you`ve helped your sponsee in the steps

[bballdad]

you`ve helped your sponsee in the steps,now what do you do?

this thought came from several good threads we have been discussing lately...pls feel free to share your experience or thoughts here...tks
Tommy

[Sugah]

I still help the women I've sponsored in their maintenance, and the cool thing is that now, they very often are helping me in the same.

Peace & Love,
Sugah

[Rob B]

you`ve helped your sponsee in the steps,now what do you do?

I get them to God, God does the rest. Some of them become very good friends and become part of my accountability group. Other's fade into the distance, doing whatever it is they feel compelled to do. Me, I keep looking for the newcomer that is hopeless, offering a message of hope, a solution. This is my responsibility, this is where the good stuff happens.

[nandm]

Originally Posted by bballdad

you`ve helped your sponsee in the steps,now what do you do?

this thought came from several good threads we have been discussing lately...pls feel free to share your experience or thoughts here...tks
Tommy

I teach them what I was taught, how to work the Steps and Principles in every aspect of their lives. I have found that no matter what difficulty I am facing in my day when I work the steps around them I find a solution. Even if that solution is to let it go and leave it to my HP. There have been times though that I have needed to call my sponsor to get the reminder that I need to apply this to the problem. She is there to remind me to work the Steps by having me ask myself "am I powerless over xyz, is xyz creating unmanageability in my life? Do I believe that my HP can restore my sanity around this issue? Make a decision to turn xyz over to my HP," and so on through the Steps. Today, my sponsor has become more of trusted friend whom I can rely on to give me those reminders when I need them.

[jimhere]

My goal is to get them free of me as soon as possible. To get them sponsoring others. I am primarily a step sponsor, although that doesn't mean that I am not available if some one has questions about amends, prayer, etc.

My experiences are similiar to Rob's. Some I become good friends with, others I see in passing, and some I haven't seen in years.
Jim

[SaTiT]

I don't do a damn thing for them.
They don't wash my car..i don't mow thier yard.

Maybe give them rides to meetings. Maybe spend $10 on a book
and note book. This way they don't have anymore excuses.

Maybe take them out to dinner after we mop and clean
the meeting's room. Showing them what it's like to hold
a posistion.lol
Maybe spend extra time with them as a freind.

Pull a page of a book out of my butt and ask them to read it.
Meaning i have to go home and read it myself incase they call
or actaully reads it :rof
Pull a time and date out of my butt and ask them to call me.
Ask them to write a gradtitude list.

if they can't or are not willing to do that..oh will.
Depending if they hang around...maybe take them to
a convention and stuff like that.

no god stuff..that's between them and god.

Mostly just listen when they whine.lol
Don't even give them advice or give them answers to their own problems.
How the hell should i know what chicks they should date ? :rof

pretty much the sameway my sponsor showed how to do it.

[REZ]

I don't really get it. In my mind, you keep on working the steps over and over. Thus, anyone in AA can use help in working the steps, whether they have 10 days or 10 years.

[nandm]

Originally Posted by REZ

I don't really get it. In my mind, you keep on working the steps over and over. Thus, anyone in AA can use help in working the steps, whether they have 10 days or 10 years.

That is what I was taught. I do think though that after a period of time, we become more independent with working those Steps and find our becomes more of a trusted friend as we grow. This allows us to be independent enough to pass on what we were taught. Allowing the circle of help to continue.

[nandm]

Woops my edit key doesn't work
I left out the word sponsor
"and find our SPONSOR becomes more of a trusted friend as we grow"

[bballdad]

I love it when they sponser others..
One thing I like to do is try and get them involved in some kind of service work,and I am usually there too.That seems to bring on tradition discussions and concept discussions and how AA works in some service areas..They usually keep me learning as well.I like to keep talking with my sponser too,he has a lot to pass on,and it is good AA stuff.He is sober 48 yrs and 87 yrs old..he`s slow,but dog gone good!

the steps are essential,and then they are so many other areas of AA we can get involved in that leads to futher growth..but if they balk at the steps,they shortchange their selves of so much other good stuff.I try and get them in the "other stuff,the service stuff" whenever possible