasive? 4. Do I make competitive AA remarks, such as comparing one group with another or contrasting AA in one place with AA in another? 5. Do I put down some AA activities as if I were superior for not participating in this or that aspect of AA? 6. Am I informed about AA as a whole? Do I support, in every way I can, AA as a whole, or just the parts I understand and approve of? 7. Am I as considerate of AA members as I want them to be of me? 8. Do I spout platitudes about love while indulging in and secretly justifying behavior that bristles with hostility? 9. Do I go to enough AA meetings or read enough AA literature to really stay in touch? 10. Do I share with AA all of me, the bad and the good, accepting as well as giving the help of fellowship? Tradition Two: For our group purpose there is but one ultimate authority – a loving God as He may express Himself in our group conscience. Our leaders are but trusted servants; they do not govern. 1. Do I criticize or do I trust and support my group officers, AA committees, and office workers? Mew comers? Old timers? 2. Am I absolutely trustworthy, even in secret, with AA Twelfth Step jobs other AA responsibility? 3. Do I look for credit in my AA jobs? Praise fro my AA ideas? 4. Do I have to save face in group discussion, or can I yield in good spirit to the group conscience and work cheerfully along with it? 5. Although I have been sober for a few years, am I still willing to serve my turn at AA chores? 6. In group discussions, do I sound off about matters on which I have no experience and little knowledge? Tradition Three: The only requirement for AA membership is a desire to stop drinking. 1. In my mind, do I prejudge some new AA members as losers? 2. Is there some kind of alcoholic whom I privately do not want in my AA group? 3. Do I set myself up as judge of whether a newcomer is sincere or phony? 4. Do I let language, religion (or lack of it), race, education, age, or other such things interfere with my carrying the message? 5. Am I over impressed by a celebrity? By a doctor, a clergyman, an ex-convict? Or can I just treat this new member and simply and naturally as one more sick human, like the rest of us? 6. When someone turns up at AA needing information or help (even if he can’t ask for it aloud), does it really matter to me what he does for a living? Where he lives? What his domestic arrangements are? Whether he had been to AA before? What his others problems are? Tradition Four: Each group should be autonomous except in matters affecting other groups or AA as a whole. 1. Do I insist that there are only a few right ways of doing things in AA? 2. Does my group always consider the welfare of the rest of AA? Or nearby groups? Of loners in Alaska? Of Internationalists miles from port? Or of a group in Rome or El Salvador? 3. Do I put down other members’ behavior when it is different from mine, or do I learn from it? 4. Do I always bear in mind that, to those outsiders who know I am in AA, I may to some extent represent our entire beloved Fellowship? 5. Am I wiling to help a newcomer go to any lengths – his lengths, not mine - to stay sober? 6. Do I share my knowledge of AA tools with other members who may not have heard of them? Tradition Five: Each group has but one primary purpose – to carry its message to the alcoholic who still suffers. 1. Do I ever cop out by saying, “I’m not a group, so this or that Tradition doesn’t apply to me’”? 2. Am I willing to explain firmly to a newcomer the limitations of AA help, even if he gets mad at me for not giving him a loan? 3. Have I today imposed on any AA member for a special favor or consideration simply because I am a fellow alcoholic? 4. Am I willing to twelfth step the next newcomer without regard to who or what is in it for me? 5. Do I help my group in every way I can to fulfill our primary purpose? 6. Do I remember that AA old-timers, too, can be alcoholics who still suffer? Do I try both to help them and to learn from them? Tradition Six: An AA group ought never endorse, finance or lend the AA name to any related facility or outside enterprise, lest problems of money, property, and prestige divert us from our primary purpose. 1. Should my fellow group members and I go out and raise money to endow several AA beds in our local hospital? 2. is it good for a group to lease a small building? 3. Are all the officers and members of our local club for AAs familiar with “Guidelines on Clubs” (which is available from GSO)? 4. Should the secretary of our group serve on the mayor’s advisory committee on alcoholism? 5. Some alcoholics will stay around AA only if we have a TV and a card room. If this is what is required to carry the message to them, should we have these facilities? Tradition Seven: Every AA group ought to be fully self supporting, declining outside contributions. 1. honestly now, do I do all I can to help AA (my group, my central office, my GSO) remain self supporting? Could I put a little more into the basket on behalf of the new guy who can’t afford it yet? How generous was I when tanked in a barroom? 2. Should the AA Grapevine sell advertising space to book publishers and drug companies, so it could make a big profit and become a bigger magazine, in full color, at a cheaper price per copy? 3. If GSO runs short of funds some year, wouldn’t it be okay to let the government subsidize AA groups in hospitals and prisons? 4. Is it more important to get a big AA collection from a few people, or a smaller collection in which more members participate? 5. Is a group treasurer’s report unimportant AA business? How does the treasurer feel about it? 6. How important in my recovery is the feeling of self-respect, rather than the feeling of being always under no obligation for charity received? Tradition Eight: Alcoholics Anonymous should remain forever nonprofessional, but out service centers may employ special workers. 1. Is my own behavior accurately described by the Traditions? If not, what needs changing? 2. When I café about any particular Tradition, do I realize how it affects others? 3. Do I sometimes try to get some reward – even if not money – for my personal AA efforts? 4. Do I try to sound in AA like an expert on alcoholism? On recovery? On medicine? On sociology? On AA itself? On psychology? On Spiritual matters? Or, heaven help me, even on humility? 5. Do I make an effort to understand what AA employees do? What workers in other alcoholism agencies do? Can I distinguish clearly among them? 6. in my own AA life, have I any experiences which illustrate the wisdom of this Tradition? 7. Have I paid enough attention to the book Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions? To the pamphlet AA Tradition – How it developed? Tradition Nine: AA, as such, ought never be organized; but we may creat3e service boards or committees directly responsible to those they serve. 1. Do I still try to boss things in AA? 2. Do I resist formal aspects of AA because I fear them as authoritative? 3. Am I mature enough to understand and use all elements of the AA program – even if no one makes me do so – with a sense of personal responsibility? 4. Do I exercise patience and humility in nay AA job I take? 5. Am I aware of all those to whom I am responsible in any AA job? 6. Why doesn’t every AA group need a constitution and bylaws? 7. Have I learned to step out of an AA job gracefully – and profit thereby – when the time comes? 8. What has rotation to do with anonymity? With humility? Tradition Ten: Alcoholics Anonymous has no opinion on outside issues; hence the AA name ought never to be drawn into public controversy. 1. Do I ever give the impression that there really is an “AA opinion” on Antabuse? Traquilizers? Doctors? Psychiatrists? Churches? Hospitals? Jails? Alcohol? The federal or state government? Legalizing marijuana? Vitamins? Al-Anon? Alateen? 2. Can I honestly share my own personal experience concerning any of those without giving the impression I am stating the “AA opinion”? 3. What in AA history gave rise our Tenth Tradition? 4. Have I had a similar experience in my own AA life? 5. What would AA be without this Tradition? Where would it be? 6. Do I breach this or any of its supporting Traditions in subtle, perhaps, unconscious, ways? 7. How can I manifest the spirit of this Tradition in my personal life outside AA? Inside AA? Tradition Eleven: Our public relations policy is based on attraction rather than promotion; we need always maintain personal anonymity at the level of press, radio, and films. 1. Do I sometimes promote AA so fanatically that I make it seem unattractive? 2. Am I always careful to keep the confidences reposed in me as an AA member? 3. Am I careful about throwing AA names around – even within the fellowship? 4. Am I ashamed of being a recovered, or recovering, alcoholic? 5. What would AA be like if we were not guided by the ideas in Tradition Eleven? Where would I be? 6. Is my sobriety attractive enough that a sick drunk would want such a quality for himself? Tradition Twelve: Anonymity is the spiritual foundation of all our Traditions, ever reminding us to place principles before personalities. 1. Why is it a good idea for me to place the common welfare of all AA members before individual welfare? What would happen to me if AA as a whole disappeared? 2. When I do not trust AA’s current servants, who do I wish had the authority to straighten them out? 3. In my opinions of and remarks about other AAs, am I implying membership requirements other than a desire to stay sober? 4. Do I ever try to get a certain AA group to conform to my standards, not its own? 5. Have I a personal responsibility in helping an AA group fulfill its primary purpose? What is my part? 6. Does my personal behavior reflect the Sixth Tradition – or belie it? 7. Do I do all I can to support AA financially? When is the last time I anonymously gave away a Grapevine Subscription? 8. Do I complain about certain AAs’ behavior – especially if they are paid to work for AA? Who made me so smart? 9. Do I fulfill all AA responsibilities in such a way as to please privately even my own conscious? Really? 10. Do my utterances always reflect the Tenth Tradition, or do I give AA critics real ammunition? 11. Should I keep my AA membership a secret, or reveal it in private conversation when that may help another alcoholic (and therefore me)? Is my brand of AA so attractive that other drunks want it? 12. What is the real importance of me among more than a million AAs? Linked with the permission of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc
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good posts. thank you
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| My home group did one last September. It was an excellent thing for us to do as it brought to light all the things we are doing right as well as things we can improve upon to meet our primary purpose. I would recommend anyone who is a home group member to encourage their group to do the inventory. To me it was like our group as a whole taking the 12 steps. Thanks for the info and post.
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the above article is know by many AA`s as the "Myth Article" Of alcoholics who came A.A. and really tried, 50% got sober at once and remained that way; 25% sobered up after some relapses, and among the remainder, those who stayed on with A.A. showed improvement. Other thousands came to a few meetings and at first decided they didn’t want the program [In the Foreword to Alcoholics Anonymous, 2d ed., p. xx].This comes from the second edition,which is not copyrighted in the USA if I am not mistaken. it plainly states,of those who really tryed,now that is what I am talking about.I have never known anyone who got drunk while taking the steps as they are laid out in our big book.I know a bunch who got drunk while attending meetings and not taking the steps. There is a old grapevine article in the archives where a group kept up with the rates,and they showed a documented 93% success rate.. one problem we have today is people just show up and we never know why.They have many reasons for coming to a meeting.To get a wife/husband back,get the boss/judge off their back.. looking for companionship,sex,victims,etc,you name it Dick B address this in a nice article,which is copyrighted,or I would post it here. here is the link if anyone wants to read it. A.A. Recovery and Success Rates Challenged by Doubters - Christian Recovery Fellowship Forums - Alcohol and Drug Addiction Help/Support
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As I read that, it is stating that the %ages are based on those "who really tired" Notice how it refers to lives vastly improved. I did all the program stuff as outlined in the book to the very best of my abilities (sponsor, mtgs, steps, bb, etc.) and did get drunk the first time during that period. I am NOT constitutionally incable of being honest with my self. AA works, I believe it is the answer, but I can't pretend like I didn't have that experience. |
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Well.... I don't pay attention to the stats. I'd rather be helping those interested in moving forward. ...That's the way I keep mine at 100%Forward we go...side by side
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I believe there is a big difference between how they did the program in the pioneer days and today.The time frame difference is what i am referring too.
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I've been to countless meetings of all sorts and I've never seen a survey or heard of any collection of numbers of any sort. I've asked around and nobody ever recollects any kind of number gathering of any kind. I call shenanigans on their numbers. |
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Cuda there was a survey done in 2004, you can find the results on the AA website, I have no idea who was surveyed except it was a mix of Canadian and American groups. Stats....... well if you throw out all of the court ordered folks and the people that only come to 5 meetings or less the stats would at least double what ever they are. Then if you throw out all of the folks that do not ever get a sponsor and work the steps with them they go up even higher. What I do know is that AA has been 100% successful for my sponsee, sponsor, and I, who have all worked the steps with a sponsor. Are there those that do get a sponsor and work the steps and still relapse? You bet, but every person I know personally who has done that when they came back in said they did some if not all of the following: 1. Quit going to meetings. 2. Quit calliing thier sponsors. 3. Quit doing service work. 4. Lost their consciece contact with thier HP. 5. Quit living the steps to the best of thier ability. I am not saying my working another program might not work for me, it might..... but I have found that AA works for me so I will stick with it. BTW thanks for the inventory.
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